I never had the courage to talk to her, I had like 2 conversations with her in as many years, she liked me but later got a boyf. and then I just wanted to kill myself....I sound like a kid but now I can't commit to any girl she's still there to haunt me..
2006-10-20 08:20:04 · 12 answers · asked by Dan 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was sure we'd get together maybe get married....(!)
2006-10-20 08:30:54 · update #1
It may be hard to understand or even imagine right now, but when I crushed on a guy for 4 years it was time that eased my pain. It may or may not be the same for you. Just wait it out, you'll get better. And if you don't soon, then I'd try therapy.
2006-10-20 11:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you were far too slow. must take some self assertive classes then you will be ready for the next girl you fancy, a girl will not wait two years just for another conversation so forget about her and enjoy life - good luck.
2006-10-20 15:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a female perpective several times I have been shocked to have blokes declare undying love for me years after I met them. I didnt have a clue that all the while they were having fantasies about me. All the time I had been treating them as I would a brother (I am an only child). In no way had I led them on - I was just being friendly. It is quite upsetting to discover that a "nice" bloke is really having such thoughts about you.
Possibly this girl doesn't know you exist - after all you've only spoken to her twice! It's all in your head and you need to get a life..
2006-10-20 08:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by A Teesside Smart**** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grow up, son.
girls aren't that important.
if you need the validation of somebody else to make you feel worthwhile, then you need to get your head straight. live for YOURSELF, not for someone else, or for what you think might be.
besides, in a few years, you'll have grown up and moved on.
and besides, you only want her because you cant have her. and you're depressed, but now necessarily about her. she's just a good excuse for something to be depressed about.
trust me, i've been there, you'll get over it.
just be yourself. stand tall, and be an individual.
2006-10-20 08:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Therapy may help. You really are doing self-harm by not allowing yourself to love again. It is likely that just loving her is comfortable. You never know who is out there, and you do not know how much your personality and needs have changed since you first loved her. Good luck. Give yourself a chance at happiness.
2006-10-20 08:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by catzrme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH WOW!! such issues...this girl is taken and you had your chance and didn't take it so why worry about it now? go date or do whatever it is that you do because that's the only choice you have now....maybe in the future another chance will arise with this girl....i hope she don't know how weak you are over her either because if she does know she probably has no interest in you anyway!!
2006-10-20 08:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Let the chips fall where they may. Regret seems to be the major angst issue here, aside from the broken heart. You can fix the regret part.
2006-10-20 08:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you 've got it bad son always remember there are lots more fish in the sea , its an old saying i know your not going over the top over a fish it'll work itself out old lad as you get older and meet someone else good luck
2006-10-20 08:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did mommy and daddy have to offer...? How did you end up here at the "Group W" bench looking for answers from random strangers instead of the folks who actually care about you....???
2016-05-22 05:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel that way because you are still thinking of her as an image of perfection.
Try and picture her differently in your mind,whenever you think
of her-picture her as a circus clown, for example.Then you should feel differently about her.
2006-10-20 21:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by mr.bigz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋