my sister and i both got pregnant around the same time but sh lost her child and as I am nearing the end of my pregnancy i find out she is having jealousy issues with me because my pregnany was not planned. How can i make htis a bit easier for her to deal with?
2006-10-20 16:32:08 · 13 answers · asked by beth_6953 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think just keeping open lines of communication with her would be the best idea,,.............express to her your empathy for her but tell her at the same time you nor her have any control of what has happened or what lies ahead,,,,,,,,,,,,through time hopefully she will be able to resolve these issues...........take care of yourself and that precious Lil one.
2006-10-20 16:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lyssa D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to that sister of yours. Tell her how you feel and that you are there for her and support her. However you also need to tell her that you need her support to bring this baby into the world. She will be an auntie and that you need her there to love this child.
This is really the only thing that you can attempt to say or do to make her feel better because losing a child hurts. Maybe you can make her the god-mother of the child or be there when you are in labor. Whatever it is, be sure to tell her that you didn't want her to lose her baby, you didn't want her to hurt this much or hurt at all. Tell her you love her and no matter what happens from here on out, you will be there for her. Otherwise there is nothing you can do but say these comforting foods. Good luck...
2006-10-20 16:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Smartsrule 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for all of your accomplishments. Now your cousin sounds to be seriously jealous, and is miserable. But have you tried sitting down and talking to her about it? Not talking at her, or starting off with pointing the finger? Just take her aside and let her know that what she is doing is hurting your feelings and is pulling the two of your apart. Also let her know that if it continues that you can't guarantee that you will have any other kind of friendly relationship but a civil one...if the conversation goes down hill then let her know that if she attempts to sabotage your employment that the next step for you will be contacting the police and a restraining order will be placed. That way you know you've attempted to keep the family relationship between you, and that she has had a chance to explain her feelings or whatever she may come up with.
2016-05-22 06:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough but she needs to deal with her issues herself. I lost a baby girl in Aug at 21 weeks, and I have several friends that are pregnant too and I never felt any jelousy. They felt bad and did not want to talk about their pregnancies with me until I told them that I was still happy for them and that I felt better when they DID talk about their soon-to-be born babies. Your sister needs to talk to a minister about her feelings.
2006-10-20 16:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that has got to be tough for you and for her. She is probably still grieving. Jealous? I do not know.
What about support groups?
If she is really jealous -- becareful. But be compassionate and up front with her if you have not done so already. Everytime she looks at you it is a reminder.
2006-10-20 16:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by joyann 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I'm not sure you can make it better, and it's not really up to you to try to. You are at a sensitive time right now, and you shouldn't be feeling any extra stress. Your sister will need to work through this on her own, and she will eventually.
2006-10-20 16:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Peach Tree 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can make her the godmother.
Assure her she'd be a great aunt and sure she'd get pregnant again... Get her involved in your pregnancy so she can be happy for you too...
I know it'll be tough, cos everytime she sees you pregnant, she'd be reminded that she lost hers. But if you keep encouranging her and shows her how important she is in your pregnancy and the life of the kid, I think she'd appreciate that.
2006-10-20 16:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by meetha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is grieving for her baby it will take time for her to accept it. Ask her to be involved with you and your family as much as you can. Maybe you should get her to talk about it. She might need a break down.
2006-10-20 16:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREA K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is sad to hear that she lost her baby.just tell her it is not her fault she lost her baby and that is no reason to be jealous.try by telling her that God will give her a baby soon and that she will be really happy.she just need to be clam and pray to God and ask Him for a child.gongrats with your baby and good luck with your sister
2006-10-20 16:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by jo_be 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her maybe its a good thing, now you want have to share all the owss and awwws over both your babies, each one will now get its own attention. Miscarrages are usually a sign forwhen the baby is able to be born, it will be perfect.
2006-10-20 16:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋