there is this guy that i really like. We been seeing each other for sometime. I really want to tell him that im a virgin but cant because he thinks i did it before and that im very experienced. Yes i had bofriends that i fooled around with in the sex department. the only thing is that im a virgin and havent lost it yet. we are planning on having sex and i really want to do it with him but im really nervous about it. How do i tell him im a virgin when i told him im not. I dont want to hurt him more than i already have. I care about him and he cares about me too. Help i dont want to lose him
2006-10-20 18:18:47 · 15 answers · asked by sue 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
come do me then your lie is fixed
2006-10-20 18:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you told him you weren't a virgin because you were trying to impress him by seeming like you were really experienced. Just tell him the truth. I don't know how telling him you're a virgin would hurt him.
If you don't feel comfortable enough with him to be honest, then you really aren't ready to be having sex with this guy (especially for your first time).
Chances are, you're making a bigger deal of it than it is. I'm sure once you tell him, he'll be fine with it. If not, then he's a jerk and you're better off without him.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 18:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think if you know for sure you want to do it. Having sex is a big step and there can be consequences. Take the time to analyze that and if it is really worth it. Now back to your question I think it is important that you talk to him and you are honest with him. Tell him that really liked him and didn't know what he really wanted to hear but that was before you got to know him better and now you really have feeling for him and that is something very personal and you wanted to share that truth with him. Don't worry he might feel good to know that. A lot of guys feel good about knowing that no body's been so close to you ever as he has.
2006-10-20 18:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by nancy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it before you hit the sack - make it into a joke - it will hurt him bad if you don't tell him and he thinks you are rejecting him when you are actually fumbling from your inexperience -and it will hurt you when he takes you for granted or try to push the pace.Please hold in mind that he may also be equally inexperienced and fumbles and makes an *** of himself in bed. having sex like any action takes a lot of learning and unfortunately the expectation often spoils the fun for more than a couple of times.
2006-10-20 18:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by joey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work out your priority.
If you being 'not' a virgin is the determining factor of him liking and 'caring' for you, then I think you're deluding yourself.
If having sex is the ONLY way not to lose him, then honestly, I don't think he's worth it and you can do better.
2006-10-20 18:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you were concerned what he would think, but now you feel that you should be honest... It's not a big deal really. Just don't start lying to him all the time about small stuff, or he won't trust.
2006-10-20 18:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying to this guy is the same thing as lying to yourself . If he really likes you then he will understand that you made it up to impress him. lying only means you have to commit to telling more lies . Do yourself a favor and be true, besides if he cares about you he will be as gentle as possible
Good look!!
2006-10-20 18:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know..tell him that u kinda lied and u are a virgen, but ur nervous to have sex..if he does like u, he would understand..but look at the bright side..most guys like virgens (it turns them on knowing that no one has touched u)
2006-10-20 18:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG he'll be happy your a virgin! Guys like to get their ego stroked like that.. He'll be thinking wow i'm the only one she has had sex with.
2006-10-20 18:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by travis R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are.
He will understand completely.
Don't worry about it.
You won't hurt him at all.
Plus, guys like knowing that they are with a virgin.
2006-10-20 18:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not tell him. just go on with the flow. he'll be the one to tell you that you are, truly a virgin. but in contrary, how old are you? you are not supposed to be in to "it" right? well, just an advice. good luck! hmm.. have fun?!?! =)
2006-10-20 18:23:06 · answer #11 · answered by Doctor Answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋