the situtation is not important to the answer, but it is of an emotional nature. He is not an emotional guy,and doesn't like to talk about feelings, etc.I have been depressed for a long time, and he always wants to know why I am depressed. It isn't important why I am depressed, the important part is that I am . I have been feeling a little bit like having myself screened for the hospital, and I don't know how to tell him.
2006-10-20 09:53:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
you should be going to the hospital if you feel like harming yourself, harming others, or are totally out of your mind wiht mania or psychosis.
otherwise, you need to see a psychiatrist, someone who can presecribe you medication for your disorder(s).
if you need to go to the hospital, tell him that it is a matter of your life or going to the hospital, and ask for his support in saving your life. if you have to go to the psychiatrist, do kinda the same thing, tell him that you've fallen into such a terrible frame of mind and it is eating you alive, and you need help that only a psychiatrist can give you.
you're not alone. i'm bipolar and i've been to the hospital 5 times. trust me, it sucks. i've been there too, and had to tell my family.
2006-10-20 10:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Loon-A-TiK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have a talk with him. Understand that his reaction might not be pleasant but the important part is that you get this out on the table. If you're really scared to talk to him, meet with a family counselor who will help you break the news. Seeking therapy might be an alternative to hospitalization.
I highly suggest that you try to rationalize your belief system (IE. I feel guilty because) and understand why you feel this way (ie.Is this a rational or irrational feeling). It's important to understand emotions.
I'm not keen on meds, but whatever keeps your heart beating =)
Last week I read that women are far more susceptible to depression than men are.
I'm sure your husband will be emotional b/c men feel the need to protect & provide for their women. He's going to feel like a failure b/c he cannot help you. (Remember that men express emotions differently than women. So it may come out as anger or frustration) You need to expect & understand this reaction. Most importantly you need a support group - cluing him in will give you that support.
2006-10-20 09:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to get some help because depression can progress to clinical depression and then you'll need to be hospitalized. Don't talk to your husband if he is tired or not in the mood to listen to you. Maybe you should make an appointment for yourself and then tell him later that you have gotten some medication to help your depression. If he see's the changes, he will be glad you did. Also, remember that most depression medication can take up to 2-3 weeks to notice any difference. Ask your doctor about that so you know what to expect.
2006-10-20 10:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by HomeBody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing is to just make an appt with a therapist (and tell your hubby that you've been having some foot pain and have been seeing a podiatrist, or something, to justify the weekly expense). Work out some of the major stuff with her, and then start to talk about it with your husband. Psycotherapy is highly confidential, and no one needs to know but you and your dr what you discuss. As you start to come to an understanding of yourself, you can involve your husband in the treatment process. By the way, the reason is important. No one can help you unless they know the cause.
2006-10-20 10:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be the most sensitive guy but he has asked you why you have been depressed. It seems like if you keep it simple and tell him that you want to get help he should support you and your decision. Just make sure to bring it up when he is not already stressed out with something else and it should work out ok, hopefully.
Good luck
2006-10-20 09:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by dixycup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Hon, it sounds like He is why you are depressed.He won't talk about feelings.He needs screening , not you, however I do understand that is easier said than done.You have a very real need to be heard,If possible go to a .E.R.maybe if He sees a doctor wants to help you, he will grasp this is a serious matter.
there is nothing wrong with you there is a lot wrong with him.You
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2006-10-20 12:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just make an appointment with a therapist? Then you can tell your husband that you have a doctor's appointment. You don't need to give him the details. Let him just be surprised and happy when you are recovering and not depressed. He'll probably think....."Something's different....did she get a new haircut? New clothes? Oh God if I don't notice what it is...she might be mad." LOL
2006-10-20 09:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His lack of concern would really depress me...maybe he is at the root of your feeling this way...do what you need to do and don't be afraid of the outcome...just worry about what and how you are going to feel...because if he truly loves you...he will not make you feel like you are not important enough to share this with him...Please pray on this one also..
2006-10-20 11:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him when he is in a calm mood. Be honest, and make sure to reassure him it is not his fault, but that you may have a chemical imbalance, resulting in depression. The typical male response will be defensive, he will feel his ability to provide is being questioned. This has nothing to do with providing, but is potentially a true medical condition which has nothing to do with him.
2006-10-20 10:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Alex G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do not worry about your husband, just do what you have to.You have to live your life yourself. I have friends and sisters, I keep very happy. I need my husband but I do not depend on him for my happiness always. He is happy that I let him be and I am happy that he lets me be. On our Rome trip, after visiting the palladium, I got tired and told him thanks for letting me go to the hotel and he said, he wants to thank me that I want to let him visit the second place. the moral is do whatever you have to do and you cannot depend on one person for your happines so form a support group.
This did not come easy to me but I have been married for a long time, you eventually learn how to live your life. A lot of guys are like your husband including mine, when they come home they want to relax and not have to make a conversation all the time.
2006-10-20 10:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by observer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋