I got into an argument with my sister-in-law. I think both of our egos were in the way. My brother felt bad to be in the middle of it, but sided with her. I'm ready to move on and be a family again. We haven't spoken in almost a month. I'm open to trying to patch things up. I don't really want to apologize, because I don't think I did anything wrong. She probably feels the same way. She may be nasty if I call her or contact her - but maybe not. How should I move forward?
2006-10-20 12:56:27 · 9 answers · asked by liddabet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My advice is .....be the "bigger person" and admit mistakes were made. It might hurt your pride, but would you rather be right, or happy? Talk to her....tell her you're sorry, and mend those fences before any more time goes by. You'll be pleased you did! Good Luck!!
2006-10-20 13:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, every time I don't think I did anything wrong, it's really meant I was wrong twice. :-)
So here's what you do... can you genuinely say you're sorry that the two of you had the disagreement (even if it's not apologizing for whatever started it in the first place), and that you'd like to see if she's willing to get past it? You can make a point that whatever the initial disagreement was may well be something you're never going to see eye to eye on, but you've decided you don't want to let it keep the family apart (or however you want to put it).
And if that doesn't work, challenge her to a pie fight. Tell her it's an old tradition in your family, dating back to the 1600s. You may never patch up the rift you had, but at least you'll both be laughing about it.
2006-10-20 13:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just call her up and be honest. Say "listen, i just wanted to let you know i still believe in my side of the arguement, but enough is enough. I need to find a birthday present for a friend, did you want to come shopping w/me at the mall?"
Shopping always perks a person up :o) = Retail therapy, it's fantastic.
I wouldn't say YOU need to find a pair of new shoes, because she may be snappy and say 'my opinion will probably be wrong' or she'll help you pick out a REALLY ugly pair of shoes
jsut let her know you miss her and are the first to 'give in' to the silent treatment. You'll be the adult in this situation to get things resolved.
2006-10-20 13:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not be nasty if you show sincerity in patching things up with her. But actually depends on her personality on that. You could try to just talk to her again like nothing happened. And to forget it, as past is past already. It really isn't a nice feeling to have a not so nice situation with a family member, that is an in-law. Try to be nice to her as you were once used to, and see how she'd react on that.
2006-10-20 13:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you will possibly desire to kick her out and recover from her. She is poison. She has too lots extra bags, she is a taker and he or she does not sound like she will exchange. i won't be able to take indifference. If somebody is detached in direction of me, I determine they are not involved so I pass away. She may well be the form of woman who needs what she does not have so she might come returned yet please, do no longer have confidence her. She has shown you the form of woman she is and it sounds to me such as you will possibly be able to desire to accomplish that lots extra ideal. does not or no longer that is great to locate somebody who loves you as much as you adore her?
2016-10-15 06:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of how great it will be to take the first step, make the first move, make the effort - she will feel TERRIBLE that she didn't do that. Always take the upper road - it's harder, but the rewards are greater.
2006-10-20 13:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember she is now FAMILY just love her. if she dosn't want to that is her problem but as long as you try DON'T FORGET YOU BRO it is his other half. just love em. it is a short life one of us can go at the snap of a finger. CHEERS i hope you and your sis inlaw patch things up. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-20 13:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you see her just act like nothing has happened....
she may want to say something too, but probably wont,
you'll get talking about old times, and forget the bad.....
2006-10-20 14:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you say exactly what you have written here to her!
If you can't bring yourself to say the words - then write.
2006-10-20 12:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋