My boyfriend cheated on me multiple times 3 times to be exact and i forgave him each time do you think that that is plain nuts or what. The 1st time it was with a girl that works at the toll booth and the 2nd time it was with someone that lives close to his house and the 3rd time was with someone he claims was from around his old neighborhood.
If forgiving him isn't bad enough I had his now 5 month old son
He's says that it won't happen again but if it does what should i do?
2006-10-20 12:04:56 · 26 answers · asked by myeesha_ani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**** all that **** ^
2006-10-20 12:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by beat it bitc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...girl you need to leave! My ex husband cheated on me multiple times before we were married, during the marriage, while I was pregnant, while we were reconciling...you get the idea. It's hard when you love someone and you want to believe that they are gonna change but the truth is for a man to betray you over and over knowing that what they're doing is wrong...well he's not the type of man you SHOULD be with. And now with a child...you probably feel like this is the time you need him more than ever! Im here to tell you that people CAN change, your b/f CAN change BUT you don't have to wait around for that change to come and truth is...it may NEVER come. Change comes from within a person! It can't be forced or guilted by someone else. If your b/f really WANTED to change he would've never betrayed you again after the first time. My honest, 1st hand experience advice wants to tell you to take your child, take your heart and leave. It won't be easy...expect lots of tears, hard times, anger, saddness but better to do it now than later. Time is the only thing that is gonna heal a broken heart but it WILL heal! If I would've stayed with my ex...i would've just continued the cycle and probably been raising more kids by myself and you definetly don't want that. Don't continue the cycle...it's up to you to break it! You have to protect yourself! Trust yourself to make the right decision! Good Luck!
Email me if you have any questions about custody, child support, or anything! Sometimes we just need a listening ear y'know! honeybee32_1@yahoo.com
2006-10-20 19:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you should have left him way back.
But is it only because of his son that you're still in this relationship? If you can support yourself financially, then I think it would be a good idea to leave. It might be problematic if he wishes for custody of his son but since your son is still so young the courts are more likely to be in your favour, especially if you can support yourself.
Are your family members supportive? Go home to them and talk it over with the people that you trust and love. It will also give you time out from him as well as get a clear head as to what to do.
The longer you stay with him, the more your resolve will break.
Whatever you decide to do, go through with it all the way okay?
God bless.
2006-10-20 19:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by demi-kun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, because once a cheater always a cheater.....do I need to get in this screen and slap some sense into you? (Just Kidding). You don't want anyone like that around your son. He sound like a bad influence. You don't want your child growing up watching daddy hurt mommy all the time. Let him go, and raise your son to be the man he needs to be. And there is nothing wrong with making sure he takes care of his child even if you two aren't together. Take Care.
2006-10-20 19:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once is enough, two is too much.
Why you let him do it for the third time.?
Yah i know cause you love him, right.
And you are too blind to see that he is a player.
Did he promise you before that it wont happen or this is the first time he said that it will never happen again?
If he say it before it does not mean anything now.
But if he say it 4 the first time , Try give him the last chance.If he do it again, dump him. Move on and find the right one for you. Goodluck.
2006-10-20 19:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have given him a second chance. But I know how it is when you love someone and you can't help but forgive them. He obviously isnt respecting you, or your 5 month old son. He will only do it again and hurt you. I wouldn't have let him back. You can do SOOOOO much better for yourself, you just have to be strong. If not for you, do it for your son, you don't want him to learn those kind of morals. Good luck in whatever you choose to do.
2006-10-20 19:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by GirlyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a player, and he is not going to stop, because you let him tell you anything, and take him back, time after time. Now you have to start thinking about your son. Their are a lot of diseases out their in the streets. Don't let him do this to you. How can you deal with his cheating? He needs to grow up, and start to be a man, for his son to look up to!
2006-10-20 19:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid he's not going to stop his pattern of cheating. You've already shown him that he can get away with it again and again and now he has the added leverage of the child. He already knows that you're not going any where and he can get away with what ever he wants and you'll still be there. I would suggest you pack up and leave because it's going to be getting worse now not better. Good luck.
2006-10-20 19:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that he has cheated three times and has gotten away with it he now believes he can do it again and get away with it. Now if you caught him all three times you should leave, but if confessed than it means he at least acknowledges that he was wrong. I would try hard to stay together or really close just for your son's sake.
2006-10-20 19:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl the same thing happend to me. Leave him, he wont change. if he hasn't changed after his son was born, he wont change, sorry to say. you can do better by your self. I am. and i am so happy i left his ***. It will be hard at first, them first couple of weeks, months, even, but God will work miracles in ya life. SO just let go and let God. Leave him. a new and better man will come along and sweep you off ya feet so high, gurl, you'll think your flying.
2006-10-20 19:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by *~*Lady_bug*~$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# times that you know of? Girl you need to leave him now. It will only get harder with time. Watch ENOUGH with Jennifer Lopez. Not that he will start beating you up. But it will not end with his type. He will leave you later for an even dumber girl than you that will have another kid with him. Sorry to sound so mean but you need to hear it. He WILL leave you soon.
2006-10-20 19:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Big Daddy of the RGV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋