How do I tell my fiancee?.......................plz i need real help on this one, my happiness is at stake?

Question

MY FIANCEE' AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 9 YEARS. SINCE THE FIRST TIME WE HAD SEX, I KNEW HE WAS NOT WELL ENDOWED. I REMEMBER HAVING BIGGER IN HIGH SCHOOL. NEVER THE LESS HE PROPOSED THIS PAST YEAR AND I SAID YES. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM THAT HE DOESN'T FULLY SATIFIED ME BECAUSE OF HIS SIZE. I'M SCARED TO HURT HIS FEELINGS. HE IS A VERY GOOD PERSON AND A GOOD MAN. HE ALWAYS WANT TO HAVE SEX AND WHEN WERE IN THE PROCESS I'M THINKING WHAT IS THE POINT. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I HAVE A BIG BAG OF PORN AND TOYS TO GET ME AROUSED BUT I ALWAYS FINISH MY CLIMAX SOLO. WHAT CAN I DO........I'M STARTING TO SECOND GUESS THAT THIS MARRIAGE WILL WORK.

Answer 1

Take it from a guy who knows. It's NOT the size that counts. It's how you use it, and I do mean YOU.
The area that arouses you inside is NOT in the back end but more up front where he can still reach. Otherwise all guys would need ten inch tongues to please their women when they go down on them wouldn't they.The only problem you may have is that you have become a victim to the myths that are perpetrated on guys about penis size & sexual performance.
If you are not in synque with the climax, that could be a premature climax problem, & again has nothing to do with penis size.
You can discuss your disatisfaction with his sexual performance without making it about the size of his c*ck, because it probably isn't. Most men take great pride in pleasing their women, & if he learns he has to try a little harder(lol) then he will probably respond in a positive manner. All you have to do is figure out what it is you need to get turned on,(except bigger penis) & let him know what you want. He might even get a charge out of manipulating a great big dildo for you, all you have to do is enjoy it very vocally, & he'll like it as much as you do.
Just get your mind unwrapped from the size of his penis, & then both of you can get to work on the REAL reason you two aren't working in the sack.

Answer 2

If, after nine years, you have not been satisfied then you may need to discuss this openly with him. He may be hurt, most men would be, but it will be better in the long run to talk about it now.
You should also consider other methods other than intercourse. Does he go down on you? A man with experienced lips and tongue can easily bring a girl to climax. Maybe while ******* he can finger you. Two types of stimulation are better than one.
His size should not stop you from enjoying sex. If you work together and keep the lines of communication open you should be able to solve this.
Good luck.
D

Answer 3

If the problem is big enough for you to have second thoughts, you should tell him.

I'm the first to admit sex is an important factor in a marriage, and the first to point out there are other techniques that would satisfy a woman, but no one should enter a marriage with doubt.

It may be hard to let go of nine years, but as this is important enough to you to create doubt, don't marry him.

Answer 4

Firstly I think it's sad that you would think of ending a marriage that had lasted nine years over something as simple as sex problems (espcially considering how hard it is to find a good partner that will last beyond the first attraction-which he obviously has with you) There are so many classes and books that teach couples how to work through their sexual problems and glitches. But it starts with communication let him know of the problem and that you want to work on it. Shoot u like toys he can please you with toys, it's all about finding an angle to make it work. Just don't give up for something so, fleeting.

Answer 5

It will be okay if you think you can be happy to finish your climax solo all of your life. Otherwise, you could be make a big mistake by saying yes. It all depends on what do you think is REALLY important - good man or sex?
Good luck.

Answer 6

You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. You should have told him earlier. There are other things that can be done. And remember that marriage is not based on sex. It's based on honesty and love to start with. Good luck and I hope you do the right thing.

Answer 7

if it was true love size wouldnt matter in your relationship. sex wouldnt be the reason to keep you apart. maybe this issue is a censor reading that youre afraid to get married because you feel that youre going to miss out on other penises.

if that isnt the case... then maybe you should try another route and maybe use the toys together. watch porn together... that's always fun.

in the end though... dont even base your marrital second thoughts based on sex issues.

Answer 8

Sex is a big factor when considering the one you're going to spend the rest of your life with but if he's not the one you want to sleep with every night then find your happiness else where. Let it down nice and easy. Say something like, "You're a wonderful person, but I don't think I'm ready for marriage; I need to rethink this commitment with you." Whatever you feel is best hon.

Answer 9

Call off the marriage! Ya know that saying "it's not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean"? Well if he's not satisfying you...why would you marry him... and you've wasted 9 years... I'm sorry...but you need to move on... if in 9 years you guys haven't learned what floats the other's boat.... marriage AIN'T GONNA HELP!

Answer 10

I'm questioning your knowledge about sex. Size does not =orgasm.Have you brought yourself to orgasm without penetration?There are a few other ways to achieve an orgasm.You might look into that.