Its not that I am a prude or anything, but I am not huge on biting, choking, or bondage and that really seems to be what he is into. I want him to tone it down a notch, and maybe slowly work up to that. How do I mention this to him with out hurting his feelings or making him feel like he is some kinda freak?
2006-10-20 18:29:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you never done that kinda thing n you are not comfortable doing it. Try to compromise, cuz this is obviously a turn on. Try something that doesn't seem so bizarre
2006-10-20 18:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is actually hurting you you should just be straight forward and tell him to stop. If it is like you said to "tone it down" then he wouldn't be hurt by saying it to him that way especially if you want to work with him on it. If the other areas of the relationship are open for talking about things then this will be also.
2006-10-20 23:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you would like to try something different. That there's always different things to explore and you take the lead. Tell him it's your turn to seduce him and not to do anything that you want to spoiled him and seduced him. Be with him how you want him to be with you show him the way. Asked him how he liked it afterwords and if he is not interest on what you like than tell him how you feel, how much you like him but you'll want to have some say on what you guys do and how you do it. Tell him you'll try to be a little more freakish if that's what he likes but he needs to try to be a little more romantic. If it doesn't work than move on and look for your match. Remember there's a lot of fish on the sea and you won't starve just do what makes you happy.
2006-10-20 18:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by nancy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be strong and tell him straight .... if he's hurting you or making you feel uncomfortable ... this relationship isn't the right one for you ... if he doesn't respect you enough to listen to you and consider what you enjoy or what gets you off ... then you have to find someone better suited to you otherwise you'll just be miserable and may truely be seriously physically hurt at some stage
2006-10-20 18:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what he is into you need to take the five oclock train out of town. It will just get worse and you could get badly hurt. If he truly loves you he will understand. Whats important here is that you are somebody and a special person...don't give in
2006-10-20 18:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by jryevols5788 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him cold. Renegotiate when he comes crawling back. He will backslide. Apply countermeasures: kick shin, backfist to the nose. Think of him as a dog to be trained by beatings.
2006-10-20 18:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Slake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently tell him and see how he takes it. I wouldn't want to be made to do anything that made me uncomfortable. Did you know that even if a man and woman are married and he insists on having sex, and the wife doesn't want to, it's considered abuse and rape. This goes for any couple, married or not.
2006-10-20 18:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say... Back off buddy... and don't be so rough...
What has he been up to in his past???? Makes you think doesn't it?
He is trying to dominate you... and make you submit.. BDSM
If you like being treated like crap... then stay with him... if you want it to stop... either tell him or kick his butt to the curb
2006-10-20 18:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to trat you like a virgin and work you into it slowly. most guys get turned on by that word anyways.
2006-10-20 18:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him this is the way i am. just be honest and if he cant take that well hes not worth it. read tips on dating and more on this site
2006-10-20 18:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋