Well Im just about 16 years old and I tend to be a lil ..mmmkay ALOT different from everyone else , and Well I practice Wicca and I dress in black and uhm.. I listen to speed metal lol and well my mom thinks this is a mental disorder is it? real answerz plz not some lame uhmm.. who knows thing
2006-10-20 14:41:24 · 21 answers · asked by 3 little birds 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am a mom of a 14 year old girl and you are NORMAL. My daughter practiced wicca for a while too. She listens to LOTS of metal. She likes the yelling and screaming kind! She is not on drugs and she dresses in black most of the time and at one time I even dyed her hair black myself! This is not a mental disorder. Your mother needs to realize that this is just you trying to find out who you are. As long as there aren't any drugs or sex or worse yet ( unsafe ) sex practices going on, she needs not to worry. My daughter is an honor roll student and in advanced placement classes. You should be keeping your grades up and all that and your room clean and yourself clean. My daughter does all of this. If you are a good kid... then it shouldn't matter what you like to wear and what your beliefs are. If your mother starts to make waves... then she may lose her daughter... does she really want that over some black high heeled chunky boots and a pentagrammed altar and some harmless herbs? Blessed be! Goddess be with you dear.
2006-10-20 15:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always felt a little "different" too when I was growing up. I had such low self esteem. Then I grew up and after I finally became successful, I began to travel and that is when I found out that somewhere in this world, there are a whole lot of people just like me! We feel different because we think we are the "only ones". This world is made up of every kind of person you can imagine! Somewhere there is a whole group of people just like you! But, I bet you will evolve and try something else later in life!!!!We all go through change, (look at the '60's)
Who said "You all laugh at me because I am different, I laugh at you because you are all the same!" ..."And those that were seen dancing were thought to be crazy by those who could not hear the music....." Hang in there! You will be fine!- try to do some research on FREDRICK DOUGLAS. I bet you will find his quote very interesting! I bet you are really a very smart girl! However, be VERY careful with the wicca. It can be VERY dangerous!GOOD LUCK!!!! Just know that when we make choices that are not "popular" we are setting OURSELVES up for the critisim of others! That is why you should always try to think through the consequences of all of your desisions before you really decide what is right for you! Your mother is probably just frightened and concerned for you and doesn't know how to handle this. By the way,,, those people who used to put me down, all want to be my best friend now! Success is the BEST Revenge!!!
2006-10-20 22:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being different is NOT a mental Disorder. However if your differences may lead you to feel isolated at times may lead to a mental illness. In this case depression. The bottom line is you are happy who you are than that's all good. If you have trouble coping, are thinking about suicide, or feel hopeless that its would be good to talk to someone. As a rule a mental health diagnosis is only made if it was causing the individual distress in one way or another IF it is not then you do not have a mental disorder. Your mom may not like it but you can officially say to your mom that from what you have told me you do not have a mental health disorder currently. If you are happy you are just fine. Just do not hurt others, yourself or get caught up in drugs.
2006-10-20 22:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by clearwatervike 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In England they value their eccentric people. Myself, I enjoy my insanity. Are you & I weird? Who gives a crap? It is NOT a mental illness. So we don't follow all the other sheep. My dad always wore a derby hat - this was in the 80s and he was aroud 60. Wish that hat was still around., now I am about 60.
Would not this world be very BORING :( if we were all alike? Einstien was different: He had an amazingly intuitive mind & some very different political & spiritual ideas.
Keep doing your thing, girl, as long as you're not into torture of mutilation or anything like that. Have fun.
Now Rev. AMY? she may be a different story.......Just kidding. looks like she's written a book. So what?That is what authors do !!!!!!!
2006-10-21 00:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else, you do not have a mental disorder. I was "different" when I was young too. My mom didn't understand either, I think that it's normal. Maybe you could talk to your mother about going to some kind of counseling together, so that you can both get your points across, and your mother can get feed back from an experienced adult. She needs to be less judgmental and more encouraging. Keep on expressing yourself.
2006-10-20 22:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by tinydancer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. You probably have a high iq and see things most don't. Throughout life we all need a clique to feel accepted. Try to realize when "being you" has crossed over into sabotaging yourself.
Our society has little tolerance for those "different." While younger this is a rebellious thrill; older it gets tiresome & others are socially put off by our different (called odd!?) behavior.
When mad & feeling rebellious goes beyond your comfortability level, ask yourself "why am I doing this?" Who are you trying to hurt or get even with? Somehow while still having fun, find boundaries you are comfortable with.
Realize most humans are materialistic, shallow,
scared to be themselves (or even know themselves) & followers. This doesn't make them wrong; it's a herd mentality.
Try to have mentors and/or people you admire. Who in your group drags you down? Who lifts you up & encourages you? How can you stay loyal to yourself & still evolve in this often colorless society?
Find the song that is in you & live your dream. Trees bend in a strong wind & sometimes you will need to adjust. Play your game, know when you are in over your head & trust your gut feelings.
Good luck!!
2006-10-20 23:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think to some extent everyone or at least many see themselves as different. People can feel this way for a variety of reasons. Sometimes a person has a physical disability, or a person was raised differently, or a person has come to different religious beliefs.
While there are many things that can make us feel different from other people, people also forget that people are more alike than they think. Many of the same thoughts and feelings that we think are unique to us many people think and feel as well.
I can relate very well to feeling different as I have mild autism. Sometimes I feel like I am a totally different species from other people. But the more I express myself and talk about what I feel and think, I realize that many people experience the same things to some extent.
2006-10-20 21:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by Julie M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, just because you are different does not mean something is wrong with you. And you have to ask yourself...am I the one who's weird/different or are they the wierd ones? But you also have to ask yourself if what you are right now is what you really want to be or if you just allow yourself to be that way just so you can be different from everyone else. I guess you can call it a quest for self identity. You are only 16yrs, you'll figure yourself out in due time, trust me. But don't rush it. For now, enjoy yourself , love who you are, don't be so hard on yourself. And if those people really care about you, they should love and respect you for who and what you are, not the bloody clothes you wear. I hope i have helped you. Take care, kid!
2006-10-20 21:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by ziggystarr1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people get a psychological thrill out of being different, so that's a mental condition of a very slight nature. Hey, celebrate it. We shouldn't all be jocks or brains or cheerleaders or student body presidents or whatever. At 16 you can try on completely different personalities and approaches to life -- I'd suggest just avoiding the permanently visible things like sex, drugs, tattoos, anything you wouldn't be able to explain later during a job interview.
2006-10-20 21:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by David W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am older than your Mother. You don't have a Mental Condition except adolescence. Unless you are destructive you are within the norm. We all have unique qualities. I still listen to Heavy Metal.
And yes I know they are not Heavy Metal just went to Red Hot Chilli Peppers. At 60 am I weird. Work on your spelling.
2006-10-20 21:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋