My boyfriend never calls me. I have to call him. We talk on the phone for a hour at times, and he seems to not mind. We also do not say I Love You to one another, however he did tell me once, we were having sex. Does this mean somthing is wrong. We have been dating for almost 6 months now. How often would you call your boyfriend or girlfriend and how long would you talk to them with out seeming like a pest.
2006-10-20 08:40:21 · 23 answers · asked by unknown 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot force someone to say "I love you." If they feel it, they would say it. Obviously, you are taking this relationship metally to a level not shared by your partner. It's not for you to force your boyfriend to "feel" the same about your union like yourself. Let him be, let it come naturally. If you continue to press the issue, you may get an answer you really don't want to hear.
2006-10-20 08:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Divo Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters - men & women alike like those who play a little hard to get. If you seem desparate, it's a turn off. Let him come to you.
To answer your other question "How often would you call your boyfriend or girlfriend", I talk to mine everyday. We can't get enough of eachother.
Have you had this conversation with him (about him never calling you)? Perhaps you should and simply say that you feel like he's not showing you as much affection as you do towards him, and the last thing you want is to be wasting either of your time in a relationship that may not be going anywhere. Then just step back and let him make all of the advances torwards you. If he still acts standoffish, I'd be keeping my eyes open for other potential men who would be more than willing to give me what I need!
2006-10-20 15:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Eliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the start of the relationship usually you would talk longer than you would after a year of dating and so. Next time you call, tell him to call you at a certain time. Its okay for him not to say i love you all the time, its still early in the relationship and this way at least you know he takes the word love seriously. Some people say it after the first day and than break up the next. So give him time to say it when he really feels it in his heart. As well as you. If you think its the right time than say it and see what he says. You need to tell him how your feeling, comunication is the best, it will work. He needs to know what is going on inside your head if your upset, thats the only way he can fix it if hes doing somthing wrong and vise versa.
2006-10-20 15:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my girlfriend for 5 months. We talk every day in some shape or form, and try to at least see each other daily (It's easy, as we're both the same major at the same university). When we're apart, we call each other and talk for at least 30 minutes. I do most of the calling and whatnot (as I'm the needier person in the relationship), but she always surprises me with visits, phone calls and other things.
If there's some reason to believe that things are going wrong, maybe you should just ask if everything is going ok.
2006-10-20 15:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Robot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generaly the man in the relationship calles the women, however it is not innapropriate for the women to make the call. In regards to saying "I love you", it is a difficult thing for some people to say. Generaly a call once a day or every other day is good unless you see them all the time. Try talking to him and seeing whats going on, he may have something on his mind that is bothering him.
2006-10-20 15:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone wants to talk to you, they'll call you. Or maybe he's just gotten into the habit of you calling him. I talk to my boyfriend once of twice a day, though not for hours at a time. We've been together for 4 years. If you call too often, they tend to get bored.
2006-10-20 15:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by lyricaleight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all men will say a lot of stuff during sex. so pay that no mind. next, he should call sometimes also. this is what you do.... stop calling him. see how long it takes for him to call. if he doesnt then he doesnt respect you as his girl. Also cut off sex until he gets his mind right. Have you tried asking him why doesnt he call you?
2006-10-20 15:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these questions suck because many things factor in to these situations and i never have all the facts but let me just say this...if you are not happy, if you have to do all the calling, if your questioning your relationship then something is probably not right therefore you should do whatever it is that makes you happy and maybe that means you need to find a new better man!!
2006-10-20 15:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends. maybe he's not a phone person. try not calling him and see if he calls you. let it be at least 2 days. really you need to do this. because if you can let a love one that is near you not cross your mind that will give you an idea of the type of person he is.
2006-10-20 15:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that seems odd....my boyfriend calls me like three times a day and we have been dating for 2 years. I do call him but he beats me at it. Maybe he just needs time....i guess..or dump his sorry *** if he just wants to have sex!
2006-10-20 15:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋