I have been going out with this guy for 3 mounths, we have been on one date and i don'tsee him much out side the bus, i see him twice a day, evry school day. But reacently I have noticed we don't seem to be talking so earily and i think the *sparkle* has gone out of our relationship. I would also like it if he was a bit more physical, he gives me a quick peck as i get off the bus but i have only properly snogged him twice but i also seem to be reaching out to stroke his hair etc but I get nothing back. I still want to be friends though. I dated his best friend as well and it ended in the same way, is this what its going to be like with all my relatinships? I'm just really confused, he and I have thought about ending it before, just can someone tell me what to do...
2006-10-20 07:25:22 · 17 answers · asked by midgetryley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isnt as easy as it seems,
you obviously have feelings for this person, have you asked yourself where you see this relationship going?
Trouble is, we all get in this situation, honesty is always the best policy in my opinion.
If you really do feel a strong bond between you too then say so, if he doesn't feel the same , well , what have you lost?
Just ask him straight, is this a relationship or just a one off thing?
2006-10-20 09:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by sonia h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop dating friends. Maybe you are just looking for the wrong thing in the beginning of the relationship or maybe he want to take it slow or he's shy. You never know whats going through peope heads when in a relationship. If the both of you think that it would be better as just friends then maybe thats the way things should be. End things before it get out of hand and you end up hating each other and ruin a good relationship. So yall just have to talk and do what seem best.
2006-10-20 07:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me it died of natural causes, so you don't have to kill it.
Stop touching him, and stop engaging him every time you see him, and it will be buried.
If you'd like, ask him to talk privately with you after school, and then TELL him, you think he is a great guy, but apparently the spark has gone out, and so you are hoping you can remain friends, while you move on down the line.
If he seems crushed, or angry, you might say, "I don't know what you can do to change my mind, but you can try." Then be hard to please (not a bee-otch) for a while, and make him work for your attention. Guys like a challenge.
This would not be a good time to ask for his other best friend's number. Wait a few days, anyway.
Why should it be like this for all your relationships, unless you choose it? You don't have to sit around and wait for guys to break up or fizzle out on you. You can get fed up with not being paid attention to and tell them to take a hike. Or you can quit hanging on them and giving them attention after they have cooled toward you, so you don't look like a needy, sex-starved tart.
YOU PICK!
Stand up for yourself, and don't let any guy who is supposed to be in A RELATIONSHIP with you, get away with ignoring you and not talking to you. Pecking you instead of dating you.
Break it off yourself, because you deserve to be treated well. Even if you don't think you deserve it, you do.
You don't have to be mean, just tell him you think it is over, and hope he has a nice life.
You only want to remain friends so he won't be mad at you and talk ugly about you, right?
Grow a backbone, and love your time and attention, and give it to people who are worth it.
2006-10-20 07:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like whatever you're calling it, you already are just friends. A peck every day barely counts really, but there is nothing wrong with that... just talk to him and if it can't be sorted out then go back to being friends, soon enough you will meet a guy who clicks with you more, and then it'll be easier (slightly but with a whole set of different problems.)
You sound quite young anyway - plenty of time for passion with guys.
2006-10-20 07:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha Im guessing your around 12 years old. If you think a "realtionship" consists of sitting next to eachother on the bus.
This is nothing serious. One day, you'll grow up, and learn what its like to be in real relationship.
2006-10-20 07:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him first, coz maybe you could work somethin out. thats if you still want to be with him of course. and next time you get to know a boy make sure he is what you want before you jump into a relationship, that way it is more than likely goin to work out better. people will always say "you guys are not meant to be together" or " he doesnt like you" but think to yourself "are they involved in my relationship?". the answer is no!! you will know if he likes you or not. talk first because it could make the world of difference
2006-10-20 07:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen here it sounds like there embarrassed to be seen at school with you in front of there friends school has a major impact on your relationships because alot of people are embarrassed of what people think when you get out of high school you wont have that problem good luck
2006-10-20 07:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by whynot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT MUST HURT, BUT I THINK U SHOULD PROBABLY JUST BE FRIENDS. RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE A LONG ROAD TRIP: THEY CAN BE FUN BUT SHORTLIVED; THEY CAN BE LONG AND BORING; OR WITH THE RIGHT STUFF ALONG THE WAY THEY CAN LAST FOREVER. TRY TO SIT AND HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH THIS GUY. TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. IF HE'S THE RIGHT GUY, HE'LL WANNA WORK IT OUT.
2006-10-20 07:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood the logic of being friends, in fact I always went out of my way to piss my ex-girls off so much that they never even wanted to be my friend. It's fun you should try it.
GOOD TIMES
2006-10-20 07:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ross B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on he doesnt seem to know what he wants
he just wants to say he has a girlfriend.
get rid and dont worry about it
2006-10-20 07:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋