my cousin has been with her b/f for 3 years and for the most part all they do is fight....... recently she became friends with a guy that she says is really sweet...... she says that she is in love woth her b/f but yet to me her actions say differently..... the only thing is she has a 2 year old little boy.... what should she do? guys please give your opinion
2006-10-20 14:25:38 · 11 answers · asked by i_luv_my_army_man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay first of she is not messing with the new guy all she is is friends secondly the concern for her child in none o f any one business that was not the question..... if anything her child comes first thats why i am asking this question she does not want to break that bond between father and son up but needs to be happy...... not saying that the other guy can make her happy......
2006-10-20 15:14:25 · update #1
i think that she needs to do what is best for her and the baby even if tht means leaving but giving visitation rights
2006-10-20 14:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her first concern should be for her son and what kind of environment is he being raised in. If there is constant fighting or arguing it not only effects she and her boyfriend but it hurts her son in other ways. Yes he is young, but this sort of life is not good for him and it might cause him problems later on. She needs to realize that just because you love someone doesn't mean that it's the best place for she and her son to be.
2006-10-20 21:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tabatha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. I hate to put it what way but as a guy who in the past couldn't see the trees through the forest I can say that all your good intentions will most likely fall on deaf ears. You might make a difference in the long run but in the interim your efforts will just bring you heart ache. BTW - TY for caring for her, the world needs more people like you!
2006-10-20 21:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by RM706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she would have to be the one to make any major changes. If she gets tired of the fighting then she will probably leave him! Why are they fighting -is it over the new guy? She needs to settle down with one man and consider the child!
2006-10-20 21:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should find someone with a secure job that loves kids and is ready to settle down.
That's going to be really hard though because the number of men who want to walk into a ready made family is very low.
Best bet is to find a nerd that she can stand to look at. The cool guys aren't going for that ready made family scene.
2006-10-20 21:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by noobienoob2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the level of understanding of this new guy, is he responsible, is he better than the first one, changing should rather be for a better. if he is responsibl try and creat visiting right.
2006-10-20 21:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of them are is her call, not enough information, and how the new is handle the reality.
2006-10-20 21:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what we think, it's obvious that she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend.
2006-10-20 21:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling, its not that bad.
2006-10-20 21:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the kids her b/f then she is screwed... if not then tell her that she can do better then what she has...
2006-10-20 21:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋