My bf is such a moron, he keeps telling me that we cant live together because i am 25 and i still live at home and so he says I dont know what its like or how to do it so I need to do that first. honestly I really dont think its that hard. right? i know it sounds like hes just making excuses, but he is serious everytime i ask him, so i just wonder if anyone thinks this way.
2006-10-20 13:45:21 · 16 answers · asked by Freaky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a definite advantage to have lived on your own and been responsible for your own bills for a year or so. Your boyfriend is right. You should live on your own and learn how to handle finances.
By the way, if your relationship progresses after you have lived on your own, your marriage will be much better. Remember, finances are the number one reason for divorces.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-20 13:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first three to six months of living on your own is hard mainly due to the increase in expenditures. Does your boyfriend live on his own? If he does, then get him to show you typically what he ends up spending each month. Then add about 10 percent more to that, and budget yourself to meet that amount. The easiest way money disappears when you first live on your own is groceries, so start doing the grocery shopping for your family so that you see what costs what, and where money easily disappears. If you have a lot of debt then moving out on your own will be a lot harder.
Your boyfriend is probably being serious, but at the same time, would he be saying this to you if you were 30 and still at home? Right now is probably the best time while you are still young, if things go wrong, you can always move back home. Might be a bit harder to do when you are older and possibly live somewhere different than your relatives.
2006-10-20 20:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is hard to live by yourself.
Pay all sorts of bills(hydro, cable, phone etc), plan what you eat with consideration of your healthy, do laundry, clean, take out garbage, do grocery shopping, banking, paying rent...and more!
I've been living with my husband since I was 19 and it has been tough! Keeping up with work, keep the friendships going, keep the house organize and tidy...takes all of your time! I can't believe how parents can raise children with doing all these stuff!
But there are good side too. You have more privacy, money to spend if you manage the finances well, and so on. You will enjoy it, you won't...I don't know but it's worth a try!
Think about the worst situation before you do anything. Don't take things too easily and...I think you should start living by yourself and show how responsible you are to your boyfriend. See how he reacts for that. Good luck!
2006-10-20 20:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is ridiculous, when most of us back then left the house we were brought up in when we got married. In our days we would never leave home, that's the way it was. I think he's off on this one. Why would you want to leave your home where I'm sure your comfortable, and spend all that money to get an apartment, furnish it, cook clean pay rent to prove to him your ready. Tell him to take a hike now. When your ready to move you'll know, Don't let anyone try to control you, stay strong and do what you believe is best for you.
2006-10-20 20:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case I would say it sounds like he is scared to take this step but he is right it is very hard to live on your own. There are alot of things that you have to deal with. You have to worry about bills, food, gas, rent, electricity, there never seems to be enough money. It can be overwhelming. You sould really know how to take care of yourself before letting someone else do it for you. If you don't what are you going to do if it doesn't work out and you end up with no where to go and no way of taking care of yourself. Take it from me it is better to know how before you have to do it all on your own.
2006-10-20 20:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right it is better to live alone first. This way you see how you handle life alone. Plus, you need time to figure out you before bringing someone else in the same place.
2006-10-20 20:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by wheels302001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand, is he hiding something? Why doesnt he just say that he likes things the way they are, and wants some space and isnt ready for a live-in relationship. There is nothing to living alone, it just takes money basically.
2006-10-20 20:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu'd be suprized how hard it can be I was shocked. I went from my mom's to being married for 14 yrs then living alone with my 2 sons and it was sometimes incredibly hard to be living alone. But it taught me alot! You really should try it.
2006-10-20 20:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by MandaSue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be totally responsible for every thing in your life, from paying all the bills, to getting your self out of bed in the morning, Every thing that your parents do, is now yours to do and do well. does this sound hard?
2006-10-20 20:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all you! the BILLS, laudry, cleaning everything. nothing gets done unless you do it. when i moved out for the first time i had to get a cat because i was bymyself and i was so lonely. i think moving in with your bf would actually be a better idea than moving out by yourself but that is just me.
2006-10-20 20:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by imissyou_iluvyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋