1.Well the father of my child is muslim.(Nation Of Islam) and we have been dating for about 5 1/2 years now.We had our ups and down like everyone while I was pregnant.He's apologized and we are trying to work on things together.The percentage of us getting married is extremely high.That is what I want but I a, afraid to convert.Im baptist.His family is really serious about thier religion.But if it comes to marriage I want to marry him.Well Im asking this question and I am afraid to convert b/c I hear they treat their women like they are beneath them. I got scared b/c his dads bday just passed and his mom got him a card and he read the card and afterwards threw it in the trash.She asked why and he said b/c he read what it had to say it was sweet what was the point of keeoing it.That was mean to me and I know alot of times the apple doesnt fall far from the tree.His father is very persistent about us getting married.I have my own mind and want respect.What your opinion.
2006-10-20 15:02:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
first of all,having such relation ship,before marriage is NOT AT ALL acceptable in islam.now
if he even asks u to convert,i being muslim,request u to do it on ur own will,n not on his
saying b\c he can NEVER b ur true guide.
n thing about,respect...what u heard,is not truth.n do u really expect ppl to tell u the
truth about ISLAM??islam teaches respect for everyone,wife has been given utmost importance
in islam.her dignity,respect,n protection of rights is first n foremost.
n act did by this person's father,is as rightly said before is act of ignorance n not
religious...if he,like his father do so,then he is not at all following religion.better
check him out before u marry him,it's matter of spending life with some one.
2006-10-20 17:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man can treat a woman badly and it is not related to his religion , he can be Muslim, Jews, Christians,, or any other religion. So try to convince yourself if he is a right man for you. I don't think all the Muslims men are closing their wife's but it will be some differences between you two , not because he is Muslim and you are not but because you raised in different families with different cultures , like any other family . If a man truly love a woman , he respect her and you should not be worried.You can convert to be Muslim but if your husband is not religious ,then you should not pray and do the things that some Muslims do .It is just a formal thing , for the law and it does not mean anything.If he raised in a good family with manners and respect , you should not be worried. Wish you happiness in your life.
2006-10-20 15:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What everyone else is saying is true. Nation of Islam isn't Muslim. They call themselves Black Muslims---but who knows why the hell some people do the things they do?
They are an anti-establishment, anti-white man, anti-American organization. Run, don't walk to the nearest exit. Get as far away from this man as you can. You say you're a Baptist---that's good! Most Baptists are Bible believing people---why in the world would you give up a personal Baptist relationship with your Lord Jesus Christ to marry this guy?
Do you know anything about the origins of the Nation of Islam? Get this---and I kid you not, I'm serious as a heart attack on this. The Black Muslims believe that the black race descended from a race of black supermen that originally lived on the MOON for gosh sakes!!!! For SOME reason--they came to EARTH and took up residency in Africa of all places!!!!! Don't buy into this!!!! STAY BAPTIST!!!!!! give your child at least SOMETHING of a religion in his or her life!!!!
Listen----there's plenty of eligible Baptist men out there who would find you attractive and take you and your child as their very own. Why not look around a bit?
You're right, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
(Black supermen who used to live on the moon---give me a break)
2006-10-20 15:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I kinda laughed a bit when I read about the card, because that sounds a lot like a lot of men, no matter what their faith! Men just aren't so sentimental. Heck, my Dad has actually given my Mom cards that he found in the basement, and he scratched out the name of who it was from originally, and wrote his name in!
But my dad is not a bad person at all. He's just not sentimental. My mom loved the card as if he had bought it specially, because she knows that that's just how he is.
I realize that it may seem mean from where you are coming. I do agree that he should not have thrown it away. But one of the things about marriage is that we have to look past each other's different ways of expressing love. It doesn't mean that he didn't love his wife just because he threw a card away. It could just be that to him, the love that is unspoken is worth more than a sheet of paper.
But on the other hand, it could be a bad sign. I don't know the guy, so I'm in no position to say. You really have to look at everything he says and does to get a feel for how he really is.
As far as Islam goes, I believe that it also teaches that one should be married before having a child. I don't know much about Nation of Islam. But I would think that if he was willing to have a child with you before getting married, he MAY not be as devoted to his faith as he is to you.
But, if I were you, I'd be very very careful. There is a reason you have doubts. Listen to yourself! If there are signs that he would not treat you with full respect, please pay attention to that, and don't put yourself in a vulnerable position that would cause you and your child misery later.
Also, as far as conversion, I firmly believe that one should only convert to another religion if they believe whole-heartedly in that religion. I don't think conversion should be done just for a marriage. Please study Islam and Nation of Islam thoroughly before you would ever decide to convert. If you study it and fall in love with it, then convert. But if not, then you stay with the religion you are comfortable with.
I hope I haven't just confused you worse. Well, in the end, pray and listen to your mind and heart. When it comes to love, it is important to not ONLY listen to your heart, because sometimes our heart can't see things right due to the love. Listen also to your mind. ;-)
All the best to you.
2006-10-20 15:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very strange thinking from you. he treated you nicely so that you loved him and wanted to marry him. Why you think that when you become muslim he will start treating you like beneath him. It is just your misunderstanding of women status in Islam. Why do not you read here to learn. You can even read it together:
http://www.iad.org/books/S-women.html
May Allah guide you both and give you ahappy family life.
2006-10-20 19:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by haggobti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
PS: nation of Islam aren't Muslims.
they made up their own religion.
hmmm... so you think he threw the card in the trash because he's Muslim!! and you hear that they treat their women like they are beneath them.... well, how does he treat you?
a Muslim man is commanded to treat his wife with respect and respect her choices and decisions. she gets to work if she wants to and even keep her own money that she earns for herself if she doesnt wanna spend it on the family.
you should look into this statement you said "they treat their women like they are underneath them" if ANY man does so, it's not because of his religion it's because he's an ignorant.
ignorant men exist all over this planet and they sure exist in the US.
2006-10-20 15:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's a good man then it wont matter what the stereotype is in his religion. If you marry him you'll still be with the same man you've been with for the past 5 years. The issue i'm concerned with is you turning your back on God and Christ. Don't do it. Life lasts as long as maybe 105 years. Where we are going after this is eternal. Think hard before you convert.
2006-10-20 15:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is not at all true. Muslims highly respect women. I have a ton of Muslim lady friends, trust me. It's just a religion that gets bad press b/c it's non-Western. Which really is no reason for it to get bad press.
2006-10-20 15:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dahni C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a kind and loving Father who has requested in difficulty-free words that His children obey his words. As His request replaced into translated decrease to and fro from countless languages, the interest 'obey' grew to change into 'worship' and 'words' grew to change into 'instructions'. you're accurate to question the statement. Blame the zealots.
2016-12-05 01:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are a true Christian, and believe that Jesus died for your sins - how could you convert. Would you just annouce to God that now you don't believe the sacrifice of his son was real.
This issue is huge, much bigger than how they treat their women. It is about your relationship with God. If you believe, you cannot set it aside and convert to this barbaric religion.
God loved his child more than we love our children and he gave him up so that we could live - how can you turn your back on that for the sake of a man?
2006-10-20 15:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋