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my best friend has been depressed for the last couple of months. I asked him to get help but he told me no one would care. I care so i guess i'm no one to him. But anyways he will not see the school counselor or anything. How can i help him, i really care about him but he doesn't believe me

2006-10-20 11:19:45 · 19 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I have been depressed, even tried to kill my self a few times. When you get depressed, you just don't care anymore. It feels like the wieght of the world is on your shoulders. Even now I don't know how i didn't care at all for things i had once loved. At first i liked the feeling of having the world agiast me, then i wanted out, but i didn't really care so i decided to try to kill my self. I tryed at least eight times, from drowning my self, dropping a 50lbs barbell on my neck, trying to get hit by cars to attempting to get stuck out side in minus fifty weather. But everytime, i failed or found power deep inside me the will to live. No atr how bad of situation I was in, i always found my way out with only minor injuries. I even tried to kill my self by going as fast as i could down a ski mountian then smashing to a tree and falling the rest of the weigh down (iwas going over 40 mph as told by my friend) I feel about 200 ft and only eneded up with bruises. After each suscide attempt i would come out for a day or two thinking i beat depression but than it would come back and take over. Then finally after about a year and a half, i came out of depresion for what seems to be for good (there were afew relaspes, but they only lasted a few days). I came out because my girlfreind dumped me, this may seem ood but i will explian, In grade six there had been this girl i really liked. I asked her to go with me to every dance dance but she said no. I tried six times then i finally asked some one else. As soon as i had she wanted to go with me but i had aready commited to thsi girl. aslo there had beeen a girl i had like dfor even longe but i thought she was out of my leage and she had a boyfriend so i stuck with the girl i had. the she dumped him and i didn't want ot dump th girl i had so i became depresed. And when she dumped me, i became free. I still haven't asked the girl but she and i talk alot and i going to ask her soon. but this eems like a long way around to anwsering you question but i thought it might help you understand what your friend is going through. the best way is if you can figue out what is dpressing him. asking won't help because h won't tell youand he may not even know. I didn't figure out why i as dpressed untill after I had won the battle. so it is up to you or someone you ask for help like a physciratist to figure out what th problem is, he won't be a big help.

When u are talking to him, don't talk about getting help, talk about othe things that he is interested in now, not hings hes was intrested in before. Also because he feels alond words don't help. Give him hugs and hold his hand or get a nice girl that he likes to do it. He won't fel alone and this will help. when talking to a girl he likes he will feel better, i know it may sound odd but thast just what it feels lik to be dpressed

Good luck

2006-10-20 11:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by random_398 1 · 0 0

Talk to the school counselor and make it clear that their needs to be an intervention because he is suicidal. He might not be yet but he will get worse. This can be taken care of with the proper medication and a little therapy. The trouble is that in this nation if you are mentally ill the system is set up not to help you unless you check your self in. He has parents and they need to know. An intervention can get him the help he needs and he will be fine rather quickly. He only has a chemical imbalance due to a bi polar problem. It happens in a lot of teenagers. So does suicide so do something. This is curable.

2006-10-20 11:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

it scared me when I heard i'm going to pass to hell...yet that isn't the final way, um, You confer together with her, that is been a mutually as in view that i've got been depressed cuz i exchange into so unhappy 4 no reason. :/ hmmm in simple terms help her SOO lots and tell her you would be terriblely unhappy and could pass over her. I actual have that feeling commonplace it hurts lots that I wanna die, yet, i understand that individual is alive and healthy. :) tell her you will possibly pass over HER lots even i might!! x]

2016-10-15 06:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Ok, when you can't pull yourself away from a problem after you keep trying again and again....letting yourself be "sucked" in....that's called co-dependency; meaning you don't have the problem, but you insist on getting more involved then you should; You have to step back and let the professionals take over: advise his school counselor and his local physician of what's happening and let them handle the problem; your friend may need medicine or to be put in a hospital for a while or maybe just a swift kick in the butt to get him moving! YOU TELL THE PEOPLE IN CHARGE! TOMORROW!

2006-10-20 11:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by sweet ivy lyn 5 · 0 1

Tell an adult. It would probably be best to ask to see the school counselor and tell her/him that you're worried about your friend, so that she/he can call him in and chat with him. She/he will also call his parents if she senses that he is a danger to himself.

It might seem like you're betraying his trust, and he might be mad initially, but I'm sure you'd prefer a mad friend over a dead friend, right? I was seriously depressed at one point, and it took me attempting suicide to get help- I would have gone through a lot less pain if one of my friends would have just told someone.

2006-10-20 11:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0 1

Use small and simple means. Begin by telling him that you care, make sure that he knows that... get his other friends to talk w/ him also... one of the biggest ways to stop depression is friends, counsiling is sorta a last ditch effort, so try to talk w/ him, make him feel better about himself

2006-10-20 11:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by duffusd 3 · 0 0

Tell him "depression or a stress-tiredness is the antithesis of sex"Anything can help relieve his/her depression can put a man's mind back on more joyfulness.Just hold his hand and massage it.He just wanted to you but you yourself never care for his desire.

2006-10-20 11:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0 0

All I can say, is to be there for him, even if you don't have anything to do or your bored out of your mind. just be there for him. he needs you more than he, and you know. i know from experience, that it can be frustrating at times, but in the end, he Will appreciate your support. i dint know how helpful this will be, but know that you are not alone in the battle against depression.

2006-10-20 11:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Still a Junebug! 2 · 0 0

You get up go to him and tell him you had enough that he needs to get his butt up and get help Now and that you are not joking tell him this has to stop the only thing he does is think silliness you tell him that from today that stupidity is OVER you walk or I'll drag you to go look for help tell him he's not a baby anymore and you will not sit and see him like that anymore STOP MEANS STOP

2006-10-20 11:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by beautiful 2 · 1 1

Try giving him a kids helpline number where he can speak to someone about the problems he's facing..Its confidential. That might work best.

2006-10-20 11:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra 3 · 0 0

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