Why cant I smile more oftenly? I have God in my life and I know that with him life can be much better, is it because i havent had a girlfriend since 2003 and i know im not ugly, ive tried looking for a girlfreind in church but they are too young and if i look for a girlfreind who is a non-beleiver then it would go against the bible for beleivers cannot be unequally yoked with another or is it because i havent attended college yet ( which im planning to)? honest advice please thank you.
2006-10-20 13:52:32 · 24 answers · asked by kevindefili 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You need the Holy Ghost. It brings righteousness, peace, and joy.
2006-10-20 13:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Southern Apostolic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, the best thing to do is focus on what you have, not what you do not have. I am new to this believer thing but I beleive there is something in the Bible that says you must do good with the little before God trusts you with the much. God knows what is best for you. You are probably just not ready yet and perhaps God has other things planned for you. If you really are a believer you should focus on listening to God and he will reveal the answer to your question. So, instead of asking us yahoos ask God.
2006-10-20 21:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually hon, the reason you have been unable to find a girlfriend is you are unhappy with yourself. A man who is content with himself is a powerful attractor to women.
But let me give you a small piece of light to carry away with you. Your emotions are telling you that you are unhappy; but, and this is the part you should remember, emotions are extremely temporary and unpredictable. Write it across your mirror if you have to, but get it into your head that the way you feel is going to change, probably very soon.
Don't strive for happiness, for it is fleeting, but seek (and store up) treasure in the things of Heaven, seek those things which man cannot steal ... yeah, you know the verse.
Oh, and btw? Smiling is an action, not an emotion. So smile, even when you don't feel like it, determine to be happy, not just feeling happiness, and soon you will be happy. Promise.
2006-10-20 21:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question is, why do you need a girlfriend to make you happy? Before you even begin looking for a relationship, you sould first work on you. As God to help you learn to love yourself. You won't find happiness in a woman. If you go into a relationship looking for that other person to make you happy, then you will only find disappointment if you don't get the attention you think you should get, or if you have an argument with your sig. other. Don't look to external things for your well being. Instead of spending your time being lonely or pining for someone to love, spend your time getting to know you and what it is that you like to do.
2006-10-20 21:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by shybusch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried praying to God for a friend? Of course you still have to put in the effort to meet girls. It is hard these days to find someone of the opposite sex who shares the same faith as you.
Not finding a girlfriend has nothing to do with the fact you're not in college yet. The most important thing to do in your life right now is building up your friendship with God first (reading your Bible every night and praying to Him everyday)
2006-10-20 21:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by sunny4life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep Searchin' Bro...Look For Someone With Your Interests And Keep Searchin'...Go To Events And Such Where You Think You Would Find People Your Age With Your Same Interests And Likes. Always Works Out.
2006-10-20 20:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by KrAsH 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I remember feeling the way you feel, but I can tell you this after being married for 5 years. Women do not make your life BETTER. They make it more complex and dificult!!! Marry with the idea that you are going to raise a family for God and its going to be a HUGE challenge, it in itself will not make you happy! Studies show that especially after having kids peoples happiness plunges and its true. Kids do bring joy to your life but they also bring a ton of work and tension between you and your spouse!
We give up our lives 3 times in this life, for God, then when we marry, then when we die! Follow the advice of Paul and dont marry unless you absolutely have to and when you do make sure she is a BELIEVER! (you were very wise to quote that verse) and that she has a GOOD relationship with her family!!! (For she will emulate the relationship she with her family with her new family) If she doesnt get along with her family, DONT MARRY HER!! Trust me Ive had many gfs and my current wife has same problem and I wasnt smart enough to see it back then!
2006-10-20 21:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings follow your thoughts, your thoughts follow your focus.
Do you spend any time loving life, loving being alive?
Do you spend any time thanking life for your being alive?
Do you spend any time loving God?
Do you spend any time thanking God?
If you're going around being desperate and unhappy, you are most likely repelling everyone that you'd like to have a romantic relationship with.
Put aside half an hour a day and just focus on your breathing,
inhale and love (life, or god, or being you, or whatever), and
exhale and thank (ditto).
And your life will improve, you'll get happy, and you'll become attractive.
Bright Blessings!!!
2006-10-20 21:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by raxivar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your heart and your mind to what God has planned for you. Maybe he isn't ready to send someone to you yet. Just continue to live your life as God leads you, and believe me....when you least expect it, there she will be. Also, I do not believe you can't at least start a friendship with a non-believer. You may be the very one that shows her the way to believe!!!! God probably already has someone picked out especially for you and he is giving you this time to grow and mature in his light so that YOU will be prepared when he brings you together....Peace be with you.
2006-10-20 21:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kiddo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a list yes a shopping list
Yes a list of all the attributes that you would see as valuable in a wife
like a beautiful heart ect and ask God to allow you to meet that person so you could be a blessing to her too
God I ask you to find this man a christian woman
the bible sis that he who finds a wife finds a good thing
way to go! God is doing something in your heart hand on in there even when there is pain
2006-10-20 20:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by proscunio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to make sure your mental motivation is positive.
Once you are confident that your mental motivation has no ill will, that you are just being open, honest and friendly, you should be able to smile at just about everyone.
Just work on making sure your mental motivation is positive, *true* confidence comes from that. And make sure you are not doing this *just* with women, it should be with everyone (otherwise your mental motivation is not really positive, but one of manipulation).
2006-10-20 21:03:34 · answer #11 · answered by Bad Buddhist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋