I dont know if I should have sex or not Im thinking about it but im only 11 what should I do plz help :-{
2006-10-20 15:58:45 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
hey, im only 14, and i had sex with my bf about 3 months ago. i am now thinking if it was the right thing to do. i feel that it was too early. please sweety wait abit. atleast for a couple of years. you may feel that it is the right time now, but thats also what i thought, you will probably regret it later and wish that you had waited for a little while longer. if you are going to have sex though please, please use a condom.
good luck, love beautiful_x_diisaster.
p.s 'slug juice' DONT call her a little sl*t, because to me you sound like a little skank, so back off and leave the girl alone!
2006-10-20 16:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, please, PLEASE tell me this is not a serious question!!!
Sweetie, NOTHING good will come of it if you have sex. Nothing. Not a single thing.
Sex is a wonderful thing, but to be wonderful, it needs to be done when you're in a committed relationship (not "going together" for three weeks. I'm talking about being married, wanting to spend the rest of your life with another person, a commitment kids your age and even older - up into high school and older - aren't truly ready for.)
You wouldn't believe the number of young girls (high-school age) who trade in their self-esteem for sex. Giving into something like that, giving away your body (literally), particularly if you really aren't ready (and honey, there's no way in heaven or hell you're ready), can not only cause your boyfriend and anyone else who knows about it (and I PROMISE, people will know about the 11-year-old girl who has sex... That girl where I'm from was known to everyone about 8-years-old and older) to have no respect for you, it can make you not respect yourself. It can also make you not see much value in yourself outside of sex.
At the age of 11, you are still a child. I know that's not what you want to think, but you are. You aren't ready physically, mentally, or emotionally for sex.
The very fact that you're scared or unsure is proof enough that you shouldn't have sex. That is your mind telling you it's not ready.
Life as an adult is a LOT harder than most kids think. Enjoy being a kid for as long as you can. Once you make that leap into adulthood, you can't go back, and TRUST ME, if you do that now, particularly in that way, you will regret it.
2006-10-20 16:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking! You're waaaaay to young! I'm only 14 and still not thinking about it. If this boy really loved you than he wouldn't be pressuring you to do it. A boy will just ruin your life if you do something like this. also think of what everyone at school will say if he tells everyone at school, which he will. Do you want to be called a TRAMP?! You decide. Don't you have any plans for your future? Do you want a career? If you do, You can forget it, if you do this. If your friends are pressuring you into doing this than you need to get some new friends, I hope you can talk to your mom like I can or another female adult that you can trust to let you know why boys start this stuff, my mom says its because of the dreams they start to have at this age, they are very vivid and they want to act on them. JUST SAY NO, BE STRONG!!
2006-10-21 03:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it now you are way too young, even if you have someone you love or think you love, you're way too young your not even a teenager yet. At least wait til your 15 or 16 but don't just have sex because you feel like you have to. Wait until the time is right and always use protection.
2006-10-21 02:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first reaction to your question is to scream NO!!!!! i understand though that you are seriously thinking about this if you bothered to ask. I was 22 when i lost my virginity and don't regret it at all. When I was your age and my parents first talked to me about sex they told me first and foremost if you are thinking about it and have ANY doubts...DON'T DO IT! I think personally you will know when you are ready and I agree with what my parents said about if you have any doubts. I really think that you are to young to have sex and one thing that you must consider is are you prepared for the posssible consequences? You could get a STD or even get pregnant. I know you must feel older if you are considering having sex but inreality you are still a child and could you really handle the possibility of getting pregnant or getting a STD that you would have to live with for the rest of your life. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush into things and enjoy your youth while you can!
2006-10-20 16:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fear of sex AND your age reveal that you are not ready for sex. Please do not do it, especially if the guy/girl is pressuring you. You most likely want your first time to be memorable and special (in a good way); if you have sex now, it won't turn out that way, because you'd be scared and self-conscious throughout the whole experience. It's not the right time.
2006-10-20 16:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by hippiekiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know your body very well. Still sex is a very complicated situation at your age because you are going to meet so many other guys. You should just wait it out and see what happens. and you will be happy if you do so because guys love strong girls who keep their innocence and are not running around partying and having sex. Keep your innocence and i can tell you are not ready because you are having second thoughts. if you have to double think something it is wrong.
2006-10-20 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a little $lut. If you are dating a certain fifth grader with the initials of A.M. dont, becuz he will try to grab ur boobs before you even say you like him or anything. This might be a little deep for you, but you shouldn't quit reading. As a virgin I have some good advice for you. I am like fourteen, but watever.
Okay, so don't screw him, or you will regret it, and kids will find out and kick ur ***. Or make fun of you till u want to die. Ya, so don't do it. Chill.
No. I am not high. I am just a little bit crazy about eleven year old, non-virgins and my fifth grade ex boyfriend, who I don't think is a virgin, and I am twelve. so bye.
2006-10-20 16:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kimbo ;) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you have sex with someone who is not committed to you? This is a big step both physically and emotionally. It can really mess up and complicate a girl's life. It involves a lot of responsibility like avoiding pregnancy and STD's. Love yourself enough to say "no."
2006-10-20 16:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by belly dance mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...only if you want the boy to turn around the next day at school and tell all his friends... who tell all their friends... and before you know it, your the "s l u t" of the school... then your friends wont want to be around you anymore because you will make them look bad.
...but if you feel like ruining your life (possibly have a baby as well) then go right on ahead.
(I didn't even LIKE boys when I was 11..... I was still playing with Barbies for cryin out loud!)
2006-10-20 16:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋