Do you believe that ppl are born gay or do you believe that they make a decision to be gay?

Question

Many ppl have mixed feelings of whether or not ppl are born gay or choose to be gay. What do you think?

Answer 1

A combination of learned behaviors and genetic predispositions. Some gays leave no doubt there are gay from childhood. Some "become" gay after a troublesome experience; such as some of the adolescents living in foster homes, juvenile facilities, etc. But just as some people are attracted to fat people, skinny people, whatever, some are attracted to the same sex.

With the belief that people are born gay, then the argument can be made that people are born to be attracted to children. If the belief that homosexuality is a born trait and can not be "cured", why not pedophiles? Why attempt to rehab pedophiles and not gays?

They are both atypical sexual behaviors. If one is born, is the other one acquired or also a born trait?

Answer 2

It's pretty unlikely that it's a choice. I don't remember choosing to be straight, yet here I am. I can't imagine another guy getting the same reaction I do when I see a pretty woman, or even a not so pretty, but not so dressed woman, and then choosing to go for guys.

There's some debate, I guess still, about whether homosexuality is the result of genes or of the environment, but that's not the same thing as choice.

But it seems like whoever you're attracted to, is a matter of reflex. If sexual attraction was a choice, I sure as potatoes wouldn't have the hots for Paris Hilton. Just about about everything she says or does triggers a gag reflex, but when I see her Carl's, Jr. ad, I still think, "hey, I'd tag that!"

Answer 3

I think most are born gay! You can tell when they are younger sometimes if they are going to be. I watched this movie on lifetime. It was about this boy who was gay but had acted like he was since he was really young. He would want to put on his sisters dresses and wear make-up and he was only like 6. Weird huh. I have a cousin right now that I can almost bet anything that he will grow up to be gay! I have nothing against gay people but I think most are born that way and they can't help it.

Answer 4

I think people are born that way. I mean think about it attraction, pheremones, etc...are what attract people to one another. I don't think it is a choice to be attracted to someone you either are or your not. Sure looks, behavior, personality play a part also. I don't think it is a choice to be gay, but a choice to act on it...so many people don't act on their attraction based on what others will think.. I don't care what two consenting adults to in their bedroom it is their business, just like I don't think it is anyone's business what goes on between my husband I.

I say if the attraction is there and both parties are willing to act on it so what. Life is too short to deny true love, if two people love each other no matter straight or gay that is not a choice it is fate/destiny or what ever else you may want to call it.

Answer 5

there are two types of gay people, some are born into it and another is choosen by desicion and influential disposition. If you have a kid at a young age be brought up with all girls and the sister keeps dressing the poor boy up and teaching the kid how to be a princess, wouldn't that make the kid think that dressing up and putting makeup on is a good thing? its the exposure of one self and the acceptance on how much he wants to absord on those gay society

But there is nothing you can do about it, gay people are just gay and some of them are nice. We have to accept them for who they are. Cheers

Answer 6

Both and neither. Environment also has a lot to do with this. Think about the options in a society in which men can have multiple wives simultaneously. It is highly unlikely that there will be 4 times as many women as men therefore possibly as many as 50% of the male population will not have a female mate. Some do seem to be born with the tendency and some lean that way following a traumatic heterosexual relationship.

Answer 7

I believe they are born that way and initially I believed it was a choice. Who knows how the brain is formed or developed. It is a miracle that most of us are born normal at all when you really think about it. I think they should all come out and be who they are...we'll all adjust, we always do.

Answer 8

People are born gay. Studies have suggested that it is biology and not choice. One study has shown that genes play an important part in this.

Answer 9

as the father of a gay child i know their born that way my daughter told me she was gay at 9 years old and again when she was 13 she has never had a man nor wanted one.

Answer 10

I think people are born male or female with all the tendencies of being male or female. However, the environment (home life, sexual abuse, upbringing, etc), causes confusion of the mind. Some have no choice I think... once they step in it's very hard to come back out.