I bought a new house in August. I live out of state from my sister and she's a real estate agent. She offered (and brought it up) that she could act as if she was referring me to an agent (even though I already had one) then get me back a portion of the closing costs. Well, that all worked, and my realtor actually gave her a cut of the money knowing that it would actually come back to us. Well, my sister hasn't returned any of my calls for a month and is obviously avoiding me and now I know that the check was cashed over a month ago. So I guess she decided to keep the money for herself. I would never expect her to do anything like that. What do you think I should do?
2006-10-20 07:06:23 · 19 answers · asked by coconut 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She has acted in a selfish way. The love and affection and the will to sacrifice for each other, which exists between sisters when young and growing, is all gone when grown up and managing own business that too real estate. You keep quiet for some time. After a while send her a card on her bithday or anniversary or some occasion. You watch her reaction. If she responds then you can resume your relations. What ever she may have done, she is your own sister and it is not wise to cut off relations.
2006-10-20 07:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all the time spent on this world you will never have another sister. I know that that sounds trite. But check it out honey when the chips are down will it not be your sister that will be there for you. Family is forever money is not. Go ahead and forgive her what can it hurt. I know that a lot of other users are telling you to forgive and not forget. True forgiveness means to not hold grudges so you must forget as well.
2006-10-20 14:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by robert s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly forgive her, she's your sister, and money is not a reason to terminate a realationship with her.
Maybe write her a letter, letting her know that although you would like her to hold up her end of the deal, you are concerned that she may be in some kind of financial trouble, and should just simply discuss with you the situation.
2006-10-20 14:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to her house when you know she will be home and she can't avoid you and confront her. Tell her if she really needed the money all she had to do was tell you, not lie to you. Maybe she was in a really bad situation and doesn't want you to hate her so she is hiding it from you. Just talk to her when she can't avoid you. heck if you have to even call her at work. She would have to answer the call at work!!!
2006-10-20 14:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by softball_chic35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well consider that maybe she needed the money just then. In other words, give her the benefit of the doubt. Hopefully you didn't misunderstand her communicating that she could make a referral to you. Are you certain she indicated giving you a portion or all of the referral money?
2006-10-20 14:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her. She is your sister. Maybe she needed it for something and was afraid to ask.
But I do know this Money is never worth the loss of a sibling.
2006-10-20 14:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should totally confront her. If she lies to you about it, let her know that u know the check was cashed and then leave it at that. If she had to cross u behind your back then obviously she needs the money more than u do. What goes around comes around.
2006-10-20 14:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by theborg76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her. (Of course, not aggressively or accusationally.) Ask her what happened to the agreement you'd made (there might be an explanation for her behavior!). She can't avoid you forever. If the situation appears to be bridge under the water and she won't pony up what she owes you, it's just a lesson learned that you can't trust her. Good luck!
2006-10-20 14:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jemma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget, maybe she desperatly needed the money and was afraid to ask. Don't let money ruin a sisters relationship.
2006-10-20 14:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sue K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL... so your sister was being sneaky and acting as if she was referring you when she wasn't in order to benefit in a way that she shouldn't have been...and you're saying you "never expect her to do anything like that." LOL You mean it was ok for her to be sneaky if YOU were going to profit, but since she burned you in the process, you're surprised?
She's only doing what she's always done, isn't she?
2006-10-20 14:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋