I just got dumped by my boyfriend of 1.5 yrs and I miss him so much - I want to talk to him and tell him things that I never got to say. I also want him to know how devastated I am. I know I shouldn't do it but I really really want to.
2006-10-20 11:22:38 · 23 answers · asked by sad girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go ahead...express yourself....because you might regret it when you are older...and always wonder what might have been....
and it might work out good.
2006-10-20 11:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, WHY were you dumped? Maybe its something you did, or that he did, or maybe the relationship wore itself out, and now its time for the both of you to separate.
Secondly, he dumped you. So, I don't think its best for you to go running back to him. Obviously he's feeling differently about you now, and most likely he doesn't feel the same love for you as he did before. However, if you really feel like he's a positive influence in your life, you might want to try having his as a good friend. Unless he's a jerk. Then LEAVE him alone.
I suggest you take a break from the opposite sex altogether, at least for a few days. Figure out who you are, and what you want. And give the relationship thing another shot. Maybe not with him though...
2006-10-20 18:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Patty_08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances.
You can try writing him a letter. That way he will see it, and it will give you a chance to figure out what really happened and what to do.
If your ex just dumped you and was a jackass about it, then you're better off without him. Sure, you'll miss him for a bit. I confess, I cried like a baby when I told one of my former boyfriends I was leaving him. But once I got past that, I felt a whole lot better, enough that even my physical health improved.
Be smart. Tell him if you think you really need to. But don't go back begging.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 19:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy! If he still doesn't want to get back together with you, then he does not deserve you. If he can't realize what he's missing, then that's his fault. Wait a couple days, and if he wants you back, then he wants you back. If he doesn't, you can't really persuade him to change his mind, even if he did, would you not feel different if he's only staying with you because YOU want him to? If you want to talk to him, talk to him. I'm sure he won't mind, you were together for 1.5 years. =) Good luck.
2006-10-20 18:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Shanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might contact your ex, but not quite that way. I don't know how it ended, but contact might be good so he knows how you feel. Please don't chase and beg. Things happen . If he didn't feel it anymore, then there's nothing either of you can do. It wouldn't be fair to either of you to continue if his heart wasn't in it. He would be prolonging the inevitable. Once the spark is gone, it's gone. you just can't make it return. I have been in his shoes. I cared about this girl so much, but the flame was gone. I strung her along so long, but no matter how I tried , It was over. You need to face it , it might be over and it's not fair to him to ask him to take you back. SORRY
2006-10-20 19:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by rock d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell...you might find that you don't miss him at all...and meet someone else much better...but for now, of course you miss him...don't phone him and let him alone to think things out..but don't let him make a habit of this...or dump you to date some other girl and then come crawling back...good luck darlin
2006-10-20 18:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you for a reason, so find other things to do to keep occupied. In a couple months, I'm sure you will run into him and then you can talk like normal people. Too much emotion right now.
2006-10-20 18:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling that you are having and all i can say is just let him go. be silent and that will get his attention. if you keep calling him you are just going to annoy him and never want to talk to you again. i would know because i have done that and now i just let him go this morning for the last time. im totally in love with him and want to be with him but you just have to give him his space and he will realize that you are the girl for him. im trying my best to not call him or text him or anything. silence gets him thinking about what and who you are doing...not saying that you are. but thats what i am going to try to do. you should try it too. good luck and be strong.
ashley jo
2006-10-20 18:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by ashley jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If he dumped u, he isn't likely to take u back. When he gets another girlfriend who is a b****, he'll wish he had u back. Try to resist the urge to crawl back. U will get over him, even though it will take time. He isn't the guy ur waiting for.
2006-10-20 18:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by dragonkisses 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it was a healthy relationship and you were both faithful. Also, it depends if you broke up over a fight that got blown out of paportion or if the you were just not compatable.
2006-10-20 18:29:31 · answer #10 · answered by redhawk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't contact him. If he wants you back he'll come back if not then you're just going to have to move on. You're probably better off without him. You'll just make him resent you more if you keep contacting him when he doesn't want you to.
2006-10-20 18:31:47 · answer #11 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋