I feel so much sadness and stress over my ex boyfriend who dumped me and this has been going on for months and months now. I wish I could believe I will get over it... I wish I could believe that I'll meet someone better (I don't believe that AT ALL). I'm sounded like a really broken record and I'm just tired of it. I feel so wounded by the way he treated me. He was the first guy that I ever had a real connection with and he wounded me so deeply. How do I let it go?
2006-10-20 07:23:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take things easy ...
it seems hard for you .. I believe it .. but you'll find your way to your happy relation and happy life if you only be rather patient ..
good luck.
2006-10-20 07:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by horras 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to dump the idea that you are defined by your boyfriends. Boyfriends are to be viewed as accessories to wear with the outfit when the mood suits you and to be donated to good will when they no longer compliment the outfit. Enjoy the memories of good times and go shopping for a new accessory, as needed.
Too many relationships start great and end badly. If he treated you badly, "... wounded by the way he treated me ...," then it will be easy to find someone better.
Sounds like this was your first love. That's why they call it your first love. It implies more to follow.
2006-10-20 14:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wounded you deeply and you say you don't believe you'll meet someone better ?he wounded you deeply and you are stressing over him ?what,you want more of the pain he caused ?what exactly do you miss ?sounds to me you should be thank ful that he is out of your life with your life and now you can really start to live.you women who say you love a man who has treated you lower than a dog confuse me b/c i thought when a person treats you shi**y,you hate them and when a person treats you kindly you love them so how can you love someone who treats you bad ?get up and get over that zero and put on a new face and a new set of eyes and find you a hero.
2006-10-20 14:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you're having such a hard time. It is VERY painful. It took me a good 15 months to stop pining away for my ex-boyfriend who, by the way, treated me like crap the whole time I was with him. It will get better, I promise. Just give yourself some time. It might take a year or more before you start feeling better.
2006-10-20 14:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurt you that bad, than you are better off without him.
There will be others - trust me.
You deserve to be happy and to do that you need to let go. It's completely normal to feel the hurt for awhile and that's OK - just let it pass in it's own time but until then find a hobby and enjoy doing something for yourself.
It's all about you and you need to take care of yourself first before your ready to care for someone else again.
I wish you the best.
2006-10-20 14:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may i guess who old are you? u sound like a desperate-teenager-who-had-her-first-heartbreak.
chill out girl! ive been like that before with my 1st bf. and i told myself i will not and can not love anyone like i did with that guy. but hey now, i dont remember the love that i had with him. i remember the boy but i dont remember the feelings anymore. im happily married and has 2 wonderful kids.
time heals all wound. thats love, u really gotta experience the pain. so that you will be overwhelmed by a new love.
yes new love. look around you. and in time u'll be laughing yourself remembering that u once said that you wont meet someone better. beleive me...
smile! frowning or crying will make u ugly! your price charming is on look out. do u want him to see u like that? well, damsel in distress? why not?
2006-10-20 14:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by johannea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One Night you'll wake up and ask yourself, what in the world am I doing to myself. Start going out dancing or whatever you like to do. Everyone if they really cared about someone goes through the same situation, you'll get over it and then you'll laugh at yourself because they are not worth it.
2006-10-20 14:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it...girl!! It took me two years to get over my ex....even thou I was the one who dumped him. But believe me, you will find a man that will make you as happy as you deserve and will be a million times better than the last one. You just make sure of that!
2006-10-20 14:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Italianissssima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of the relationship. It will be hard but in life you have to move on, you can't keep hanging on to exes!! dont worry you will bounce back and some day you will say "ex who?" :)
2006-10-20 14:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by BaybeeMacc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal but try hurting for five years that is how long i took to get over my ex and now i look back and think what was wrong with me!! don't be like me just move on what's done is done it's his loss and not yours!! and you will find someone new it just takes time and when you do your going to be wondering how you wasted so much time hurting over what's his name!!
2006-10-20 14:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL TAKE TIME. LETTING GO IS ALL IN THE PROCESS OF IT WILL TAKE TIME. CRY IF YOU WANT TO, YELL IF YOU WANT TO, OR YOU CAN WRITE DOWN ALL THE HURT AND PAIN IN A JOURNAL FOR ONE WEEK. THEN YOU WILL READ IT AFTER THAT WEEK AND BURN IT NEVER TO FEEL THE PAIN IN THAT JOURNAL EVER AGAIN. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-20 14:28:43 · answer #11 · answered by rika_mama06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋