My X cheated on me & we were together about 5 1/2 yrs. I left him and I haven't heard from up until 1 month ago. He says he is in love with me and wants to be with me. I haven't seen him in close to 2years! By the way when I found out that he cheated on me it just wasn't with some girl....he was living with her!!! So he lied about her too!!! What should I do?
2006-10-20 09:06:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, don't take him back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Besides, he isn't inlove with you, he is just lonely.
2006-10-20 09:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you wrote again really carefully. He cheated in a 5.5 year relationship. And was LIVING with her. Man this guy spells BAD IDEA. Just tell him that you can't trust him again and it's not a good idea. It is always hard when our hearts are caught up in matters but you just gotta know this man totally doesn't deserve a second chance. You are WAY too good for him. And him popping up out of the blue is NOT cool. You deserve better, doll.
2006-10-20 09:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No not at all.
He is urely lying to you once again.
Aee its your personal life ,,, we people sitting here dont knoe the complete aspects and facts.Or either the situation.
But by your story I can say no!!!
Continue life and dont push yourself if you remember him anytime or if he contacts you.
You have been with him for a long time and I understand that feeling of heartbreaking when you came to know that he betrayed you but be calm and believe me,
Time is the best healer.
2006-10-20 09:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by MuRk KoMaL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see CHANGE (Maturity) in him? If no, does the leopard change his spots? Does a tiger change it's stripes?
He's the same ol cad in the same bad jacket. He's trying to play you again.
If you see maturity... If you see he's sincere... Then he's going to be honest and loving toward you... Humble and apologetic...
If you don't see it in he, it is better to be free... You can't be that lonely... If you are, go find a male erotic dancer, at least you know going in that he's going to be taking his clothes off for other women (and men)... At least you'd be moving in the right direction...(if you're not picking up my meaning, your ex is a step below an erotic male dancer who's putting his goodies out there for everyone)
2006-10-20 09:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back.....if he cheated on you once then he is more than capable of doing it again.....no man is worth that kinda pain, even if you had been together for 5 1/2 years.....move on and find someone who'll treat you the way you deserve.....good luck....
2006-10-20 09:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jaybird21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go. whats done is done and hes probably just feeling lonely because maybe he cheated again and got caught and doesn't have anyone now. your better then that, and if you don't see that yourself you'll fall right back into that with him. just tell him you only want friendship with him and that's it. if he really loves you he'll understand why you cant be more and be a friend and if not beware of him and his motives for you.
2006-10-20 09:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are well rid of him. Once a cheater always a cheater plain and simple. Cut off all contact and let him know you are not now nor will you ever be interested in him again. Keep your pride and a negative AIDS test
2006-10-20 09:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by platinumhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him a single chance men like him give males like myself bad reputation, and its worse for because women say i'm not there style nor do I have the looks that they want. so let the cheatting *** wipe stay with his **** and you find the kind hearted mate that will cook, clean, iron your clothes, rub your toes when you get home, basicly kiss the ground you walk on. you can do better, dont let him bring you down to trailer trash like he is. I've had girlfriends that did that to me, includeing my present wife she said she got married to early and now she claimed needs to find her self.
GOOD LUCK:
Michael Aguirre
2006-10-20 09:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by aguirremichael1963 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt most of the time once a cheet always a cheat the only time id think about it would be if it was just a one night thing never see her again and if he could prove to me it would never happen again but he would pretty much have to prove to me that he would rather die than hurt me again could he prove it?
2006-10-20 09:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Grip. Absolutely NOT!!!!!
Move on with your life. That person CLEARLY had no respect for you and the trust factor will always be an issue.
Don't you think you deserve better? C'mon now.
2006-10-20 09:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋