I am 13 years old going on 14, and my boyfriend is 16 years old. And we were thinking about having a baby.Well actually he was thinking about having a baby. I told him that I wanted to have a baby too but I think im too young. I dont know how to tell him that I want to wait a couple of years because we have been talking about this for about 5 mths and he really wants to have this baby.
2006-10-20 11:14:16 · 10 answers · asked by Samya 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Why would a 16 year old guy want a baby? I think he's more interested in locking you down for life. If he hasn't got the patience to wait until you're ready (remember you're the one who's going to gain 35 pounds and grow out of all of your clothes and have stretch marks everywhere the belly pushes out, and have to push something the size of a bowling ball out you know where), then maybe he isn't right for you. It takes somewhere around $1000 a month just to support a baby the right way, rent, food, clothes, diapers, doctor's visits, etc. If he's not making at least that much, how are you going to live? He needs to know that you want to wait until you're both out of high school and he has worked at least a year, so you know he can keep a job. Otherwise you're going to be in seriously dire straights.
2006-10-20 11:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why inthe world would you kids want to have a baby at your ages? You should be enjoying your teen years - you will NEVER have the chance to be teenagers again. You are much to young to be even considering having a baby. HOW WOULD YOU TAKE CARE OF IT? How will you finish school, where will you live? Do you realize that having a baby is very expensive? What about health insurance, clothing, food, housing - all these things need to be taken into consideration. Or are you planning to be a "welfare" family and "use" the system ? Forget about it and just enjoy your teen years. You are way to young for this responsibility. Once you have a baby, your life will change completely. When you are old enough, then you can have babies. But not now. You will both have to get jobs - is that what you want at "almost 14" and 16? No more parties, no more movies unless you hire a baby sitter - who will pay for that? Or are you planning to have a baby and then let your parents tke care of it while you continue on your merry way? Do you realize that having a baby not a game - it is a great responsibility. Babies get sick and doctor bills mount up. Who will pay your doctor bills - who will pay your hospital bills? You better get this thought out of your heads and do what teenagers are supposed to do - have fun.
2006-10-20 18:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not even be thinking of having a baby. Neither should your 16 year old boyfriend. You are WAY WAY WAY to young. i just turned 21 and i had my son last October and i sometimes feel that even I am too young for a baby. What are you two thinking?? Who will support this baby??Your parents? they already are raising you...they dont need another baby to raise. You obviously have no clue how much money it takes to have a baby. My husband and I spend about 50-60 dollars a week just on the basic baby needs (diapers, formula, wipes, clothes....not to mention the other household bills such as electricity, water, rent, groceries and so on...) You need to sit down with your boyfriend (who in MY opinion is too old for you) and tell him that you are both too immature to have a baby and if he does not understand, then leave him alone...HE IS NOT WORTH IT!! DONT RUIN YOUR LIFE BY HAVING A BABY AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE.
2006-10-20 18:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no. You are too young, he is too young. Tell him to get a puppy. Who will take care of a baby when he wants to be a teenager and have a social life? What kind of job can he get to support a baby? (Kids cost $250,000 dollars to raise until they are 18. This doesn't include college).
Clothes: $10 an outfit.
Formula $ 16 bucks a can
Stroller, crib, swing $ 1000
Your sanity and ability to enjoy the life you have now? Priceless
2006-10-20 18:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him:
2 yesses=baby
1 no=no baby
If you say no, NO BABY.
And at the ages of 14 and 16, why are you talking about having a baby? You should be talking about the possibility of your first kiss.
Where has all the innocense gone?
2006-10-20 19:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Traditional Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no!! you are both too young still.enjoy being young while you can.its very tough having children and not all toys and cuteness.im 26 and iv got 2 under 3 and i find it hard! wait until your older and can support yourselves.you cant support yourselves and a baby while your so young.
if he doesnt accept that your too young then he has no respect for you.ditch him.
you know your both underage too! hes breaking the law having sex with you never mind wanting babies
best of luck sweetheart
2006-10-20 18:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by pc confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart too young is an understatement. You have your entire life ahead of you. Parenting can be the greatest gift in the world, but you know your not ready. Be honest and open with your boyfriend, if he can't understand your not ready he may not be the right one for you. And I'm glad to see that there are smart young woman out there who understand they are too young to be parents.
2006-10-20 18:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Ask any 13 year old what it is like to have a baby and they will all tell you DON'T do it. You are way too young. You will regret it!! Stand up for yourself and tell him no.
2006-10-20 18:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that a baby is a big responsibility that your not ready to take on just yet, let him know you are still in high school, and young, and you are not financially stable for a baby yet, if he doesn't understand kick him to the curb lol
2006-10-20 19:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Christy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should sit him down and tell him what you are feeling. If does not feel like waiting then you should break up with him.
2006-10-20 18:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋