What do you do if you have a sister who is 13 and acts like a baby?

Answer 1

I guess you are a few years older.. if you are over 18, try to get your own place so you can let her grow up and see her from time to time until then :o)

If you are younger or can't move out yet (that is if you do still live with her), just try to remember what adolescence is like ~ you are just going through puberty and hormones are coming on.. so really she is just a baby still who is just about to become a "woman" and is going to be bratty, insensitive, a bit selfish and self absorbed for a few years.. most likely - most pre-teens go through this.. I don't know what she is doing that is pushing you away or annoying you but try to just understand this is hopefully just this time in her life and that she will grow out of it. I never really went through the bratty bratty pre-teen or teen periods but most of them do.. I know most of them also idolize their older sisters and want to be like them so just try to set a good example for her and be as patient as possible.

Let her know without insulting her how you feel or ask your mom to - tell her when you do this, it makes me feel like this. She might be too young to change her behavior, understand or get what her actions are doing to you but you could tell her - it might help take the stress off of you if you get it off of your chest. Try to distance yourself if need be - go out with friends and just give her some space to grow up. Offer to do things with her - maybe she feels rejected or left out if you never want to hang out with her and maybe she is acting like a baby because she wants and needs some attention ~ try giving it to her if she can behave :) and maybe she will calm down and mature if she sees you acting that way. Just try not to go down to her level and get angry and yell at her, etc - just keep your ground, talk about things and let her know how you feel - be her older sister and just be a good example and stay calm.. as hard as that may be - try...

In a few years, she will come into her own and you two may be best friends ~ sisters always know each other best and even when we don't realize it - we are kind of like best friends.. I have an older sister and though we aren't together much - when we are - we never missed a beat. That is just the way it is. You will have each other forever so try to connect now so you don't end up letting her push you away forever or so you don't push her away forever - it could happen and you don't want it to though you may think so now - you don't.

If she is taking your things and not returning them which always happens, get a lock on your room door so you can unlock it from the outside when you get home and if there is something your parents can do or talk to her about so you avoid some kind of confrontation with her - ask them to.. you don't need the stress.

:o)

Answer 2

let her be 13.
Remember when you were 13 and try to think about the things you were going through and what would have helped you.

Since you are older, try treating her like she is older too. Spend time with her, do her hair, do her nails, take her to the mall or whatever. If you treat her like she is older she will start living up to your expectations. She looks up to you. She wants your attention. Don't play into that "baby" crap and tell her that you don't buy it and you expect more from her.

I am a little sister, I remember being 13. It is a hard age. Your not a little kid anymore and your not quite a teenager yet. She is trying to figure out what to be. I know she is annoying sometimes, but you can make a difference in her life. Especially you. Big sisters have a lot of influence.
Good luck and try not to snap at her too much.

Answer 3

What is she doing specifically that is babyish?Is this a general opinion or just yours?Is she seeking attention for some reason?Perhaps she is just adjusting to going from a child to a teen-it is a big transition for many kids.It's hard sometimes to give up the comfort that comes from being a younger child and growing up can be scary.Maybe she needs to have some more responsibility and feel that growing up and becoming more independent is a good thing.Perhaps a babysitting course or a little job of sorts to make her feel more valued.Is your sister living in your shadow and trying to find her own place in the 'sun'?Hope it works out for you.Talk to her when you are both calm and maybe it will shed some light on the situation.

Answer 4

Is she literally acting like a baby? Or is she just not acting as mature as you are at what 15, 16?

Try to remember how mature you were when you were her age, and that to adults you probably seem just as much a baby as your sister does to you.

Answer 5

If she's 13, she IS a baby

Answer 6

Give her a chance to grow up. 13 yr olds are stlll trying to figure out who they are and how to behave. It's a hard age to be. And it's real hard to be the sister of a 13 yr old, too. It isn't permanent and things are going to get better.
Good luck!

Answer 7

Treat her like a baby until she decides to grow up, and tell her just that. "I will treat you as a baby until you start to act more grown up." Then it is up to you to set the example. If she respects you, she will mimic your behavior.

Answer 8

you just have to ignore it, my sis. turned 13 less then a month ago, and she acts like a preppy baby sometimes, and you just have to keep going and ignore, shell iventally get through it (i hope)

Answer 9

If you are older then act your age and don't get down on her level and try to be patient she should have time to mature too.

Answer 10

I'm so grateful having an older brother and NO sisters!!

phew!!!