That a man has to spend two months salary on a wedding ring. I told mine I don't need anything fancy or expensive because he has one heck of a salary. I just want something to show he loves me and wants to spend his life with me.
2006-10-20 08:38:15 · 31 answers · asked by Clints_wench 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Exactly i would be scared to wear something to expensive for fear someone would steal it. I think anywhere from $200 to $500 is good to spend on a ring. Is it better to go ring shopping together or let him do it?
2006-10-20 08:46:42 · update #1
EXACTLY SLR. And by the way this will be my second marriage, not my first
2006-10-20 08:50:04 · update #2
Do you think the engagement ring police will come and check?
Sorry but this is silly - you do whatever feels right and its is nobody's business but your own.
Personally I think that starting out in life putting a huge amount of money into a piece of jewelry is crazy - there are many more things that should be a priority - a home and saving for the future to name but two.
2006-10-20 08:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not - that phrase was dreamed up some ad agency to help jewelers to sell more expensive rings. Unfortunately, engagement rings as a symbol of love/spending your lives together have been a little overshadowed by today's "oh look how much my ring cost" culture. It's great if your prospective fiance is in a position to spend the two months salary, but the ring should also be one you love and are comfortable wearing.
If you are close to getting engaged, it might be fun to check out a few jewelry stores (together or on your own) for styles you like and would be comfortable wearing. If you find a store/jeweler in particular that you like, they could even make note of your selections - when your man is ready to pop the question, there's a place you can send him and they will know what you want. Everybody wins!
2006-10-20 08:55:23 · answer #2 · answered by TraciS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one *has* to do anything. There are guidelines, but other than that, everyone can do whatever they deem appropriate. The only time there would be a problem is when one person wants something to be a certain way, and the other disagrees.
My wedding ring cost the same as my husband's ($300), they are identical, this was the one I wanted. Why would we even spend $20,000 of our money on a wedding ring? We just went on a wonderful 10-day cruise which cost $5,000. I would much rather take another cruise with the spare money we have lying around. But if someone has the means, and *wants* to buy an expensive ring - there's nothing wrong with it, either. Completely up to the individuals involved.
2006-10-20 08:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
HAS TO? Since when does anyone say what *has* to happen in any relationship? While it is nice to have standards and guidelines for some things, the cost of your rings is extremely personal and really quite subjective. You can get an awesome ring for not a whole lot of money if you shop right. . . But, this is what I found relating to your question:
According to the generally accepted convention, a man should spend roughly two months' salary on a diamond engagement ring. While this guideline is certainly not a law, polls show that many men agree with this spending recommendation, and in the minds of many women it's become an accepted standard. We recommend that you don't commit yourself to a dollar amount right away-familiarize yourself with the various options available before you decide how much to spend. http://www.mondera.com/learn/howtobuy_engagement.asp
2006-10-20 08:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi i havent heard of this before but if money isnt a problem for your hubby 2 be then i say just go and have a look at which rings you like and then get the one that stands out to you. Weather is £50-£2000 quid if you like the ring then get it as he maybe able to afford it but i wouldnt feel comfortable in wearing on really expensive like if you fiancee has a heck of a salery then the ring maybe very expensive and you will feel uncomfortable wearing it. I would anyway as i am very clumsy with rings and tend to loose them. Luckily ive did lose my engagement ring but found it again.
Im getting married next year and like you i dont want anything to expensive as long as i like it and im going to bealbe to wear it for the rest of my life. Good luck with the Wedding, and i hope you find the perfect ring.
2006-10-21 02:46:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never realised they were too spend a certain amount on a ring. Choose on you like that wont damage the bank balance and be happy. I married my husband nearly 3 years ago and my wedding ring cost £100 not a lot? I don't care it is what i chose and what i wanted there's more important things to spend money on especially if you are buying or moving into a new house
2006-10-21 02:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually here in England I believe the myth says one months salary for an engagement ring. This is the rock that you will use on special occasions or when going out, so it will not get affected by everyday wear.
The wedding ring should be a bit harder wearing as many people will not take them off as they believe it bad luck and it has to withstand the rigours of domesticity - unless you plan to have your own housekeeper!
I know some people who have just one ring like a wedding band with diamonds in it but you would need to take it off to clean it regularly as diamonds are apt to loose their sparkle when coming in contact with soap and cleaning fluids etc. Even the fluff from the insides of marigolds dulls diamonds - believe me.
I'm happy with my emerald and diamond engagement ring (which incidentally cost around 25% of one months salary) and I clean it from time to time to make it sparkle. But I wouldnt want to take off my finely engraved 18 carat wedding band, which in reality cost around a days pay. That one days pay that my husband gave up for my wedding band has lasted a very happy 18 years so far.
I have to say I actually wear my grandmother's wedding band as well, on my other hand - it is 22 carat plain, narrow band from 1920, but with quite thick "old" gold. I have worn it since my 18th birthday (34 years ago), it holds much sentimentality and design wise I think prefer it's plainness and solidness to my own.
But what does it matter how little a ring costs, it's the fact that it is given that is precious. Love itself is free, freely given and freely received. Many people cannot afford expensive rings but the sentiment that comes with them can often be of more value than the sentiment that accompanies the belief that the monetary value of things is more important than love.
I have to say this token of love is a gift, and surely when choosing gifts for people you make sure it is what they would want and not what the giver would want.
Shop for it together - its fun and you can be sure he doesnt go over the top then! Mine was a second wedding too.
Congratulations anyway and I hope you get your wish.
2006-10-20 15:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by ShumB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the old saying is that a man should spend 3 months of his salary on the engagement ring and then the 2 of you pick out your wedding bands.
If you Huuby-to-be wants to spoil you, I would let him. This only happens once in your life.
In the end, regardless of the price, the ring that you will receive will show you that he loves you and that he wants to spend his life with you. That is, afterall, what the marriage committment is all about.
Good luck!
2006-10-20 08:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should actually be flattered that is he is willing to drop some serious dough on you and the ring! that says it all by the way. most guys will spend a 3-5 months salary on a ring which should be something that says that he loves you! look, even if you tell a guy not to get you a fancy ring how many times do you want to be married before you have your nice decent and elaborate ring on your finger? i am not married nor close to getting there but i am 22 and know that when i want to get married i want a nice ring, something that says classy yet not over the top yet timeless yet having the guy splurge on me. a ring is forever and so is marriage -or is suppossed to be-so just let your guy spoil you and have fun !
2006-10-20 08:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
With 2 months salary he could buy much more important things for your married life. After all what significance is a ring.
2006-10-20 08:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Deafro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋