when your with a person for a year and a half and it is obvious that you are not happy in the relationship, why does it hurt so much to end it? i dont like the pain, i'm not trying torture myself. i know that me and him arent getting along but i just cant stop thinking about him and wanting to be with him. Am i crazy?? i know this sounds crazy but i do love him and i am in love with him but we just argue so much and it's stressful on me. i'm confused...dont know what to do...
2006-10-20 07:08:22 · 13 answers · asked by girlwiththegoodies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it. If he feels the same and you both want the relationship to last then you both have to work on it. Falling in love is easy staying in love is the hard part.
2006-10-20 07:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by kirkan1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I used to go through this same thing with my (now) husband when we were dating 5 years ago. Now we argue but it's not as bad as it was back then. I used to hurt and feel like he was just making a fool of me.
I love this man and he clearly loves me. Everyone knows it too because we show it. Not say it but show it.
Men don't develop feelings as soon as we do with the women that they date. Some men. Talk with him and see how he really feels about you. If he doesn't care about you, then he's not for you. But if you feel deep down within that he does really care about you, you can tell...Stick with him until he matures. It will get better. Just dont' be anyone's fool. I find that most women seem to fall into that category. IF you want to talk more, email me. I want to help if you are really serious.
2006-10-20 14:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not crazy at all. I'm going through the same thing. Just dont see him for two weeks or so and it will wear out over time. Meanwhile, just go out with friends and do activities that would eat your time away. Focus on school and all things that would be beneficial in the end. Belief me, a right guy is always around the corner. Just be patient and pragmatic
2006-10-20 14:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by savio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be blunt with him and ask him whats the 411 with you and him, does he still have that magic he had for you when you all where 1-3 months when he treated you like a princesses. Or is he in the stage where he is used to you so he keeps you for show and tell. Be true to youre feelings and tell him you want to chill for a while. And by that I mean to break up with him and date other people and if you still feel the love go back to him.
2006-10-20 14:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a therapist to work it out. You guys went through a year and a half. Thats a long time. You guys manage to stick through it somehow. There are just major differences. Find help, and if he's worth keeping around, he'll agree to seek therapy with you as a couple.
2006-10-20 14:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk things threw, things like this are so hard, there me be a simple solution to all your arguing, if you are both serious about making this relationship work you could see a therapist who can help get to root of the problems, if not you need to move even if it hurts, if he isnt willing to meet half way to make things work its best to get out now before you spend anymore time hurting each other
2006-10-20 14:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Brooklyn and Owen's MOMMY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to tell u the truth i was in the say spot as you a while ago what u need to do is let go even thow it was hard i did i cried till i could hardly breath and i mean i almost cried my self to death but i stoped blaming it on me and i stop picking on my self i thought i was ugly and not worth nothing and i asked god every day to take him out my heart cause i was sick of hurting and one day god should me me and he showed me i was beautful and so i felt beautyful and i got back i the game now i have a man that treatz me like a queen and it may be hard to get use to but you'll make it keep smile n
2006-10-20 14:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by jasma b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i have been there. Its hard to imagine them with some one else and vice versa. But in the end its hurting you more to drag it out. End it, it will hurt now, but later you'll be much happier
2006-10-20 14:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by RANDI B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime removing yourself from the situation for a while helps
2006-10-20 14:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make it work but if you cant then don't force it when it is time to end ill happen by itself....best thing to do is be prepared . .... sorry i couldnt help you that much,,,,,
p.s if you trully love him the way u say then make it work but you can't do it yourself he has to WANT to make it work too....
2006-10-20 14:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by vihii k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋