It's natural for children to act out .ok? But Does breaking the rules requires Physical punishment?

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It's natural for children to act out .ok? But Does breaking the rules requires Physical punishment,( especially, used in schools .)? For or against.????????
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Answer 1

Yes. Depends on the severity of the rule broken.

For example: If you bring drugs into my house, I'm going to jack you up. Why? B/c by law you are my responsibility. If you get arrested, I am responsible for the fine. If the drugs are in my house, I can be prosecuted. You jeopardize (the rest of) my family & my way of life, I'll jeopardize you.

I don't want other ppl hitting my kids though. That's not cool.

Answer 2

I feel it depends on the child and the situation. All children, "PEOPLE" for that matter, mess up from time to time for many reasons such as peer preasure, honest ole not paying attention, etc... But then there are those times, or in some cases there are those children who just act up all of the time. I know that our son only gets a spanking as a last resort and lately he gets a lot of them for lying and stealing. He doesn't have a reason to do these things but in his little mind it's ok. We've done egverything else, taken his toys, tv, special occasions, we took it ALL and still he does it. He seems to be on this "I'm going to do what I want to and you can't stop me" kick and the last thing we can do is spank his little behind. I hate to do it but what else can you do? I hate it so much that I am miserable all the time. I feel like a worthless no good parent because my son does these things. You just never want to give a spanking when you're angry. Now our son will be good for about a week then we're back to the same stuff, only he's smarter about sneaking next time so we have to be smarter about not leaving the "door" open, so to speak.
I have another son who I never had so spank at all. He just "gets it" and does what he's supposed to. He's a really good boy.
So I wonder who's the normal child?
I think yes with some children you need to spank and with some no you don't.

Answer 3

I think that physical punishment should be used as a last resort and that "spanking" the child should be used to reinforce the gravity of the situation not to hurt the child. For example if you place a child in timeout and they continue to disobey you and will not stay in time out for the required time ( 1 min per year of age) then you swat or spank them ONCE (not hard enough to hurt but enough to get their attention) then place them back in timeout and start the time over making sure to explain what it was they are in trouble for. This may need to happen a few times before the child realizes that if they get up they Will be swatted on the but and returned to timeout. The biggest problem with parenting today is the lack of communication and consistency between parent and child and vice versa. That should be the two most important things to work on. Once the rules become clear and the fact that they will ALWAYS be enforced the child will respond much better.

Answer 4

I think that breaking the rules requires consequences....and ones that will deter the rule breaker from repeating the offense. I do believe in spanking, even in schools. When I was a child teachers were allowed to paddle you or would take you to the office and the principal would paddle you and then if that happened you would get another spanking when you got home.....we didn't act up much!! And if I do say so myself, I and most of the people I know who lived through times like that, are well adjusted adults with respect for the law and a good idea of the concept of right and wrong and with a knowledge of what consequences are, and I'm not talking about "time out". Children showed much more respect for their teachers and other adults back then and I think that it was because they knew that it was going to be painful if they didn't . So, yes, I believe in physical punishment....but only within reason.....and am in no way advocating abuse!!

Answer 5

Depends on too many things. The child, the age, what they did. What works with one child might not work for another.

Time out doesn't always work. To send a child to their room where they have 7000 toys? Their mind isn't going to be on why they are there for very long!

And if they are too young to reason with or even know what a time out is, a little light slap on the butt worked better for me.

Taking away priviledges worked when they got older. Grounding them did also.

But there are too many parents today who don't teach their kids how to behave in public. Just go to any store during the day, and you will see what I mean.

However a parent decides to discipline, they must be consistant and fair about the punishment. The punishment should fit the "crime."

Children NEED discipline, and are much happier kids when they have parents who care enough about them to make them mind. They may not like it at the time, but they will thank their parents when they get older.

Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world, especially today with so many temptations. But if you use common sense, make rules and stick to them, chances are a kid will turn out okay.

Answer 6

I am not a firm believer in corporal punishment, or physical punishments. I think that it breeds distrust and resentment. It just re-enforces the notion that if I am bigger, stronger, or in a postion of aurthority over you that I can do anything that I want to you- I can hurt you or make you do what I want.It can make children become sneaky, or lie to avoid punishment. Would it not be more productive for the child to feel comfortable enough to approach the adult with questions or activities and have the child know that the adult is there to help them and not to draw judgement on them. I have always talked to my children, from the day the came out of the womb, until they graduated from college and continue to do to this day.We compared how their actions or in-actions affect themselves or others. My children are very caring and concerned people, they have all went to college and have jobs that have a higher good for their communities. I never had any problems at all with them, and I have never struck them. On the other hand, my family growing up was a war zone. You never know what you were getting when you got home, My father was verbally and physically abusive, and my mother was in a state of denial, she was fearful of my father and what he would do to her or the children. When my father got angry and hit us, he would not stop until he drew blood. As a result, I have a brother that has abused every substance known to man, and a sister that puts the fun in dysfuctional. I purposefully choose a man to marry that was quiet, and not physically or verbally agressive. I chose to change my life. I refused to spank my children, and I would not verbally abuse them either. I've seen both styles of parenting and I will choose my libral parenting any day.

Answer 7

Children do act out for a variety of reasons. Attention getting is one of the main ones. Discipline is better that punishment. Punishment is instant and they'll probably do it again. Discipline is changing behavior. Teaching them to do the right thing. Discipline is harder to do because it takes time. I hope this helps. I raised 4 productive offspring using the discipline method.

Answer 8

Depends upon what you define as physical punishment. Suppose they were told to do an extra lap in gym or told to do push ups. I don't disagree with that. Striking of the student by an administrator or teacher, unless in self defense, is inappropriate. In the worst cases, the parent can be called to school and the student sent home. It is up to the parent then to decide what further punishment is necessary when they get home, including in some cases, corporal punishment. However, even then, the punishment must fit the crime(so to speak). In other words it must be used sparingly and not cross over into abuse.

Answer 9

Physical punishment is very, very childish. All it does is harbor feelings of anger and resentment in the child Be an adult and talk about it. If a co-worker was getting on your nerves, I hardly think that you'd haul off and hit them. Why doesn't your own child deserve that respect??

Also, I went to a private school in Brooklyn that was run by West Indians. West Indians are big on corporal punishment. They hit us over the dumbest things. But, guess what? Everything we got punished for, we ended up doing it again and again. Trust me, beating/spanking/whatever usually doesn't work. I don't about you, but I'd want my kid to respect me, not fear me. Believe me, there IS a difference.

Answer 10

Schools = NO
Of the teachers I have ran into in my daughters education. I wouldn't trust any of them to bring a paddle to there back side. I think spanking is the job of the parents.

Home = Yes

I have a set of core rules that if broken always requires a spanking. Otherwise spanking is a last resort.

Answer 11

Corporal Punishment- Spanking, hitting, slapping (all the same) is and old fashioned wrong form of discipline that is now illegal in schools. Tradition and morality are separate standards. Studies show that children who weren't spanked foster postitive psychological outcomes such as high self-esteem and cooperation with others as well as improved achievement in school.
Some children remember spanking messages more than nurturing ones. They will remember and be most influenced by the 1 hit than the 100 hugs. Hitting just devalues a child. Children need to predict the outcome in order to behave good in the future. Parents should never spank because using fear and pain is the wrong way to go about it.
Spanking is a form of violence that teaches children that inflicting fear and pain on others is a way to control their behavior. Parents who spank are out of control and are not disciplined parents. It just teaches children how to hit, how to be sneaky, how to fear, how to be ashamed and how to take anger out on others. All degrees of spanking- light, moderate, occasional, rarely, always- give children the wrong kind of attention. You want your child to follow rules because they are right and good, not to avoid punishment because they are scared and become sneaky. When parents spank, they stop their children at the lowest level of moral development. So all the idiots that recommend to spank are eroding their childs ability to be empathetic. When you react with anger to childrens' behavior, we teach them to act without considering another persons' feelings-another consequence we need to avoid. Then when your child doesn't have empathy, it is impossible for them to learn to share, play well with others, avoid angry and violent actions, and take responsibility for their actions. I have children and am studying early childhood development in college. I am against spanking. Children of non-spanking parents tend to be easy to manage and well-behaved because these parents set clear standards for what is expected, provide lots of love and affection, explain things to the child, and recognize and reward good behavior. Non-spanking parents also pay more attention to their children’s behavior, both good and bad, than parents who spank do. Also, the higher the education the person has, the less likely they spank.