i am in love with my cousin...which is ok in themiddle eastern countires, i am 20 yrs old and she is about 15. we used to love each other so much in the past as kids...then we where splitted for a long time...i saw her once in the past few weeks..i had a really huge crush on her and i cant speak with her because of shyness....i looked for her profile in hi5 and added her and she accepted that.. i asked for her email and she gave it...but what i am affraid of shall i tell her that i have a crush on her....on email..i am ultra shy guy i am single since 4 years that is because i am very shy..shall i wait for a while untill she is mature enough to tell her that...or shall i start with her a relationship...but i am afraid to be blocked that would be sensitive...u know because of family issues,,,,,i dont know what to do .....please i need a good advice..thanx
2006-10-20 08:00:39 · 9 answers · asked by max h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank u guys for help...first of all almost the first priority in the middle eastern countries when u come to commitetment are relatives.....that is ok...because they have a qoute " the people we know is better than the people we dont".... i am not planing on dating her..no i just want to tell her i have a crush on u...we can date later on, when she is ready for commitment... it is ok in here to get married to cousins....i told my parents about that they were very happy and proud of that..no problem.....but the problem i am a shy guy i dont have the gutts to tell her that...i dont care about dating for the time being..u know emails and phone calls and family renioun are enough.....i am hazzitating shall i send her an email and tell her that and if she is interested wecould carry on...if sheisnot then it will be between us and nothing has happened>>>>>>>>>thanx
2006-10-20 11:23:00 · update #1
at 15 she is way to young for that kind of commitment. And the cousin thing is just icky.
2006-10-20 08:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gspot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but please find someone outside of your family. It may be fine in middle eastern countries, but in the overall approval of the rest of society, it isn't. Are you in a middle eastern country? Is your family from a middle eastern country, and what would their views be on this? Find someone outside of your family tree. But you can stay in contact with her, love should not be wasted. Good question for you to ask.
2006-10-20 15:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by gin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the "shall" and "shy guy" thing gets old really fast. As said in Moonstruck, "SNAP OUT OF IT!" You want to be her man? Be a man and step up and do what you feel. Women don't want a pansy@ss. Go for it or else you'll live with the "what ifs".
2006-10-20 15:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered moving to the middle East? If not what about professional help?
2006-10-20 15:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude... really? your cousin...... I know that my cousins are great too... but I don't think it's appropriate for a 20 yr old to date a 15 yr old.... and I don't think it is appropriate for cousins to date.. so dating your 15 yr old cousin should not be an option..
2006-10-20 15:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by soccrian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In love with your cousin, but it's ok because it's the middle east...
In America it's only ok if you're in Kentucky. YEEEHAAA!
2006-10-20 15:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that telling your cousin u love her is a good idea
2006-10-20 15:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by megan s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
middle east or not SHE IS YOUR COUSIN SICK SICK SICK
most babies born from that close of a blood relationship are messed up
find a nice unrelated girl
2006-10-20 15:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by junebug_jewel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you think she's the most precious person on the whole planet and you never want to be away form her.
2006-10-20 15:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by rchlbsxy2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋