theres this girl named megan i really like but i cant talk to her becuz im so stinkin nervous!i can help!i really REALLY!need ur help.
2006-10-20 08:19:53 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Conner Conduct ♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with the dude above me. Pretend that she is a cool guy that you wanted to meet, and treat her as such. She is just a human after all.
Most guys get nervious because they think that if it doesn't work out with this girl, then they won't ever be happy. You have too much emotion invested in someone that you have never met. Aren't you a good person? Don't you make a good, loyal friend? if so, then you are doing her a favor by introducing yourself to her, because you are giving her the chance to meet a great guy like yourself. If she rejects you, then so what? She is the one who missed out on getting to know someone as great as you.
Approach her with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that she should like someone like you, and it often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy).
Also, when you are talking to a girl, and you feel too shy to maintain eye contact, make sure that you look away by moving your eyes horizontally across the room as if you were looking for someone else. Do NOT look down, like most shy guys do (she will think that you are looking at her boobs, and get offended). If you do accidentally offend someone, don't be so apologetic about it that you look line a wimp (in the long run, women hate that). Just calmly say that you are sorry once and if she cannot drop it, then either tell her to drop it, or else find someone else to talk to.
Oh yea, try to develop a sense of humor. You want to come across as "fun", but don't crack jokes so much that you seem "goofy". Anything can be overdone. This may seem counter-initiative, but when you talk to a girl, try opening with a joke about something that she is wearing, doing, or looking at. Make fun of her a little. As long as it is funny, you will look confident for taking a risk by saying something that might possibly be offensive (she is unsure), and you will also seem fun for making her laugh. If she gets upset, just look at her calmly an say, it was only a joke.
BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.
2006-10-20 08:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Come off as confident. It will really make a difference.
2. Have stuff to say. There's nothing worst than awkward silences.
3. Be eager and attentive to what SHE has to say.
4. Don't make it seem like talking to her is the biggest thing in the world. It's bad if she see's you are craving her attention.
5. Talk to other girls. She will be wanting you to talk to her once she can see you are approachable and sociable.
Good luck!
2006-10-20 08:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by eminem526 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be urself. and remember she is just as nervous too. Find out what she likes to do and where she likes to go and what she is interested in if u can so u will have somethings to talk to her about that u wil know u both like. Good luck Hope this helps curious 2006
2006-10-20 08:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Curious 2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The direct approach is the best way to do something. But if your really nervous, ask someone who knows this Megan to ask for you. If she says yes, great for you. But if she says no, tell the person asking for you that it was a joke. (Save yourself the humiliation). It's not as big as it seems.
2006-10-20 08:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by poker man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and tell yourself you are worth her time.She is just another human being and the worst thing she could do to you is tell you to go away, and if she does that she's a jerk and you wouldn't want her anyway.
2006-10-20 08:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Devon M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Just be yourself. Start with small talk then build on that. You never know, the two of you may hit it off.
2006-10-20 08:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try valium or prozac. Works wonders for the nerves.
2006-10-20 08:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd lose the hat. That is enough to make anyone self conscious.
2006-10-20 08:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her like you talk to any other girl.. make her laugh.. girls love a man with confidence =)
2006-10-20 08:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her as if she is a guy. don't think of her as a girl and you will get on famously.
2006-10-20 08:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by tashton2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋