Can anyone provide insight into this? Is this a regional/cultural thing? My husband (27 years old) calls his mother and father "mommy and daddy?" He is of Italian descent from Long Island. Coming from the south, I have never heard of such a thing. He doesn't do it around his male friends, but everytime I hear it, I cringe. What is the deal? Is there any way to stop this, and is it even appropriate for me to delve into this issue with him?
2006-10-20 15:43:35 · 20 answers · asked by heather#1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's trying to get you to refer to them in a loving way too. He's exemplifing how much they mean to him.
I think that's as queer as a 3 dollar bill.
2006-10-20 15:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problemo & yes some here in the NYC metro area call them mommy & daddy. While I called em mom & dad when they were alive, my older brother called em mommy & daddy. Sure that was strange for me when I heard it but so what? Am I supposed to hate my brother?
A few friends including an Italian and an Irish say the same thing. Hey whatever rocks your boat. What's the big deal? Did he kill someone or sell drugs? Usually the strongest men don't act macho but the weakest men do.
2006-10-20 16:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the difference between him calling his parents Mommy and Daddy and a female doing it? NOTHING. I think you are worried too much about NOTHING. Give the guy a break. I am a 45 year old woman and when my parents was still alive, I called my Mom - Momma and my Dad - Daddy. This doesn't make me wrong or weird in any sort of way. Sounds like you need some counseling or something. If he chooses to call his parents Mommy and Daddy, let him. My God, what is wrong with you? Quit trying to find the least little fault in him or everyone. It is probably what he is used to and leave him alone girl. I wish I had a man that only had this fault. I would love him to death. You need to just deal and chill out.
2006-10-20 16:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've lived in NY and I never heard a man do that.
In the south I've heard men call their mothers "mother" and there fathers "daddy." But never heard mommy and daddy. I've also heard men call their mothers mumma (Virginia tidewater accent). But I've never heard a northern man do this.
And I've never heard a man regularly do this.
I would delve into it, but he may get his hackles up. I would guess this relationship won't work out because he is still a kid.
2006-10-20 15:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a funny story about it:
When I was 12, I was driving somewhere with my mom and I started a conversation about "calling her Mom, instead of Mommy, because I was older and it sounded babyish to call her Mommy". She really didn't have much opinion about it and was OK with me calling her Mom from then on...
When we arrived at the woman she was visiting, her grown son happened to arrive at the same time; when the woman came out her front door to greet all of us, the man (who was a big guy, well into his 20's) said, "Hi Mommy!"
My mother looked at me and laughed... I never asked about it again and called her 'Mommy' until I was well into my 30's...
:-)
2006-10-20 15:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a cultural attitude the reason, commonly, is diverse. If a Black guy calls me "woman" it is often in a context it truly is playful and collegial -- no diverse than at the same time as my girlfriends who're Black call me "woman." traditionally the reason at the back of calling a Black guy a "boy" -- interior or outdoors of the custom -- has continually been a adverse, demeaning one, and in most cases so at the same time as it is coming from a non-Black man or woman. i don't have a topic with a Black guy touching on me as "woman" when we are joking or this is in the context of a communique and it is affectionate. I do have a topic at the same time as white human beings, male or lady, call me "woman" because it frequently isn't meant collegially, or both they are appropriating the custom and attempting to get too common in a way it truly is offensive.
2016-12-05 01:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww how mean. I call my mom mommy, and I called my father daddy. I am Italian, but that has nothing to do with it. Let him call them whatever he wants. There is nothing wrong with that. Its how he grew up saying it. You cant change the relationship one has with his parents so dont even try. I think it would be very rude of you to even bring it up to him.
2006-10-20 16:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by BellaRia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol lol I have that before too! I hear that from Italians, Hispanics, and really those of Latin descent (no matter how distant). It must be a cultural thing. These tend to be real close as a family, also.
2006-10-20 15:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by girls_role_model 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what the problem is. would you rather he say mom and dad. maybe he has a relationship with his parents that you cant fathom with yours. i still call my father daddy.and i know men that do too. i am 30 years old. you have to figure out what your problem is because it seems like you are the one with the issues not him.ow and its not a south thing. its probably something he is used to and doesn't see anything wrong with.
2006-10-20 15:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by HERE4U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont know what part of the south you are from (i am from Georgia) and both males and females call their fathers daddy and call their mothers mama.
2006-10-20 15:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his parents probably liked being called mommy and daddy rather than mom and dad so he's probably just use to it. but im sure if u talk to him about it he might stop with some getting use to
2006-10-20 15:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋