I have 2 children 2 months & my oldest 15months.Anyhow they had a pediatrician app 2day.Myself & my childs father were there.Well he treated me really bad while I was pregnant & he has apologized numerous time & asked for another chance to work on somethings but this time together and see after we work on those things if we can get back together.So I decided to allow him to do so as long as he proves that he is willing b/c change starts somewhere.He's been doing great.Calling,coming to see his child,communicating exc..So anyway we're in the room w/the doctor & he starts asking her about h/practice just general questions(which I was also interested in) then out of no where he says"oh let me stop asking questions b4 she (me) thinks im flirting" I go "what i wouldve never thought that". Me im no where near jealous or that dumb to even think like that.Plus she not his type too old.He's never had that problem outta me.Well I got mad & he apologized.How do I handle it mature & respectful?
2006-10-20 14:35:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I was embarrassed and I told him he made me look like a fool.He apologized but I want to let him know that our issues and thats not one of them but our issues are our issues outsiders shouldnt have any idea.That was rude.We are trying this respect thing so I want to hndle thing the right way w/o seeming like i nagging
2006-10-20 14:37:15 · update #1
Let him be a part of tbhe kids life, but find someone better for yourself to be with. This guy's having a hard enough time being mature enough to be even a part time dad - you can do way better!
2006-10-21 00:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is some people just don't change. It's great that his is spending more time with his child .But there could be another motive behind him wanting to work things out. Maybe his got some other issues you know nothing about and needs to find a way out. You could be his ticket and when his through the crisis he may leave again, so just be careful that his not just using you for some other reason.
2006-10-20 21:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have just been trying to make a joke. Behave as if that is the case, basically - ignore it ever happened. Any reaction whatsoever is an over-reaction. Anything else is immature & making an issue out of nothing. Sounds like you've got enough real issues to deal with without inventing new ones.
2006-10-20 21:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by UNITool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the history with you guys but maybe he was just nervous and made a stupid comment. Nobody is perfect. From what you say he is trying really hard, maybe you should just chalk it up to a mistake. He said he was sorry there is nothing else that can be done. To dwell on it will just tear you two back apart and your children need you together (unless of course he abuses you and then you should run far, far away). Nobody likes a naggy, bitchy girlfriend. It just didn't sound like that big of a deal.
2006-10-20 21:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by mamatohaley+1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Were you embarrassed? Maybe tell him why it upset you, but think about what you want to say first. You dont want him thinking that the only reason you were upset was because you were having pregnant moods! Just do teh Dr Phil thing!
2006-10-20 21:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should just kick him in the nuts and be over with him.
2006-10-20 21:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it he was probably around a lot of jealous women in the past.
2006-10-20 21:37:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i bet he was just nervous. i would let it slide, forget about it. he may never do it again or he just may only act like that in the doctors office. my husband used to get like that when we went to our wic appointments. i had to stop taking him along with me.
2006-10-20 21:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by jess l 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he was joking. Let it go.
2006-10-20 21:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋