It is so crazy! I am 30. I haven't had a boyfriend ever! I love MEN, but when it comes to them asking me out, I freeze up and act crazy--literally! It's like when I find out they are interested in me, I start acting all uninterested. I avoid their calls and all. It is like the words 'get into a serious relationship' are equivalent to a stab wound. There has not been any abuse in my past, so why in the world am I so afraid of Guys?
2006-10-20 08:57:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop be afraid.Go and date. don't waste time.We ever don't have enough...
2006-10-20 09:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
WoW!!! I don't know what to tell you, maybe you're just afraid of getting hurt, hearing everyone around you that have been hurt in the past, so your mentality is that you will get hurt.
Maybe even when you act uninterested, because they have told you in an unexpected way or there is no challenge after they probably tell you after a few conversations.
Interesting!!! you should be calm and give it a chance... obviously guys have asked you out... so think positive next time and give it a try!
2006-10-20 16:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably afraid because you've never allowed yourself to enjoy one. The next time a man asks you out, why don't you try just talking with him on the phone for a few days before going on a date to see if you all have anything in common. And then, on the date, do something fun that you would have a good time if you weren't on a date. Maybe this will take some of the pressure and expectations off of it and allow you to relax enough to enjoy yourself and the man. Hope this is helpful....
2006-10-20 16:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get LAID and get it over with. Seriously though even though there was no abuse maybe your views are just that you could be hurt. It can happen to anybody. Sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns. You already know what you are doing that you don't like so just force yourself to do the opposite. If you don't want to pick up the phone-Do it!!! If you are interested force yourself to stand there and talk to him. If he is worth the time and energy he will keep trying. He will also be impressed that you are 30 and he is the 1st anything
2006-10-20 16:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by platinumhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you've never dated and don't know anything about it off hand. get out there girl!!!!!!! there is a whole world out here of dating and some good men, not many left though. Aren't you tired of being alone? its good that you can and that's great but you need that interaction with the opposite sex and its gonna be very scary at first but once you get the swing of it you'll be fine and will regret waisting so many years all by yourself.
2006-10-20 16:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of the unknown- once you find out that boys or men are not that big of a deal in which experience will show you, but since you are starting out... a couple of things let yourself go out and enjoy life and dates. Look at it as you're getting to know another person, no pressure! You are allowed to say yes or no, its really up to you to let yourself go and enjoy it.
2006-10-20 16:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by AlwaysLaughing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like people have told you all the bad things of a relationship and u are afraid of that happening to you. there are bad things but the good things make up for it if u have a god relationship
2006-10-20 16:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some self esteem issues. Have you ever seen a therapist. If you are 30, and are this socially afraid...something medically could be wrong. Talk to your family Dr.
2006-10-20 15:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st of all your not crazy. you just need to kick back with a few friends. get a group going and meet some one as a friend and let it growe. being friends 1st will help. and as old as it sounds trust and talkign and 2 very good and needed things. good luck.
2006-10-20 16:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a bar with a few girlfriends tell them to bring some guy friends so it will help you to feel better around guys and try get a lil bit flirty.
and have a few drinks to get a bit loose and gain confidence.
2006-10-20 16:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by dj_magic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you had a serious problem when you were a teen? Did you go through something bad in terms of relationships? I'm afriad of dating too, but I'm only a teen.
2006-10-20 15:59:17 · answer #11 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋