K so i dated this one boy the first 7 weeks of schooland always hung out with the boys on his floor above me so we all because great friends. Me and my boyfriend had a falling out and because i hve been so used to hanging out with this floor of guys i kept hanging out with them.
Don't get me wrong i am a good girl i keep my pants on, I just have this thing about kissing I love it. So I am constantly hanging out with these adorable guys and it would aways lead 2 me playfully making out with one of another.
So I have kissed about 5 boys including my x-boyfriend and I think they might be getting the wrong impression. I really like one of them but I think i ruinoned it because of this fact...guys talk.
I love hanging out with that floor there so much fun, but should I cool it and maybe stay off it 4 a week or so, let things fly over? think i have a chance still 2 date a boy on the floor? do u think they R messin with me?
2006-10-20 08:13:22 · 8 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
sorry this is kind of long but I am curious 2 think what u have 2 say.
I know it's just like kissing but i have a feeling i am getting a bad rep?
Please don't be mean in your answers...
2006-10-20 08:13:32 · update #1
Since you're talking about "floors," I'm assuming you're talking about a dormitory, and hence assuming you're talking about post-secondary eduction. Sorry, but by the time you're old enough to be in college/university, you should be beyond these types of encounters and then being surprised that your reputation is being sullied.
They aren't "getting" the wrong impression...after 5 guys, they already HAVE the impression, 100%. YOU are the one that controls how people view you, so YOU have to take responsibility for your actions and their consequences.
I know it's going to sound mean, but I don't really think you have a hope of a serious relationship with a guy who knows you've randomly made out with other guys on the floor ... unless he's just in it because he thinks he can get into your pants, in which case it sounds like you have an excellent shot.
And no, I don't think they are messing with you ... I think YOU are messing with THEM. Please do yourself a favour...don't let yourself turn into that "easy" chick who will make out with anything that moves - have some self-control and some self-respect... how do you expect anyone to respect you if you (obviously) can't respect yourself?
Best Regards,
Holly
2006-10-20 15:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably getting to be known as a girl who'll make out with anyone and everybody. I'm not saying that to be mean, it's just the way people talk. I think you need to stay away for a while and when you do go back, keep your kisses to yourself until you find someone worth giving them to. Nobody wants to date someone who's been around a lot and if guys are still like guys were 30 years ago, they'll lie about what you have and haven't done. Your bad reputation could be for more than kissing, even though that's all you've done.
2006-10-20 15:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the impression you are giving by outward appearances is that you are pretty easy. Even though that's all you do is make out, most people will assume you would go further. You have given them a misleading visual. The only way is to stop the playing around, or just get over it and not worry about what the others think. Either choice would be worthy!
2006-10-21 01:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop kissing every guy. Be nice and just a friend. You don't have to take your pants off to get a bad rep. Not only that, you're putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Some guy could be more aggressive and misinterprit your playful kissing. This is how rape happens.
2006-10-20 15:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not being mean...but u cant just go around kissing or making out with every one! of course your giving them the wrong idea & your bf has a right to be upset about it..i would advise u to stop acting that way unless u want to keep that bad rep. for a very long time & hurt more relationships in the future!
2006-10-20 15:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your "rep" only matters if the guys only want one thing from you. If they know you and like to hang out with you as a friend which it sounds like they do, there is no problem. Relax and enjoy yourself.
2006-10-20 15:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by Steve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't help the way people think..but if you want people thinking good of you , you have to behave in other peoples company...what would you think if you seen this girl flirting and kissing five other boys..let alone your boyfriend seeing this...if you want that reputation..go-ahead and do it,, if not.. stop
2006-10-20 15:25:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like it do it, try staying with one guy, the reputaion will vanish
2006-10-20 15:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by michael o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋