We are very much in love, both in our mid 20's, and ready to start a life together. He wants to join the navy. The benefits sound great, but I am scared to change our lives completely. I would love some testimonials on what it is like to be married to someone in the navy. I am not sure what the right decision is and I need help.
2006-10-20 08:30:18 · 19 answers · asked by Angelinazorm 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It means he is gay and wants to leave you nicely without hurting your feelings.
Dump him and find a Marine
2006-10-20 08:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Vaffanculo 3 · 1⤊ 8⤋
First do no longer anticipate that as quickly as they connect the militia the potential of cheating is extensive. IT does no longer take place anymore than it does in a civilian activity. it could look like it on account that's observed greater and basically the undesirable thoughts pop out. You by no skill hear approximately all the powerful marriages that are obtainable the place cheating by no skill occurs. If somebody is going to cheat on then you definitely they are going to do it despite the fact that if or no longer they're coming domicile each night or in the event that they stay 5,000 miles away. could you have this same feeling if he have been given a job in yet another state or yet another component of the rustic? Or what approximately in case you pass to a various place to pass to college? You the two have equivalent possibilities to cheat. You the two then have a similar time far flung from one yet another. You the two nevertheless have lonely nights. You the two have faith one yet another in this dating or you do no longer. additionally then there is the certainty that he ought to die. specific that's there, specific it could take place interior the army via fact stuff does take place. yet so does automobile injuries as he's using domicile from going to the save down the line. Or being in a hearth at his domicile, or maybe getting hit by way of lightening. if it is going to take place there is no longer something which you're able to do to provide up it. yet you components up demanding approximately it. You lower back have basically a great of hazard of dying as he does. For being jointly it relies upon on what form of activity he does to how lots you would be aside. If he's on a deliver then he might nicely be long previous everywhere from 40 to eighty% of the twelve months. there are cases that's some days, or a week, or some weeks, or a month, or some months, or the longest that's over 6 months (those take place each 12 to 18 months). he's additionally long previous in the time of Boot and a school. there is likewise the prospect that he gets orders distant places as his first ones meaning he must be E4 or bigger which you would be able to connect him. the reason in the back of that's economic. there is likewise some places spouses at the instant are not allowed in any respect.
2016-11-24 20:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you'll be able to test that old adage absence makes the heart grow fonder. He will be gone at least 3 to 6 months a year until he gets a shore based job. How ever as branches go the navy does take care of it's own. See if you can find a navy ombudsman site this is a navy organization made up of navy wives.
2006-10-20 08:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by brian L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a military spouse is VERY hard, I will not lie to you about that. You must be strong, independent, flexible and supportive, even when you wanna strangle the detailer(like I do right now).
You face moving every couple of years, and all the upheaval that entails, from finding a new home, to a new job, to new friends. You have to accept the fact the the military comes first, and there WILL be times when you really need him to come home, but he can't, and it will not be his fault.
It's challengeing, it's frustrating, it's insane. And I wouldn't trade a single bit of it for anything. I have lived in Japan, I have traveled to Hong Kong, Australia and Korea. I have kept the homes fires burning while he's been deployed. I stand on the pier to welcome him home. I will deal with it if he goes to the litterbox next year like we think he will.
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2006-10-20 13:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss his reasons for joining. To serve his country is first and if he takes that challenge he will probably be gone quite a bit.
This involves both of your lives, so discuss it from all angles. A spouse has to very strong and independent when their loved one serves and is away. My spouse is not in the service, however, he travels at times on business and I enjoy that time to do my own activities, study, etc.
Make a list of all the pro's & con's and try www.military.com for the forums, I'm sure they must have a Navy one.
2006-10-20 08:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiancee join the navy because he wants to. Love must step aside for patriotism. Anyway, you can still love each other even when he is in the navy.
2006-10-20 08:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to join the Coast Guard ...thought the Navy is a good choice also. Look at all of the traveling you get to do.
2006-10-20 08:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Gettin_by 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Coast Guard or Airforce would be a slightly better choice.
Rank does not come as fast, but the military life is a little more tolerable. If you don't mind the separations for long periods he might want to join the Merchant Marines. A little bit better deal.
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2006-10-20 08:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dont do It my ex-husband joined and it RUINED our life. The benifits sound great but you have to be a VERY special kind of person to be a navy wife. My experience was horrible. when the men go away all the wives cheat on there husbands and the men do the same thing. I dont know one of my husbands friends who didnt try to get me in bed!!! thata how they all are to because I never thought that my husband would fool around on me but I was wrong when he went to japan for 6 months. Again PLEASE dont do it...it will ruin your life and you will be so lonley.
2006-10-20 09:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might die, but other than that it's a good career. You will have plenty of time off for extramarital affairs. You will be home for long periods of time living the life of a single mom. You will be surrounded by closeminded people who see the world one way and one way only. You can register at the NeoCon and Fundamentalist Christian outlets for wedding gifts. You will travel to wonderfully exciting military towns. And you will spend your life living on a budget. There are those periods of time with pay increases for combat pay. And you get to wonder what he did or didn't do on leave when his ship stops at exciting slums around the world where sex is available for pennies on the dollar.
Those are the negatives. Maybe someone can offer you the positives.
2006-10-20 08:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
experienced navy wife here...well, when i got married, my husband was already 5 years into his time...i was also in the military too so it was nice because we shared the same job...after i got out, things seemed to get stressful..we had a baby on the way..he was working 16 hour shifts 5 days a week so i barely ever got to see him...
it changes though...when he was on shore duty, i would see him everynight...but when he shipped out to a boat...i wouldnt see him for 6 to 10 months at a time...sometimes he wouldnt be able to call or email for months...you sit here and wonder are they ok, what are they doing and so on..its nerve wrecking at times
we have been married 5.5 years now and i have gotten used to it..of course the moving sucks...we were in seattle earlier this year and were there for 1 year, then all of the sudden they needed him in florida so we had to pack up and move, they give you enough warning time to get your stuff together...
its hard on you the first few times but you learn to adjust..my son is still young so he doesnt feel the true stress of it all..
benefits are great, free medical, i didnt have to pay a dime when my son was born, he was a $23,000 baby...meds are free or discounted, free housing with utilities paid...when they ship out to sea, you get family seperation pay...
you need to be strong in order to make it work...about 70% of our friends who are married military have gotten divorced, its a hard life and you both have to work together, keep talking to one another and just hang in there
2006-10-20 08:40:19 · answer #11 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋