Ok, so..this “guy” and I were together about a yr ago for maybe a month tops, & I realized that I didn’t have feelings for him in that way.He is a great guy and I didn’t want to ruin our friendship (we had known each other for a while) so I pretty much told him that “we” couldn’t work, but I still cared about him and I didn’t want us to grow apart etc. I’ve always felt that I could talk to him about anything, and we still talked and saw each other quite often. Friends kept saying that I was leading him on just by talking to him, and he has told me many times that he doesn’t think he will ever be over me etc. but I’d just try to let it go.I moved, life changed, so on and so forth,but we still talked and just up until recently it’s been that way.I was talking to some people about what had happened with us, and I’m afraid they said something..he has completely stopped talking to me, won’t return my calls etc.I’m just wondering what I did.I mean did he just realize he can't stand me? Help!
2006-10-20 10:18:20 · 7 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been hurt by "guy friends" too many times. Apparently men are incapable of having a friendship if they are attracted to you and then when they realize that nothing will happen or they find someone else, unfortunately your dropped like you were never anything, it is ridiculous, inconsiderate, immature and most of all not worth their friendship if they do that. I have had other guy friends that were not attracted, that had significate others and they told me just what I told you. Men are incapable of "just being friends, if they are attracted to you" Try and move on and not feel guilty. Apparently he wasn't a true friend in the first place and he was using you to see if he could ever get you. Good luck!
2006-10-20 10:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "guy"? You mean the person who was brave enough to admit their feelings for you and who continued to do so because he thought you cared for him too?
Your friends are right. You enjoyed the fact he found you attractive, you wanted the intimacy of being able to "talk about anything" and didn't want to "grow apart" but realised you didn't have feelings for him.
Unfair.
He has recognised you cannot promise him the future he hoped for and has moved on. It doesn't mean he "cannot stand" you, just that he is honest and realistic and has a life to lead that doesn't revolve around you.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing people find you attractive. What is wrong is making them feel there maybe something more when you know perfectly well there is not.
You will probably be really angry with this answer but if you take it on board you may find you have better friendships and, if you are really lucky, an honest and mutually supportive partnership in the future.
2006-10-20 17:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by kittyfreek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult for guys to be "just friends" with girls especially after you have been together. He has probably finally given up on a relationship with you. Leave it alone. If he wants to be friends he will call you.
By the way, if you told people he said he would never get over you, he may be embarrassed and angry about it.
2006-10-20 17:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by JedClampett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably he's just hiding from you to put his life together. as long as he continues to see you he can't get over you as he says. the guy needs a break, some time alone, to finally accept that you are over with him. he probably can't be friends with you as long as he still has feelings and probably hopes to get back together. give him a break and see what happens.
not everyone can stay friends with an ex.
2006-10-20 17:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by Missy ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he just realized that he has to move on! He is definitely inlove with you but of course he is not your type. Put your feet in his shoes, its hard to feel friends if you are so madly inlove. Let him go, and don't call him. Your friends is right. That's good that you care for him, if you REALLY DO. Just don't bother him. He will call you or see you if he wants to be friends with you.
2006-10-20 17:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has either found a new girlfriend or finds it too difficult to continue a "friendship" with you when he desires more. Think of him... you cut him loose, let him go.
2006-10-20 17:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to become moody like that, let him go, that is his loss of a good friend
:+)
or maybe he has something else on his mind now and just needs time alone
2006-10-20 17:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by chastityelizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋