Just two days ago, I broke up with my boyfriend and it has been really hard for me. I can't even think in class, I just can't fucos, all I have in my head are questions that I don't even know the answers to. I feel miserable. Is this a question that only I can answer?
2006-10-20 07:49:26 · 30 answers · asked by i.d.k.u. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is really that hard to get over someone, than you weren't ready to break it off.. (unless he cheated on you, then, I'm am very sorry and you did the right thing.. he isn't worth it then!!!)
2006-10-20 07:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time for you. Take a long bath, volunteer, go out with friends, or whatever you do to relax. There is no way to make someone love you. It's normal to feel miserable after a break up and you may never have an answer to all your questions. Give yourself some time and space to get perspective on the situation and to let emotions calm down a bit.
If you feel betrayed maybe burning pictures would help you get some of the frustration off your chest. Maybe write a letter with all your doubts and frustrations just so you can tear it up. Personally, I find going for a long walk helps me sort out my emotions. Maybe give that a try (be careful of where you go - do NOT go near your exes' place).
In short the answer to your question is 'yes'. It is always hard to get over someone you love. Take it as a sign that the emotions were real and that you gave of yourself. Time may not ease all wounds but it will lessen your burden. Just take it day by day and you'll be fine.
2006-10-20 08:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day your heart will heal. There will be a lot of tears, anger and then one day you will wake up and be okay. You can't rush it, the heart takes a while to heal. Spend time with friends and family. Rent a movie that you know will make you cry, but only do that once. Don't ponder over things. Sometimes you just won't find the answer. Time heals all wounds. Don't find someone else to "rebound" with right away, give your heart some time first. Take Care.
2006-10-20 07:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another good reason not to date seriously in high school. School is for learning how to get along with people, have fun, and be more and more independent, while preparing for your future as a n adult.
You cannot think of 2 things at the same time. If you could be spending your time studying, and memorizing dates in history, then you couln't be thinking of lost loves or how bad you feel.
The statistics are that if you get your heart broken it takes 4-5 times as long to get over it.
For instance, if you were madly in love for 2 months, it will take 8-10 months of NO CONTACT to get over it. Madly in love for a year? 4-5 YEARS of no contact before you feel healed up enough to date again. Every time you talk to that person, you get to start your time over.
If you broke up with HIM, you must have a good reason. Whatever it was, don't second-guess yourself, and just keep telling yoruself it was the right thing to do, and then..
Take good care of yourself. Take bubble baths. Get your hair cut. Exercise-even if it is just a walk in the park. Eat well- no junk- and it will keep you from being moody and depressed. Have a sleepover with your girlfriends, play strip-Scrabble, drink crystal lite, and cuss. Spit out the window. Put a dollar in a jar every time you think of HIM! Take a dance class or learn to do origami. Anything that is fun and silly, and not about boys.
The point is to enjoy your single time, because very soon someone else will come along, get your attention and you don't want to miss out the fun with your girls.
You CAN get over a broken heart, but the secret is to take care of yourself- exercise, good food, creativity, and reaching out to others. Good luck, honey.
2006-10-20 08:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go out more. Have fun and do things that will make u forget about him for a while. I must admit, no matter what you do, you will never 100% forget about him, EVER. Depending on the seriousness and the length of the relationship. He will always be there as this .01% bug in your head. But not always a bad thing. It may be things that you've learned in the relationship. Each day will ease the pain. Everyday it will be less painful. You'll get through this.. TRUST me.. I've been with my ex for 7 years and we had a nasty quick breakup. I was devestated. The first few days, weeks was UNBEARABLE. But as quickly as it came, it left. You'll definitely get through this. Be strong. GL
2006-10-20 07:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can tell you is that you're right and that what you should do is try your best to find someone else that serves you better. But, if you feel that you can't get over him, go to him and try to work something else out. That's the best advice I can give you. And, No this is not a situation only you can solve, but you need to know what you want.
With all the love and care, your friend, Marlene.
take care!
2006-10-20 07:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by cvbabiekakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens just about to everyone hun. It suxs. Can't eat/sleep/think/can barely walk most of the time. I think it's the worst feeling in the world, and is almost worth avoiding relationships to avoid the break up. It's gets better with time, but there is no quick fix. Time is the ONLY cure. u can meet someone else and maybe distract yourself for a bit, but just got work though it. Eventually it will fade.
2006-10-20 07:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by ezrax7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience I can tell you it's possible and it's going to take some time... when I broke up with my boyfriend I was really depressed and even my hair started falling out... that whole thing took about 2 months and then I met someone else and now Im really happy again... .. you cant expect to get over him in 2 days, it's gonna take a lot of time.
2006-10-20 08:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by gabsters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, if a guy broke up with me, i wouldnt want to be his friend cuz i would think hes such a jerk, and yes its way hard to get over someone, i know what you mean, it really sucks, The only thing that usually makes me forget about a loser guy is going out with friends and hooking up with other guys, although Its not something I really want to do but it usually is the only thing that works.
2006-10-20 07:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is hard but it gets easier with time. First you have to ask yourself if you've accepted that its over. Then go from there because initially you're reacting with thoughts of the possibility of a second chance in mind.
2006-10-20 07:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋