is there any way to make a guy want to be with you? I'm not talking about sleeping with you, but want to have you in their life on a more serious level? There's a guy i'm into, and i know full well he's into me, but we're really just taking things slow right now. Is there anything I can do to reassure him that i'm not going to hurt him, and that i do want to be with him? any ways to make him feel the same for me?
my apologies for sounding like a 12 year old girl, i'm just really confused right now.
2006-10-20 07:11:10 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him that you want to be with him and nobody else. He will respect you for that and his feelings will grow stronger if you do do that. Just explain how you feel and reassure him that if he is really serious about wanting to be with you but you want to take it slow that he's the only one you want and nothing will ever change that.
2006-10-20 07:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by The Plague 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to force anyone to be with you, but since he's into you already, just be yourself, so far it's working, right? Don't put to much pressure on him, this might scare him off. Relax, and take your time. The only way you can convince him you won't hurt him or anything, is by not doing it. Show him your taking your relationship serious and are not there to fool around. My boyfriend was scared to death to get into a relationship again when I met him, it was pulling teeth. So what I did was play a little hard to get (even though I was crazy for him) this is like a game for them, a thrill to get what is hard to get. Cook some delicious dinner's (he's 30 pounds overweight now), and always look good around him. Good Luck :)
2006-10-20 07:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing it right, by taking it slow. All you can do is show him that you adore him by having fun and a positive attitude. When I met my man, we had both ended a long-term relationship and had a good amount of time we weren't with anyone. We took it slow and discovered that we were on the same page with everything. It developed into the deepest love I've ever known. Yes, at the beginning it's confusing but in the long run, if you can be patient, it will be worth it.....for both of you.
2006-10-20 07:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sista, I've been around for a while and there is nothing you can do to reassure a Man that you is not going to hurt him! Just tell him that you will take it one day at a time! Hey... He might hurt you! Enjoy each day together and discover one another. You don't sound stupid to me, you just needs some answers. And no matter how old we get, we will never know everything!
2006-10-20 07:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, just start moving a little faster. not a lot faster, mind you. if he backs off, slow down a little. show him how much he means to you by your actions, and a few words. do you love him, or is he just a good friend? think about that as well. don't forget that no matter how old you are, you still have your whole life ahead of you. you can't force someone to have feelings for you, but you can find them, just be careful. go out to a movie or something, just don't force anything.
2006-10-20 07:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by kiatzu_shutendo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really cant make a guy wanna be with you but you can be there for him and tell him how you feel as well as share your feelings with him and see how he responds or if he feels the same way.I would also say to preceed with caution becuase i was in a similar case and all a sudden he like snapped on me and changed up on me and told him he wouldnt date me and gave hints of similar cases where some girls tried to hang around him as friends that really liked him which kind of pused me away though i know he had problems but the best thing to do is BE YOU!and if he doesnt want to MOVE ON!! SO YOU wont end up in the mess i did being totally torn by it because i got too close...good luck
2006-10-20 07:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give time the time to make you closer. You know men behave that way, because he may be aware of the fact that you want to get serious. Just pretend your are also having a great time and don't force things. If you play uninterested he will feel jalous and take you seriously.
2006-10-20 07:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by Rosita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, show him that you really do care for him. If he had a bad day, ask him about it. Then listen and add comments when needed. He will probably do this for you too, and you both will know that neither one of you wants to hurt the other. That's how me and my gf have gotten along for so long. (3 years next tuesday!!!)
2006-10-20 07:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can reassure him by not forcing, demanding or "making" him feel things for you that he doesn't feel yet.
You're saying "Trust me not to hurt you but I'm trying to MAKE you be the way I want you to be." Doesn't work that way. Time and patience and acceptance works.
2006-10-20 07:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll just have to give him time to trust you with his heart. Just be you. There's not a whole lot that you can do to reassure him that you won't hurt, except to accept him the way he is and be there for him when he needs you.
2006-10-20 07:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋