Is it because they think ugly women are easier to get in bed?
2006-10-20 18:20:26 · 14 answers · asked by Newcomer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a man and I do not think looks are the most important thing when searching for a girl friend. I am not saying that this does not play a factor but definitely is not the most important to me. The first thing I look for in a girl is, weather or not she is a Born again Christian. The second is if she is a nice person. This is really important it can make or brake a person as far as how you perceive her attitude and in the long run how pretty to you she is. If the girl has the qualities I am looking for then I try to discern weather or not this is someone I would consider marrying. If I chose no it could be for many reasons. It could be because I do not have the same interest or I may not find her physically appealing. I feel that though this quality is not the most important overall it is necessary to have some attraction toward a person you would consider for marriage. If you do not find this person appealing it will be harder to maintain your love and affections toward them. This said I do believe that love is a choice not a feeling and if someone wants to they can love even the ugliest most repulsive person alive. If a woman has the character qualities I like it definitely make them more physically attractive to me because personality is really more important than looks.
On the other hand if I happen to see a girl and there is no conversation between us then I would definitely judge by apperance only.
I also must admit the first thing I notice about girls when I meet them is what there face looks like. For me if the fac is not nice looking the rest of the person is not no matter how incredible there body looks. I have had times that after I got to know the girl that her personality over came her looks and I found myself finding qualities about her apperance I liked that I did not before.
I also believe loks are important to women also. Do yyou think us men would dress the way we do if women did not care how we dress? Look at what men do they buy fuity shirts and pants all in the name of fashion. Who do you think says this looks good on men? Men or Women. It is womem. Guys pick out for the most part what they like women to wear and women for the most part tell men what they like to see them in. Would either of us wear most of the clothes we do if the other sex did not find them alllureing?
2006-10-20 19:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A hot azz is always a great commodity to have! I will admit that I check people out, it isn't about not wanting the whole package it is simply about a respect that I have for eye candy. I don't think a person that I didn't find intellectually challenging, funny or compassionate could be sexually appealing to me, at least not for more than a night or so. Personality is much more important than looks, but I love having the whole package!! Ambition is among my most liked qualities. Ted, Everyday I understand a little bit more, but at least you are able to once again enjoy sleep sex... just lock the dog out! Brown, I agree, there are not too many items more disappointing than a fine man opening his mouth to reveal that him being a mute would have been better to at least leave the false impression of some intelligence.
2016-05-22 07:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're linking 2 different viewpoints and making a connection when there is none.
A woman's look doesn't matter as long as that's not the issue but when a woman makes that the issue when they're dating a guy and then guy doesn't want to offend her, he would say so.
Ugly women might be just as hard to get into bed as good looking ones. I don't think the look has anything to do with it at all.
2006-10-20 18:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To place blame on someone it would have to be women. Women have continually been begging men to be more sensitive and more...well...feminine. The images and stereotypes men see on TV and in daily life show them that women want the sensitive guy and not the horn dog. So women have now trained men to give the "correct" answer to a loaded question. If guys were honest they would say it's the first thing they see and if girls were honest they would do. Women have feminized men so much that it's turning back on them. Men are having to constantly "lie" and give the "correct" answers for fear that women would scoff at them if they told the truth.
Although women who are looking for that type of guy end up going with the biker guy who has no job, 3 failed marriages, and is a wife beater.
2006-10-20 19:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by X M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anyone says that looks don't matter, that's bull. Say for example, you chat with someone on Yahoo, with no picture, but you like the conversation and you get to know one another for a while. But then y'all decide to meet and he's the ugliest thing to walk the earth!!! You're gonna think twice...
And I don't think that's necessarily true. Men think all women are pressed to get into bed, and we're allllll dying for sex. Because like pin up models, a man assumes because they pose for mags, that they're dying for sex, when that's how they make a living.. to provide a fantasy. But honey, looks do count, but shouldn't count a whole hell of a lot. I know fine men with ugly attitudes. And I can't mess with them... And it's not a matter of being ugly, it's a matter of self esteem issues. Some men prey on girls that aren't confident about themselves. calling themselves ugly, and think down about themselves. They're easy targets because the wall is easy to break down. So I think, no, because men will sleep with damn near anyone, they're sexual creatures. and you can't tell me if there was more ugly girls than cute that they would stall out for a cute girl, I think not!!
2006-10-20 18:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...... It actually is not all we look at. We look at personality too! And if he truly does like you and you ask the question all guys hat "How do I look?" or " Do I look fat?" or make a comment like " Im ugly" We look at this a double edged sword! we lost before we even open our mouths! On the 1 hand we do not want to hurt your feelings and get in trouble and on the other hand we dont want to lie and get in trouble.
And by the way.... Ugly women may not be easier to get in to bed but.... They sure do out perform the wicked Hot stuck up ones!
2006-10-20 19:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Scott G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are important to a certain degree. There must be some attraction for it to work. Sometimes as you get to know someone they get more attractive. Sometimes as you get to know them they get less attractive. But if there's no attraction then there won't be a deep long lasting relationship. As men and women get older and more mature they value deeper qualities than looks more. Younger people seem to value looks more. Trust me though, in the long run most men will choose a cool woman who's average looking to a supermodel who's a witch. That's the truth.
2006-10-20 18:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They only say that when they have an agenda. Yes getting someone in bed. I think self-esteem determines whether or not you're easy and not all ugly women think of themselves as ugly. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
2006-10-20 18:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pretty general statement that covers half the world population. Looks are the first line of attraction. If you are ugly on the outside but beautiful on the inside, you need to get yourself into a situation where men can get to know you. If you are ugly inside and out, refer to your first question and stop dating.
2006-10-20 18:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wants to bring an ugly woman to bed?
2006-10-20 18:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by geestrangunit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋