brandon and i have been friends for two years, and we got to know each other so well. we have only been together as bf/gf for 3 months, but he and i have already talked about having sex. i really want to, and he is an amazingly nice guys and really attractive. he said it's up to me, but i don't want to hurt his feelings by saying no just b/c of time b/c we have SUCH a connection. his friend alluded that he may propose for my bday (nov 23) or possibly christmas or new year's. should we?
2006-10-20 10:46:19 · 21 answers · asked by anabelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you're not quite ready. If you don't feel ready, then don't do it. It sounds like you're getting pretty serious and if you're that close to marriage, then you might want to just wait. Particularly if you have religious beliefs that are making you want to wait, then keep that close to you when you think about it. If you don't know if you're ready, then you're probably not. Even if you don't want to wait until you get married, you will know when you're ready, so honor that above all else. If you're afraid it'll hurt his feelings, he probably isn't the guy for you after all.
2006-10-20 10:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Abcdefg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most people up to this point have said yes. Notice that they don't have a reason. The ones who say no, give an explanation. You must decide for yourself ultimately. I will share that there are several reasons you should not have sex also. One is if you know God, he says "thou shall not commit adultery" That can be defined as having sex outside of marriage. Therefore you could go and have sex, maybe die the next day because we are guaranteed two things,,,death and taxes. If you die, and you have sinned, (which we all have) where would you go. Up or down. Hmmmm. That decision would be made for you. If your relationship is ordained by God, wait and make your relationship that much more special. And praise to your boyfriend who is honarable enough to cause you think about it. Although he is saying "if you want to I will". That is like saying if you want to jump I will,,,or if you want to go to hell then I will too. Hmmmmm. Kind of makes you think a bit. I know it is heavy but so is life.
Something else to think about is what if the condom breaks? What if there is an unknow STD? What if you get pregnant? Are you ready for an 18 year commitment? Actually life commitment. I hope you make a good decision you can live with. I know sex is great but I am married. Just like saving up money to buy a car, it will be so much better if you keep saving and you will appreciate it that much more when you get married. God Bless.
2006-10-20 19:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by stullhead 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Are you mature enough to handle all the responsibility that comes with sex?
Discuss the types of birth control you may use. How will you handle an unplanned pregnancy? Do either of you have any chance of transmitting a disease? What about all the emotional issues that will arise when you become lovers? Are you ready to commit to each other in a deeper way? How will you handle a break-up after sex?
2006-10-20 17:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hun. I have so much to say but I'll keep it short. I would say don't have sex, if you guys break up think how heartbroken you will be. And even though he is a great guy as you say, you'll see how much he REALLY likes you if he can actually wait. If he can't wait and leaves soon, you'll know what kind of guy he is, but if he can wait long or even til marriage then he's a good boy.
I'm a girl saving herself for marriage and trust me guys have used every trick in the book to get me to sleep with them but I haven't and am proud of myself and I have no regrets:)
2006-10-20 17:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't ruin it now . Sex can sometimes open doors to new fields of emotion that sometimes can feel awkward and change the whole mood for a relationship . Wait a little longer .
And p.s. don't plan so much , just go with the flow .
2006-10-20 18:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Aila126 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question online, you're not ready. You should have sex only when you are comepletely ready beyond a doubt. don't say yes because you don't want to hurt his feelings! if he can't wait for you, he doesn't deserve you! Wait until you are sure of it. If there is any doubt, DON'T DO IT!
2006-10-20 17:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are the two of you? Second and MOST important use PROTECTION. If you feel it won't strain the relationship and you have both talked it over together then enjoy.
2006-10-20 17:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait b/c if you have to ask that question to a bunch of strangers you do not need to be having sex....B/c if you aren't sure then don't....only you know when you are ready for that step, if you aren't positive and think you might not be ready, then don't you will regret it.
2006-10-20 17:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you but,if he gets you pregnant you never no if he was playing you he may leave and not claim the baby. I say let him put a ring on your finger then see what your heart says and go for it.
2006-10-20 17:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by princess_cheta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless you really want to and you feel like you're ready for that. but be warned, it may have a negative effect on what seems to be a good friendship. take it slow and don't feel like you have to just because he may be disappointed.
2006-10-20 18:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋