My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 month...and he says that its ok to not talk to each other for a while. I'm new at the whole relationship thing...and I need some advice! How do I not seem so clingy...and needy...and stuff like that!
2006-10-20 15:04:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
us boys are scared but dont show it we will never admit to it he just doesnt want to lose you ;)
2006-10-20 15:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by rudedogsdwweebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with you. the answer to your question is right there, you're just new at the whole relationship thing. there are really no hard and fast rules when it comes to relationships because what may work with one may be totally unacceptable with another. get it? i would say go with what you feel while maintaining a certain degree of rationality. as all newbies in the whole "relationship thing", sometimes people tend to get carried away and throw all reason to the wind. as for being less clingy, i think you should be more interested in your life. learn a new language, take up a hobby or exercise. meet new friends. be more interesting.
2006-10-20 22:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by shang1253 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says it's ok not to talk to each other for a while, it sounds like he wants some space at this point in time. Some relationships spark in the beginning and then fizzle. In others, it takes a while to understand each other, but then, it takes off. And, of course, there are variations between the two. In your case, only time will tell. I would advise one thing: Be yourself, and don't keep the relationship glued together at the expense of sacrificing who you are.
2006-10-20 22:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by top_runner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One month does not a marriage make. If you were married (or had at least been seeing each other a lot longer) then I'd say you should try to help him open up to you, but after a month it's probably normal.
On the other hand, maybe he's just not a talker. If he doesn't want to talk AND doesn't want to be around you, then you may want to consider breaking up with him - doesn't sound like he's all that interested (sorry).
2006-10-20 22:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's only been a month. give it time.
if he still thinks you're needy maybe he's not that into you, or not as serious about the relationship as you are.
if it's just because you're new at being in a relationship, you'll quickly learn boundaries between being clingy and being together.
and yes, get a hobby, don't forget to make time for your friends. what did you do with your spare time before him?
2006-10-20 22:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Natlie Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different degrees of intimacy. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with the one you love all the time, or only part of the time.
What you have is a problem with compatibility. You want more, he wants less. Neither of you are wrong, you're just wrong for each other.
Let it go and find another who is more compatible with your needs (I know, easier said than done).
Any relationship that makes you feel there is something wrong with you, is wrong for you.
2006-10-20 22:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is your bf? A gay guy? There's nothing wrong with talking to him everyday, and don't let him make you think that's wrong. I have been with my bf for over 3 years now, and there has only been 1 or 2 days we haven't talked.. and that was because he was fighting the war in IRAQ! He sounds like a jerk. Lose him.
2006-10-20 22:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the two of you? It's not uncommon for couples to go a day or two without speaking. What you need to do is find out if he's ignoring you because he wants to break up but doesn't have the balls to just say it.
2006-10-20 22:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by odandme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all try to be just a friend to your boyfriend. get to know what he likes and talk weith him of those things. Don't be touching him all time , try maing your self scarce to him. Did you ever hear the expression "A MAN CHASES A GIRL UNTIL SHE CATCHES HIM" You have to become scarec to him so he has a chance to miss you
2006-10-20 22:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a hobby!!!! Then, you'll have something to do with your time instead of being clingy to your boyfriend.
2006-10-20 22:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by coloradopsych 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he's not what you want! Besides a guy who says that sounds like trouble for a relationship! Get rid of him!
2006-10-20 22:07:30 · answer #11 · answered by chrisser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋