My mother-in-law is turning 70 years old. All my husband's siblings wanted to have a party for her at a restaurant. So my husband and I decided to go to my mother-in-law's favorite restaurant to ask for prices. We discussed it with all of my husband's siblings and my sister-in-law (husband's brother's wife) does not want to pay and thinks it is too expensive. However, it the expenses will be split with the 5 siblings.
She claims that they have no money (which is a lie). They have the money to have an expensive birthday weekend for her husband.
May I also add that the birthday party for my mother-in-law won't be until the spring, which will be plenty of time for them to save money.
I just feel that she is being selfish. My in-laws have done alot for all of their children. She is also one of my mother-in-law's favorites. I would just love to tell her that her favorite daughter-in-law is really a selfish witch.
2006-10-20 11:33:57 · 7 answers · asked by angela127 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Steer clear of telling your mother in law the princess is a witch, she will eventually figure that out on her own. I think I would reason with her just the way you put it in your question, they have until spring to save for the event. Maybe suggest everyone in the family put in a set amount to a little piggy bank (or real account if necessary) in that way you won't be pointing the finger at one person. Usually it's easier to come up with a little amount once a week or every other week. Explain to her how it just wouldn't be right for them to be absent, it would be such a loss for mom and then save the day with a reasonable suggestion. Be sure to add tip, tax and a little extra for unforeseen expenses. You never know maybe you could collect enough to have mom transported in a limo.....Good luck
2006-10-20 11:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is allowed to decline and sent her regrets to your mother in law and let her explain why she will not be attending. I think that perhaps this is a grab for attention on her part, as she does have time to get the money together
2006-10-20 11:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out the price per couple or sibling, send everyone advance notification that the party must be prepaid. if they pay, they play, if not then they can't come to the party.
and she does sound like a witch, you should feel sorry for her husband, he has to live with her 24/7!!!!
2006-10-20 11:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by NeverReady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will the only thing i can tell you to do is let them be cheap so you and the rest of your in law just exclude them out of the plans and make sure they is at the end of the table were they feel left out do not get mad just leave them alone when they ask how is everything oh everything coming alone fine
2006-10-20 11:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Summer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to help pay for going out and everyone else agrees then let her stay at home. Plan on going without her!
2006-10-20 11:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her husband to pay then. if not say they cant go, everyone should pitch in or it wont be fair on you and the others if u are expected to pay for them as well, tell them to pay or stay away
2006-10-20 11:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres one in every family...dont let her ruin your plans your mother in law deserves it........make plans with or without their participation
2006-10-20 11:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋