It is right for a father and mother to intercourse in their room with 7 year old child nextdoor?

Question

By next door, I mean the room next the couples room? I believe that this wrong. My small cousin age 7, keeps asking me what is going on in my parents room but I don't know what to say. I try to tell my parents not to do what they do when she's here, but they don't listen to me. This is very serious to me, so please any help on this would be most appreciated! Thanks!!! ^-^

Respectfully,
GrayFox

I would tell her, but I'm not the best when disscussing private matters. I'll try though...

Yes, they ARE very loud! It makes me sad to know that my cousing is hearing it at a close range *sad sigh*

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but your parents are WRONG. If they felt that comfortable with sex (To CONTINUE HAVING IT WHILE YOUR COUSIN LISTENS), then they would've had the "Talk" with him/her.

But to continue to do this with no "Talk", or to discontinue having this type of sex is VERY selfish. Talk it over again with them, and if they refuse to take action, discuss it with another family member.

Keep it within the family because this can quietly be resolved. But when you choose a family member, look for someone who has always been helpful when it comes to family matters such as these.

gudluk

Answer 2

I think you should really sit down with your parents and have a serious talk with them. There is nothing wrong with intercourse, and having a healthy relationship with each other but they should now that for a seven year old sex is not even on the dictionary and there is things that she'll find out later on but right now isn't the right time. Let them now how uncomfortable this situation is making you fell and what she's been asking you. Tell them that if they can't stop doing it while your cousin is there, than at least they should wait until she goes to sleep and that you will really appreciate if they show a little more respect.

Answer 3

I would suggest sleeping in a room farther away from the parents if this disturbs your cousin. I know that seven seems young but I think the parents should explain a bit about sex to your cousin. Like that it is normal for parents to do this because they love each other, and she should not be alarmed. Don't volunteer information though. A child will ask only when he or she is ready to know. Then it is a parent's job to answer. Your are right to be concerned but it is best for your parents or hers to answer questions. For now try turning on the radio or TV when the noise is distracting.

Answer 4

If there's a lot of noise naturally it would concern the child. She may think someone is fighting or something. Also, if she has been exposed to seeing or hearing such things often, she may be filled with curiosity. Maybe you could take her to watch TV downstairs or somewhere away from that room and get her interested in something else. I know that is hard to do late at night and you both may have school the next day. I wish parents would respect their children more in this type of thing.

Answer 5

Perhaps you could mention to the father and mother on your cousins behalf that they are making noise that keeps your cousin awake without mentioning the sex part . You might try telling your cousin they have a very uncomfortable bed but when they find a soft spot its very pleasant for them and when they hear the oohs and ahhs it means they found a good spot that's comfortable to sleep. Worth a shot for a 7 year old .

Answer 6

I think you need to realize that parents have sex honey. It's part of human nature. What they do behind closed doors is their business. HOWEVER, if they are making quite a spectacle of themselves when there are small children within ear shot, then it's probably best if you sit down with them and just give them a heads up that you and your cousin can hear everything that is going on and it's grossing you out. If you are too embarrassed to mention it. Write a small note asking them to please keep it down and slip it under their door after you knock. If they don't get the hint, have your seven year old cousin start asking them questions...maybe they'll get the hint. And if that doesn't work, find a good cartoon and turn it up really loud....their little escapade can't last forever.

Answer 7

This is tough and I don't think a couple should knowingly have sex while a seven year old can hear them. Of course it ok for a kid to know that adults have sex, but I think it is inappropriate for the kid to have to experience it by hearing it.

Tell your cousin to ask your parents, tell her to tell her parents as well. Tell your parents you think the noise is bothering your cousin. Ask your cousin if she would like to listen to music of somethig. IF your parents are really unresponsive, I'm sorry. It sounds like you got some crappy parents. They should take this seriously.

Good luck.

Answer 8

The mom and the dad are in their own room, behind close doors, it's not like they are leaving the door open, or having sex out in the open. Waiting until everybody is sleeping or just keeping the noise down would help. It is not wrong, timing could be better. You could always tell your cousin, that your parents are just watching TV, no big deal.

Answer 9

I don't really think it's right either. One time i actually caught my parents, and it was utterly disgusting!!!! But at least i was a little older than seven. I think your cousin might be too young to know, he/she might be freaked out by it. If your parents could not do it when she's there, i think that would be for the best.

Answer 10

Sex is a natural thing, we are all sexual beings and sooner or later we all experience and experiment with it. So talk to them, and tell them that the kid is asking questions and let them explain to them what's going on next door to him.
It's all good if we all talked about sex naturally and like it is, with all the good and bad and all the responsibility and consequences that comes with it, maybe we will have less sex related problems in the world, (AIDS, STD's, kids having kids etc etc etc)