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2006-10-20 13:05:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I've met adults who should have been spanked as children--I was, it's not child abuse, it's discipline--good question, momma!
2006-10-20 13:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, once a parent believes they have to use physical force to get something accomplished, they have lost. Physical force decreases genuine respect children feel for parents and frustrates parents. (The respect a child feels isn't respect but fear and fear is a poor substitute for love, honor and obey.) A conscientious adult can use brains rather than brawn.
An adult who feels helpless, strikes. But by spanking, you are teaching a child that hitting is a way to resolve conflict. If you spank, don't be upset when your kid hits someone.
If spanking worked, you could do it once and it would be over but I have noticed that children who get spanked, get spanked a lot. Obviously, it doesn't work!
Now if you're talking about two consenting adults...different story! ;)
2006-10-20 20:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most definitely. To respond to JewishGirl, yes children are people too, but don't even adults need (self)discipline? A child will never learn to respect others or to discipline themselves if you yourself do not have the self-discipline to set boundaries which are reasonable, and are able to re-enforce those boundaries in a way which the child can understand.
I'll qualify this next bit, as this comes from my own experience, not just as a parent, but also from studying child-development as one of the elements of my teaching degree. Pre-adolescents are not capable of understanding more complex forms of discipline, such as discussions as to why something is wrong, or grounding etc. Discipline NEEDS to be at a level which meets their stage of (brain) development. Appropriate discipline (notice I say discipline not punishment, as you are aiming to teach not seek retribution) should be:
*Concise (not drawn out)
*Prompt (don't leave it too long or just like a puppy they will not understand WHY you are disciplining them).
*Uncomfortable - if it is bearable of insufficiently unpleasant, where is the deterrent?
*Appropriate to the misdeed.
*Done in love (always!)
Now a smack is not always the most appropriate form of disciple - sometimes the loss of privileges can be more effective - but it is often a necessary form of behaviour correction. Is it better to wound their pride a little now, or to have the child grow up with no respect either for themselves or others because you couldn't do what is right by them now?
2006-10-20 20:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♫kanis.lupus♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. But spanking in the right way- It is in love- it is firm yet loving- Just as Our Holy Father is- If you spank out of anger that is not right. Praying with your kids afterwards is a great thing- explaining to them why they were spanked, and how much love them that you dont want to see them grow up and live a life apart from God and train them to follow the Lord- and do what is right in God's eyes.
Proverbs 13:24
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
2006-10-20 20:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only if the child is in immediate physical danger or is putting someone else in physical danger. Any other time, physical punishment is unnecessary and usually the least effective way to deal with kids.
2006-10-20 20:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that there is a time and place for everything. I also believe that there are many ways to handle children. Let the punishment fit the crime.
2006-10-20 20:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as a last resort. I do not believe in hitting though; and there is a difference.
Hitting is done out of anger and frustration and typically strikes various parts of the body.
Spanking is done as a form of discipline/punishment and done in one area; the bottom.
Any form of punishment, in my opinion should be predictable, swift and appropriate consequence for the action/infraction.
This is a touchy subject because people will have different points of view based on their up bringing; personal beliefs, experience and knowledge.
2006-10-20 20:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I bet you spank your mommy every single night.
2006-10-20 20:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy every minute of it. If I'm a bad boy will I get another?
2006-10-20 20:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Shaman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In certain circumstances, not as an immediate reaction to all misbehavior.
2006-10-20 20:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Dez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋