My 4 year old is still having accidents, how do I get her to use the bathroom like she does at school?

Question

She is only having accidents at home. In school she is fine.

Answer 1

Put up a sticker chart in the bathroom. Everytime she makes it to go to the bathroom without wetting her pants, she can add a sticker to her chart. Positively reinforce the behavior, but don't make a big deal about the accidents. I know sometimes kids can be having so much fun they forget to use the bathroom. Have a reward at the end of the week, it could be something she wants, like a book of stickers, or something none monetary such as 30 minutes playing dolls with mom without interruptions, etc. Good luck.

Answer 2

Consistency. Bring her to the toilet every twenty minutes or so. As she starts stopping her "accidents" you can start making the gap further. Soon just ask her if she needs to go to the bathroom--and she'll tell you. After that she'll start telling you without being asked! Embarrassment is probably the reason why accidents don't happen at school. She knows by now what is expected (in public at least) and you should expect her to do the same at home. Even at a young age--give her responsibility. Have her make her bed, brush her teeth, clean her toys, go potty on her own, and feed animals if you have any. Make a chore board out of poster board and every day if she has a good day give her a star for all of them. If she gets a whole day with stars--make a trip to the park, snuggle on the couch, or do something she enjoys for fifteen minutes. If she gets seven stars in a row (a whole week) make her a special desert or do something she wants to do. Whatever it is make sure you reward her in some way for all of her responsibilities. Why have so many? To take her mind off of just going to the bathroom and to give her an overall sense of accomplishment. Best of luck!

Answer 3

Well she must really want to be a big girl at school, or maybe she'd be embarassed if she wet there. Maybe there's something she really likes that you've told her only big girls can do that you could reward her with...not a short lasting 'prize' but something that she always has or is aloud to do as long as she avoids accidents. She's probably doing it for attention, but she obviously doesnt want that attention at school. You could present a possible delima to her too by tricking her, try telling her that you can only do a little bit of laundry per day, and if she wets her pants then she might have to wear the wet ones to school, so 'be careful' LOL (sneak a couple handfuls of her panties out of her drawer first, tell her you're not sure where they all are) I know that sounds terrible but she just needs some of whatever it is about school to give her a nudge at home...she'll be right on target in no time, and will forget all about doing it at home for whatever reason she does. I've noticed that little short lived rewards dont really work you really need to 'set her up' (tricking her) in a sense and leave the rest up to her.

Answer 4

OMG!! we are in that same situation! My 4 yr old will go potty @ school, grandmas, etc but not here at home. I think it's all about the control issue. I do a sticker chart. Once she goes 10 times to the potty (she has to either urinate or have a BM) she gets to have a prize. It works most of the time. Good luck to you. We need it here also!

Answer 5

Get a routine down and praise her every time she goes! I would also find out what they do at school and make sure that you are consistant with her at home. At school kids are on a schedule, not that going potty always fits the right schedule! Just try to work with her in the same way each day and have specific times that she goes potty, have her try even if she says she doesn't have to!

Answer 6

Help her recognize when she needs to go, set specific times (shortly after meals, before bed, before she goes out to play) that she tries to go to the bathroom. You also might reward her with some praise or a small "prize" for stopping what she's doing and going to the bathroom instead of waiting until it's too late.

Answer 7

She can clearly hold it, but I think she has accidents at home to get attention from you..... even if it is negative attention. Solution: make no comment and just get her changed each time she makes a "mistake." Your lack of interest, either positive or negative, will soon get her back on track.

Answer 8

If he's not stricken then he's in basic terms possibly lazy via fact he would not decide for to end his play or in spite of to flow to the rest room. My twin ladies have in basic terms grew to become 4 and positively one of them leaves it to the final minute additionally. She would not care. She would not like donning knickers and frequently runs around bare bottomed. by no potential any injuries interior the evening and has been out of nappies via fact that 18 months and dry for the period of the evening formerly they have been 2. She has have been given greater efficient and would not do it as often now. with any luck your son will in basic terms improve out of it too.

Answer 9

This sounds a little strange but put blue food coloring in the water and tell her when she wakes in the morning she will be able to magically change it to green.
Worked for my Kindergarten kids on the weekends.Works well in the daytime too...you can make lots of fun colors

Answer 10

My nearly 4 is fine now, set times between each visit, stand at the door and listen, and even use stories of your own experiences. And praise is good!