The guy Im in love with left to go to basic training Aug.16, 2006. His eight wks is up now--Should he be graduating from basic. I thought basic training was eight wks, not more. Will he come home for Thanksgiving? I wrote him 2 letters already. I just sent the 3rd letter off yesterday. I was wondering why he hasnt responded back yet. He cant even take 10-20mins. to say Hi. What's up with that? We had intimate relationship when he left(not going together) "you know". Before he left, our communication skills wasnt good at all. He would mainly have these moody attitudes with towards me. Ex: I would call him--he answer the phone Hello, what u want. It's like he dont want anything to do with me. Most of the time he would ignore my phone. We have been intimate about 4X's. Wasnt I just a piece of you know what to him? Help!!!
2006-10-20 07:46:51 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. Attitude 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I hate to say it, but it sounds like this is a case of one sided love. You love him but he doesn't care about you. Your right, if this is his 8th week he should be graduating and you should have recieved a letter by now. The training instructors will give them time to write letters and encourage that they do. I know that you might not want to hear this, but it sounds like he was only using you for what he wanted until he left. If it helps you are not the only person this happens to. Alot of guys see this as a way out of relationships they don't want or that they have just gotten tired of. It honestly sounds like you could get someone alot better than him, and I encourage you to try. If you do, you will probably be happier.
2006-10-20 07:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you're freaking out this bad over a guy you screwed, but weren't dating, who then went to basic, you are not cut out for the military life, whether he likes you enough to keep you around or not. Good thing you're finding out now, that's one less divorce we'll have to throw into the statistics.
Think about it. He's in basic. Basic training is where they break down the minds and will power of the recruits and retrain them into what the military wants him to be. Once he finishes his actual basic combat training, for which there's a small ceremony and sometimes an amount of leave (vacation) depending on what job he signed for, then he'll have his advanced training where they teach him to do that job better. In the mean time, he's damn busy. And yes, if he wanted you to know when he was graduating, etc, he'd let you know.
2006-10-20 17:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, basic training is 12 weeks long. If you don't screw up. If you fail any of the tests or requirements, you get held back until you pass. Second, the recruits are only allowed to start writing and calling home after a certain amount of time. (At least that's the way it used to be) and third, if he's not writing back or calling, it's probably because he doesn't want to. You two had sex and that's it. That doesn = a relationship or love. Get over it. You're not cut out to be the girl of a military man anyways.
2006-10-20 14:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by rocknrobin21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was in the navy, basic is 12 weeks...we didnt get to write letters until 4 weeks into it, i only got to make 2 phone calls the entire time i was there...they dont get mail everyday, the drill instructors usually control when they can have mail passed out to them...yes, if you mess up and fail tests and just be a complete idiot, they will hold your butt back...
as far as how he acts to you, i am sorry to say, but he sounds like a jerk and is trying to blow you off...
2006-10-20 15:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in our lives we come across people who aren't worthy of us, and you have. If he was a lovely man who respected & loved you then he would have prepared you for his absence, and he most certainly wouldn't have spoken to you like that on the 'phone'. You sound very young to me. Put this idiot behind you, and start the search for someone who will treat you in the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-10-20 20:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't think he cares for you anymore. Go and find another boyfriend.
2006-10-20 14:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jim G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume he's gone to kill some poor people in Iraq/Afghanistan to make some rich Americans even richer, check the news for the latest casualties, he may be coming home real soon
2006-10-20 14:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
I'm so sorry to tell you this but, He's just not that into you.
2006-10-20 14:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋