He'll just walk into a room and she'll yell at him , I've told her to shut the hell up but she doesnt listen any suggestions? real ones plz
2006-10-20 10:02:44 · 32 answers · asked by Exsavior my son is the coolest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your son should be your number one person in your life, and if your GF does not respect him she is not respecting you. Do the right thing and find someone that loves your son as much as you do, its not fair to him to be in that situation
2006-10-20 10:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Drea 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Telling her to "Shut the hell up" is probably making the situation worse, not better. I suspect that she's jealous of the time and attention that you pay to your son, and screaming at her the way that she's screaming at him is only going to widen the gap between all three of you.
The first consideration, though, has to be your son's mental, physical, and emotional safety. It's a short step from verbal abuse to emotional and/or physical assault. And if she's with him while you're gone, you have no idea what she may do.
Here're my suggestions: if you're living together, either she moves out temporarily or you and your son do. Explain to her that you love her (if you still do), but you think that there are some issues that you need to work on as a family. See if she's willing to go to family counseling with you.
If she is, then you may be able to work through her issues and stay together. But if she refuses, then I think you need to rethink your relationship for the sake and the safety of your little boy.
God bless. . .I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-20 10:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be possible that mom is just stressed. Take the baby for one day and let her do whatever she wants. Make it a weekly thing, that way you get quality time with your son and she gets a break. Also, you are not teaching you son to respect mom, if you yell things like"shut the hell up" at her in his presence. You might be amazed at the attitude change in mom.
2006-10-20 10:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by littlemomma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. Your son is 3 years old, there is no reason for her to be yelling at him for no reason. It sound like she might resent the fact that you have a son with another woman. I would never leave her alone with him. And if you want to do the right thing for your son then you need to either tell her to stop or get rid of her. Your son deserves better and you need to put his safety first.
2006-10-21 05:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this woman having to take care of your child? How are your parenting skills? Sometimes we don't want anyone else to correct our children, since is essentially our job to deal with that. Maybe you should look into what your son is doing to upset her so much. If this is a person that is just temporary in your life and she has no say in the care of your child, then yeah I would say talk to her about cutting the sh-t out and telling her to bug off. But if she is an active part of your child's life then maybe you should both sit down and discuss your child's up bringing together.
2006-10-20 10:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have real problems guy.
First of all a "step" parent, married or not, does not have the right to discipline your child, let alone yell at him. She obviously is jealous of your child and is taking it out on him.
Sit her down and ask her how she would feel if she had a child and you treated him that way.
But really, you have to ask yourself if a piece of tail is more important than the health and well-being of your child. From experience, bfs/gfs come and go, but the damage they can cause to your children is lifelong.
I never allowed anyone to treat my child in a way I would not treat him. Looks like you have some serious thinking to do.
2006-10-20 10:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is this way now with your son maybe she is not the best person to be with - some people are just not good with children. I would consider not having her in your life if she doesnt have more respect for your child-your son comes first in your life than a girl friend.
2006-10-20 10:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You listen good I know that, you like or love your girlfriend , but your son is the one getting hurt in the process its two choices, you put your foot down and tell her to stop or you leave her and find someone who'll love you and your son. Tell her that you will leave if she doesn't cut it out. Don't buy her stuff, yell at her for nothing make her feel like she is low, and she will see how she makes your little boy feel.
2006-10-20 10:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by SimplyMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your girlfriend the mother of your son?? If not, I suggest you sit her down & discuss how you view parenting of your son, and how you would like to see it done. If she is the mother, you need to find out why she is screaming at him. Oh, and telling your woman to "shut the hell up" is just asking for a brawl. Seriously.
2006-10-20 10:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Froggy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This lady has no right to scream at YOUR child, and frankly I would'nt put up with her doing so.You need to get this woman out of your life and find someone who will accept your son as a 3 yr old.
2006-10-20 10:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not be with a women if she does not love your child. Second you should not be yelling in front of your child at her. Third I think the both of you should take anger management classes. I feel sorry for your son.
2006-10-20 10:06:17 · answer #11 · answered by Jackie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋