There's this girl where the only thing we know about one another is each other's name. We've actullay talked a little before becus her friend used to like me and she was trying to get me to talk with her friend, but that was in the 7th grade. During middle school for some reason...I never have said hi to her. We're both freshmen and go to the same school and she even lives at the end of my neighborhood! I need help on what I should do in order to get to know her and try to become friends with her. This past week it was the first time I ever said hi to her (and yes she smiled and said hi back.) I finally had the balls to even do that, and I hope that she finally knows that I know she exists! I know it's pathetic...but hey that's just the type of person I am. I can bet u I'm not the only one who's really shy too...So, ladies can u pleeeeeez help me out? Help would be much appreciated. Thanks ; )
2006-10-20 14:44:41 · 11 answers · asked by searching_for_sneaks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur adorable, i bet if u just talked to her more she will fall for u just take the plunge and talk to her. since u are shy do it when she is alone so u can talk and she can see how nice u are( u seem nice)
2006-10-20 14:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't be nervous. I used to be stuck in a similar situation with a guy, and it took all my guts to make the first move. First, start by saying 'hi' regulary whenever you see her. Oh, and say her name as well! Look at her in the eyes when she's talking so she knows that all your attention is on her. If she gets a good grade, compliment her! You'll be surprised how a little phrase can get you in a big conversation. It'll take a long time until your both comfortable with eachother, and that's fine! There's a chance that she might be interested as well, but is just shy to make the first move. So, take a chance and talk to her before someone else sweeps her from you!
2016-03-18 22:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life and go for it! What can be the worst thing to happen? If she says "no", you can go on with your life. But don't remain doubtful. You are young and these are the best years of your life, so enjoy them! And believe me: you are not pathetic at all! There is not shame in being shy. But try and recover from it. Consider this part of a trainning in overcoming shyness. It's going to be helpful in the future (not only regarding dates).
2006-10-20 14:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by cecilia d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's great, the first step is to get to conversation, you can ask her for help with some homework if you are in the same class, or if you feel more comfortable talking on-line ask her for her e-mail, since you don't have time to talk at school...hint hint. let it go from there, you will see how easy it gets. I know I used to be very shy.
2006-10-20 14:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by jowolf87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok....so here is the thing...i used to be really shy around guys when i was in middle...a private middle school so everyone knew my business...then last year i dated this really shy and quiet guy and now i really regret it...we had actually had a pretty good friendship before, but he was so shy, he would never talk to me and i would never talk to him so finally i broke up w/ him and it really sucked b/c ppl were really mean to me about it but anyhoo, now were at high school together in ninth grade and its always really akward.........so the moral of the story is, though you dont have to immediately change who you are to become a super social person right now, it would definitely help if you would talk to this girl more... invite her to a football game or a movie with a whole big group of friends and sit by her, doing something with a group makes it A LOT less akward for both of you and something like a football game gives you a topic to talk about so that you can maybe learn more about this girl and just make it relaxed and not pressured or weird or anything...just remember to be yourself b/c if this girl is worth your time, she'll be happy with who you are, shyness and all
2006-10-20 14:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by chocolat covered blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u could try sending her an e-mail inviting her out. Or write her a really nice poem or letter telling her how much you like her. That way you don't have to be completely shy about the face to face convo.
2006-10-20 14:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by tenesha g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it. it will be a lot easier if you make friends with her. keep doing what you are doing, say hi. start a conversation next time, so it wouldn't be so awkward. then everything will follow, you know the friendship blooms... don't be too hard on youself, being shy is normal?. but start building your confidence it will be real awesome....next time around maybe walk her home, that would be so sweet. good luck.
2006-10-20 14:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by silver_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just start talking to her more. start small convos and make EYE CONTACT!!! a lot of girls LOVE eye contact...especially girls like me. i mean all of my friends do and stuff too so i mean that is REALLY important. make her laugh. flirt w/ her a lot....and then...ur gonna hate me for this but it must be said....scrape up the courage to ask her out. good luck!
2006-10-20 14:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All anybody can tell you is that you'll just have to get over your fear. Shyness is not a turn-on.
2006-10-20 14:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go for it..wat can go wrong, have a party and invite her...get to know her, and have fun! (i am very shy too, so i know how u feal, it will all be okay) good luck!!! :)
2006-10-20 14:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Girl♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋