I had a crush on him for like 8 mo., but I KNEW he was unobtainable because he is married with kids.He has flirted with me since the day we met(compliments, arm touching, looking into my eyes)So when I ran into him at school(in college/he was my teacher last semester)I would stop & talk to him. I never thought anyting more would happen.We both get out of class at the same time.We are alone one night (I am just expecting to talk) and out of the blue he kisses me.I could not resist because I have had a crush on him 4ever, we make out (he kisses me deeply & touches me all over)Then next time I see him, he tells me he can't do it anymore because of his family.He continues to flirt, compliment me. Then all the sudden one night it happens again. I was so supprised. Then he tells me he can't again, but I am beautiful, I'm sorry I hurt you, I like you as person, bla bla. I haven't seen him in two weeks bcus I am avoiding him& I know I shouldn't be messing with a married man.
2006-10-20 14:58:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he just wanted me for sex, then he would have had sex with me, right. I really liked him and don't know what he wants from me. Why is he going back and forth like that?
2006-10-20 14:59:04 · update #1
I probably sound a bit cynical here but maybe he's trying to pretend like he cannot cheat on his wife because he would be so guilty because to you it may seem that he is very devoted. So if he keeps it up the more devoted he looks and then if he does finally to something more than making out with you then you will think "Wow, I must be special if this man so devoted to his wife would give that up for me" He's probably just playing you. Either way, he's married. You know that being involved with him is a bad idea. Take the "better safe than sorry" approach and keep on avoiding him.
2006-10-20 15:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by sleep2dream65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's covered in guilt! He's in an unhealthy relationship at home and now he's trying to create another one with you. Stand up and have some respect and honor for yourself. Tell him that if he's serious, he needs to get a divorce and go through the process of healing from that (which should take anywhere from 6 months to a couple of years depending on his psychological and emotional health, which I'm guessing ain't too high). And that you refuse to see him again until he's done that.
Odds are he'll leave you alone after he finds out you're not going to be easy, but if he comes back you've gotta stick to your guns.
He's looking for someone that will make him feel good about himself, regardless of the emotional cost to you. He hasn't gone all the way yet because he feels guilty about even talking to you. That part, at least, is a good sign that he has SOME morals. Good luck...
2006-10-20 15:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by ricktheirish1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a crush on a married man and you know the old saying ain't no future with a married man cause he is not going to leave his wife and you know don't play that he is playing games with you and use you when ever he wants to stop being a fool and drop him not before you hurt his wife cause what go around comes back around good luck
2006-10-20 15:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well u are in a big problem here ok and well u shoul leave him cause he never said he wanted to have sex wit him and married so leave and find another man maybe it would make u feel better like me i was wit a man named nicky and then other people ask me out and well i said yes to some not all and well i broke up wit every one and i felt really great but if u still like him tell him your feelings or its gonna keep going.
2006-10-20 15:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to enjoy you occasionally and pretend that you (and his family) matter by feigning that he has a conscience about it.
Pretty ugly dude to have a crush on. There are plenty of others you would really matter to. And as you said, you know better. Forget this nasty individual before he makes you a nasty one too.
2006-10-20 15:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lost Panda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cruel. He loves power over helpless women such as you. He is manipulating you. If I were you, I would simply not allow myself to be put in awkward situation as being alone or any isolation with him. Besides, there are plenty of real fish to spend your quality time with. How do you think I learned that?
2006-10-20 15:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants sex but he is just scared of what will happen,he has a lot to lose.
2006-10-20 15:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is having fun with he is married and he isnt going to leave for u face it hun. u need to move on. and find someone u can be with and be seen with. someone that can love u behinde doors and in public let it go move on forget him
2006-10-20 15:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're smart to stay away from him.
It will hurt. Let it.
2006-10-20 15:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by jg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I am just expecting to talk" YEAH RIGHT
WOMEN LIKE U MAKES ME SOOOOO MAD!!!
I MAEN U R SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE'S HUSBAND AND
U CLAIM U HAVE PROBLEMS !!!! WHAT ABOUT HER!!!!!!
2006-10-20 15:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋