Im not allowed to have a free life even oing to the mall i have to take permission for that just to go for 1 hour they just keep on calling until iim back home its so complicated than u expect ... i live in an arab community with a very conservative silly stupid parents... im 28 what to do ...i feel i wanna suicide (if u saw the movie virgin suicide it almost same but even worse) im not allowed to do anything that a normal adult can do ...i want to runaway from home and leave my country how?
2006-10-20 17:55:29 · 14 answers · asked by black cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we are muslims and you know how strict religiuos muslims are .
2006-10-20 18:01:46 · update #1
here in our country girls are not allowed to leave home until they are married ...it means if i didnt get married i will never leave !! god it freaks me out ... not only that i could be killed if i tried to runaway and they catch me .
2006-10-20 18:10:49 · update #2
Your question makes me stop and realize how blessed I am to be living in my country (USA) and thankful to be Christian. I don't know too much about your religion but it sounds as if they view women as property rather than people. That makes me so sad for you. I cannot begin to imagine how it must feel to be afraid for your life just to want to leave your parents' home. That is a natural instinct to want to leave and establish your own home when one is an adult regardless of culture or marital status. Of course you don't want to be treated like a child. You are NOT a child. Suicide is not an option though. I promise you that God will deal much more harshly with you for taking your own life than your parents ever could. Put that thought out of your mind completely. I don't know where you live and I don't know how I can help you leave. I wish I had an answer for you other than this. Please be strong. Find the positive and good things in your life and live for those things. If you would like to write to me I would love to keep in touch with you. My heart aches for you. You are in my prayers.
2006-10-20 19:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know too much about the Arab culture so don't know if this conflicts but it sounds like you should move out on your own or in with a friend. At 28, you should be responsible for your own life. Doesn't mean parents stop worrying and trying to control but if you don't live at home, they won't know when you go to the mall! If you really feel suicidal, talk to someone - a counsellor or psychologist or something - your family Dr. should be able to direct you.
2006-10-20 18:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry Blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your complicated situation. You are obligated to your religion and your parents are very protective of you. At 28 I am surprised you are not married yet whether it be by an arrangment or by love. Being that you are a woman I can see why they are protective of you yet at your age you do need your freedom. Commiting suicide is not the answer. Being Muslim you should know that. Life is given to us by God (Allah) as a gift and not to be taken by our own will. Have you tried talking to your parents? If not try doing so in a respectful mannor. Tell them that you are lucky to have such loving and concerned parents and really appreciate all they do for you but you feel that a woman of your age you could use a little more freedom in making choices. Tell them you will act responsible when out but would like for them to trust you more. Ask if they can not call you so often but that you will check in to them from time to time by making a call to them to let you know you are safe and when you will be home. Good luck. I know getting out of your country is very hard. The only options there really are either to apply for education on a student visa in another country or to be married to a foreigner who will petition you to come to his country. But please if you do that be sure it's for the right reasons such as love and not for visa. Those things have a way of backfiring. Keep it honest both for your sake and your parents.
2006-10-20 18:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Laura R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can Arabs that have reached a certain age leave home? If so just move in with a friend and you'll be free. I really dont know how life goes on over there because Im American. We leave home when we choose to. Its legal to leave home when we're 18. I would help you but I dont know how the system works over there.
2006-10-20 18:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 00:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out your 28 years old what are you doing still living with your family. Get a job and get out. Dont commit suicide just stand up for yourself. Tell them I am an adult and you cant stop me.
2006-10-20 17:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close your eyes and pray then talk to your family. Maybe your family have a lot of fear. Find out what the problem is. And hold on never give up.
2006-10-20 18:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by daylight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is your living under their roof which means they call the shots. You're 28 old enough if you ask me to be independent. You are not forced to live with mommy and daddy, you can move on.
2006-10-20 18:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey, where do you live? Suicide is not the answer, please seek help if you are thinking that, its not worth it. Please be patient, sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side. But if you feel like you need to get away, can you get a job and live on your own? Can you talk with them? Tell your parents you views? If you need to chat, e-mail me if you'd like. I can listen.
2006-10-20 18:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by kyotegrey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should get a job save up money and move. you will be so happy and have the time of your life.there is a lot to live for and a lot more out there then you know
you will be so happy!!!!!
2006-10-20 18:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by Isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋