2006-10-20 10:16:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is not beat up fighting and they don't do it around me and my little sister.
2006-10-20 10:21:28 · update #1
no!! every relationship has its up's and down's and if they dont fight at all then thats when you should be worried its all part of being in a relationship it's okay !!
2006-10-20 10:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what form the fighting takes and how long it lasts.
Couples do fight. People are individuals and they won't always agree on things no matter how compatiable they are otherwise. People also tend to grow and change as time goes by, and so a couple can have moments when they become more compatiable and those when they become less.
You're not the same person you were a few years ago, and you probably get into fights occasionally with even your best of friends and still remain friends, so you know that even if you change and you don't always agree with other people that doesn't mean things aren't okay. Unless things have gotten really violent in how your parents argue then they might just be letting off steam with each and nothing is too serious. If you think you can approach either or both of them without causing a problem, then you might want to consider talking to them about your concerns regarding their fights.
2006-10-20 17:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...I argue with my hubby maybe once a month. But it also depends on the kind of fighting...is there yelling, name calling, shoving, door slamming? If it is that type of angry, uncontrolled fighting, then you are right, it is too much and they are having communication problems. Also, do they fight about the same things all the time? Then again, there is a problem...they are not resolving anything, and are having troubles letting go of past issues. There isn't much that you can do about the fighting, except to let them know that it upsets you and you wish they could work things out (don't say this in the middle of an argument though). You need to understand that your parents have their own issues to deal with and there are alot of things about them you do not know and cannot understand until you are married yourself. The fighting is not your fault. When the arguing is too much for you to listen to, leave if you can... go for a walk or to a friends house...or stick on the headphones and go online. You aren't the only kid that has to go through this stuff! But, remember, if someone is being abused, you need to tell someone, like a grandparent, school counsellor, or other relative that you trust. Good luck!
2006-10-20 17:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. . .only one fight? When I was growing up, that would have been considered a fantastic month. Stress is even worse these days and tougher on a relationship than it was all those years ago.
I'm sorry your parents are fighting because that puts mental and emotional stress on you. Is there a place you can go when they're at it? If so, you could try telling them that you love them, but you don't think it's appropriate for you to listen to their private business, and you'll be back when things have settled down.
If you don't have a place to go, there's always the IPod and music to block the sound out. Lock your door if needs be, and try to stay as calm as you possibly can. Get involved in a fun project or a good book -- anything to keep yourself from being stressed out.
2006-10-20 17:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by "fighting" - is it just being snappish and cranky with each other? yelling and door-slamming? hitting and toaster-throwing?
How do they get along the rest of the time - happy and friendly? politely distant? busy and distracted?
If they seem happy most of the time, then a few fights now and then are nothing to worry about.
If it involves physical violence or threats, then it is too much and you should call Children & Family Services to help them fix things.
2006-10-20 17:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not in front of you and sis and it's just arguing then it's absolutely no big deal. No husbands and wives agree all the time. There will be a few arguments.
2006-10-20 17:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not too much.................my parents argue at least more than 5 times a month and still they are together. Just be glad you have a Perfect little family......but that is if your talking about your family...........
2006-10-20 17:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Cell - K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not enough. Don't worry about it, some couples fight ( I assume you mean argue rather than fist blows) al lot more than this!
2006-10-20 17:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by antony965314 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably over money-its the number one cause in marriages-for arguments
2006-10-20 17:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not it is normal but if its huge fights it could get messy.
2006-10-20 17:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Gloria. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋